Everyone thinks we're dating... but in reality we aren't. We act like couples, hold hands, flirt, kiss, go on dates. But there's one problem...

She does not want to get into a relationship. I just turned 17, and she just turned 16. She is a mormon, pretty conservative, but she likes me a lot and I like her a lot as well. Her not wanting to get into a relationship has nothing to do with her religion, but rather her sister's past boyfriends, she said that her sisters all regretted dating at 16.

Soo... what do I do from here? I really want to have her as my first gf.

Continue as you're doing. Escalate like you would with any other girl. Very soon, the "frame", the pressure, that everyone's thinking you guys are boyfriend/girlfriend... She'll soon come to believe it, even if it isn't defined. The frame of society here is telling her that you guys are in a relationship. She's thinking something along those lines already, I guarantee it.

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Now how must I go about it? Treat her as if she's my gf? I'm going on another date with her this weekend, anything important I must do? I kino a lot anyways

Ive been there, I can give some good advice but I think you have to play it right. Let me know what you think of this theory:

1) She is basing and judging you on her SISTERS past boyfriends.. Me saying that: does that sound fair?

Solution: You tell her she isn't giving you a chance at all. Her sister decides who she wants to date and tell her she is already smarter than her sister by learning from her mistakes and that you should choose the guy who won't make the mistakes. THIS GUY IS YOU.

2) Be distant, you focus on you. She isn't really letting you in her life, I personally don't think she is giving you a real chance, it could even come across that she doesn't want people to think she is dating you. NO! Thats not how it is. It should be a PRIVILEGE to date you.

Get that across, that message. For a girl to date a guy like you, its them who are lucky, its not her who decides whether she wants people to see you two together or not.


3) if youre brave, lay it all on the line

Games number 1 rules: To keep the girl, you have to risk loosing her.

Tell her, either have me all or none of me

what you think

Your already doing everything couples do...why put a label on it?

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I agree with him. Be the selective not the selectee. Don't pressure her into anything though, just pretend you don't care.

Hey I agree with most of it, but she is letting me into her life, but it's kind of at a very slow pace.

I just had a good 30 min convo with her parents the other night, while she was getting ready.

If I do become even MORE distant, will her attraction for me fade? Will she stop liking me? I was going to not call/text her this whole week and see how that goes.