Dude,

How DID you initiate the sex?



While I'm waiting for a reply to the first question, let me point out. If you initiate sex, she gives you an excuse like I'm tired, (which sometimes mean I'm not in the mood) don't fucking kiss her then say good night. You know what's going through her head when you said that, it'll be something like, "yeah.... thought so...." Every time she tells you "I'm tired" to have you say good night then roll over and sleep, she has become conditioned by you. When she is conditioned enough to predict your actions before you even do them, you have become predictable my friend, and when that happens.... boredom usually emerges.

If she tells you "I'm tired" and you do what you do, that doesn't show that you're considerate or loving. It shows her that you want her, but you're not man enough to take the lead, because you said she usually initiates it right? If she usually initiates it, and when you took the lead, she's not used to that. She's afraid that she's not going to be satisfied because things aren't going her way. That's where you have to come in and be a man, and be like, you know what? You're my woman, I'm a man, and I don't give a fuck if you want to do it your way. I am going to do it my way, my style, and you will love the sex as much as I do. Don't tell her by words, show her this by your actions. Go in there and tame her. When she sees that you can resist her like that right after she gave you an excuse, she will feel unattractive and not desirable. She will think, "wow.... he just acted like that when he just tried to initiate sex... did he not really want it?" She'll question herself by your actions. Don't ever.....do what you did again. That puts out the wild fire.

If it's not too late, I want you to initiate sex again, but before you do, please tell us how you go about doing it. As for her excuse, I don't give a fuck what her excuses are.

My gf used to tell me, "I'm tired baby...." and you know what, I understand she's tired. I know she's being honest about it, because she has a long day in class, and the professors a douche. I know she's tired. but you know what? I'M NOT TIRED! I want to have fun, and I can't let her go to bed not touched and not satisfied. If I let her go to bed without experiencing a little touch of heaven then I will feel like I'm not doing my job as her man and my manhood is going to be questioned.

You know what I do? I say, "awww, okay babe. Go to bed, I'll give you a "massage" " I'll give her a massage, but not the kind that puts her to sleep, the kind that will make her hot. I'll do it veeeeeeeeeeeeeeery sloooowly. I'll tease her, I won't touch her in the sexual spots, breast, pussy, etc. I do it on the safe spots, but very sensually. Sometimes I don't even do massages, I just lay next to her, and start stroking her back with my fingertips. Touch her!!!

She might say no, but her body will say yes!!! Action speaks louder than words. If she says no, but her body is responsive, and if she tells you that she's tired, and you touch her and not push her too hard and she lets you, my friend, it doesn't matter how tired she is, she is turned on, her panties wet, and she is wide awake right now. You will notice by the way she breathes by the way she twitch, you would just know. This is when you stroke her more firmly, smell her neck, tell her how good she smells, show her that you're not afraid of being a man and show her that you can please her sexually if she lets you. Seduce the woman!!!!! Don't be the one to initiate the sex though, you initiate the foreplay, which is basically initiating the sex, now you gotta wait for her to make her move.

And when she fucking jumps you like a wildcat, because you've been tugging a yarn in front of her, sex will be crazy and it will be beautiful my friend.


Don't think too much, just be in the moment. You don't have to follow whatever I said word for word, but I want you to see an example of what to do. If you are in the moment and your objective is to please her sexually and tease her bits by bits not to feed your ego but because you HAVE the desire to please your woman, she will fucking love you!

I can guarantee 100% and no money back!

Trust me, and I am still waiting for your answer to my question.



- Nelson

I've tried massages, rubbing hands in soft places and even on naughty places, truth is I get no response. Maybe that's where i went wrong, maybe her not saying anything was allowing me to con't. But I'm not a guy that says, "screw it, no response is better then nothing;" if i was like that then why not fuck a dead body or a girl in a coma(not trying to sound weird just making a point that I want some reaction). In a resent discussion with her she said she is not a "touchy feely" kinda girl and it seems either A) I have to man up and say we are Doing this or B) she doesn't fully trust me yet for w.e reason. Any advice is welcome guys.

You know what I do? I say, "awww, okay babe. Go to bed, I'll give you a "massage" " I'll give her a massage, but not the kind that puts her to sleep, the kind that will make her hot. I'll do it veeeeeeeeeeeeeeery sloooowly. I'll tease her, I won't touch her in the sexual spots, breast, pussy, etc. I do it on the safe spots, but very sensually. Sometimes I don't even do massages, I just lay next to her, and start stroking her back with my fingertips. Touch her!!!

She might say no, but her body will say yes!!! Action speaks louder than words. If she says no, but her body is responsive, and if she tells you that she's tired, and you touch her and not push her too hard and she lets you, my friend, it doesn't matter how tired she is, she is turned on, her panties wet, and she is wide awake right now. You will notice by the way she breathes by the way she twitch, you would just know. This is when you stroke her more firmly, smell her neck, tell her how good she smells, show her that you're not afraid of being a man and show her that you can please her sexually if she lets you. Seduce the woman!!!!! Don't be the one to initiate the sex though, you initiate the foreplay, which is basically initiating the sex, now you gotta wait for her to make her move.

And when she fucking jumps you like a wildcat, because you've been tugging a yarn in front of her, sex will be crazy and it will be beautiful my friend.

Hi guys so its been a month or so.

I must say the first few weeks after I started doing things like this it was great was getting a few bj's a week and the sex was getting pretty damn good again. things were really looking on track.

But over the last 2 weeks things have gone drastically downhill. We still get on great generally during the day. Laughing and teasing, picking her up and playing around. Ill be stroking her and cuddling surprising her with little kisses behind her neck but as soon as we get to bed she instantly turns. We will cuddle then if I start to stroke her or anything she will say 'stop it im sick' then Ill say 'awww babe turn over ill give you a massage' then she will get really angry and say 'leave me alone i'm trying to sleep cause i'm sick' and move as far away from me as possible.

Little bit stuck as to why she switches to cold and angry as soon as we get to bed but seems great during the day?

On a side note we also had a argument the other day where I told her off. She later that day bought me home a coffee and apologized for acting like she did