| Hi all,
I'm new to this forum, please see my introduction in the respective forum section!
Here we go for my first field report...looking forward to your feedback!
I'm 30yo and in consultancy, went on a small congress yesterday and held a short lecture there.
There was that HB8 that took photos of the congress, let’s call her P8. And two HB 7 and 8.5 who brought the microphones to guys that had questions – let’s call them M7 and M8.5. M8.5 was the target for today. All girls mid-twenties.
After the congress, where I held the last presentation (enough DHV I think) we went out and I brought my bags to the hotel. M7 and M8.5 stood there with some guys in the same age group. Girls kept on talking and looking other direction, boys gave a look and nod, I returned nod and a smile and went on – biting my a** that I did not take the chance to chat, presuming they would leave soon altogether. It just did not feel right – I had no connection to the boys, and I did not want to approach the girls directly.
Chance I missed: I could have accessed via M7 and connect to the rest of the group quickly to show non-neediness. FTC not necessary as I was apparently on my way to the hotel.
When I returned 10min later, I was sitting with some businessmen in a open air restaurant, and the group with the HBs was on the table besides. I looked for a way to get out of the boring conversation and get over, but their table was stuffed, all seats taken, would have looked very needy. When the tables broke up, the girls were gone, but I opened the guys and got into a vivid blah conversation. I found out that they are all employed at the company that made the event happen.
Soon after that we went over to the champagne reception of the dinner, standing around in groups. M7 and M8.5 joined, they had apparently been at the restroom and had put on loads of parfume. I mostly ignored them, except from a nod when they arrived and the cheers when the first round of drinks was brought, where I gave everyone a look in the eyes and an open smile. The conversation was full on blah again with this one guy from the group who was pretty dominant.
Chances I missed:
- Another alpha looking guy in the group with a hot GF sent some conversation IOIs that I should have taken – major fault of the evening I think, so I was limited to this single blah guy
- I played the “ignore the HB” game too long – a short and neutral “what’s your relation to this event” would have been better:
oThis way I also kept increasing my already very high value and did not adjust
oBy only talking to the guy I assumed that their story/job is less interesting – disqualifying them as the “microphone whore” even more – although they work in the same company as the guy
We went in for the dinner and P8, the photo girl, took the place left of me. This was not planned. She was playing me pretty directly (spare the details), and even started to KINO. I hit the brakes, too much in this environment. And from what she said during the conversation, she was a little naïve and posh (killer combo) and had some troubles with her job and family. Not for me, thanks. She asked for my Business Card so she can send me the pics of me of todays event and I gave it to her. Nice entertainment anyway.
As soon as the tables started to break up, I went straight over to the table with the group of boys and girls (M7 and target M8.5) and opened by re-engaging into the discussion with Mr. blah guy. The girls were sitting next to him and giggling like crazy. I planned to approach them after 5min of blah, but they left even before that. I had no chance to wait for the target's return, as I had to leave for a date with an old friend after five more minutes. My goal in this move would have been to exchange some words and a positive vibe, and get connected via some social network to pick up the thread later.
Chances I missed:
-Again, not talking to that other alpha guy, and getting better position in the group
-Waited too long to open target or M7, given the fact that the group already “knew” me - timing was too optimistic, given the real time constraint
Thanks for reading - what do you think?
TBolt
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