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ME:i should get going to sleep as well
(12:06:47 am)HER:ok well ill talk to you another night perhaps
(12:07:05 am)ME:ok
(12:07:08 am)ME:sounds good
(12:07:15 am)HER:maybe we should just meet and fuck too!
(12:07:20 am)HER:sorry to be vulgar
(12:07:25 am)ME:hahahaha
(12:07:37 am)ME:hmmm
(12:07:47 am)ME:usually i require dinner and a movie first.
(12:07:50 am)ME::p
(12:07:59 am)ME:do you want to?
(12:08:09 am)HER:hahhahaha thats not how the internet works i thought ha ha
(12:08:11 am)ME:wow
(12:08:15 am)HER:imm joking
(12:08:22 am)ME:yeah
(12:08:32 am)HER:but a hint of desire just to do something like that
(12:08:42 am)HER:but probably dont have the guts
(12:08:43 am)ME:I never have before...
(12:08:49 am)ME:yeah me neither
(12:08:50 am)ME:too nice...
(12:08:53 am)HER:neither have i!
(12:08:59 am)ME:i dunno
(12:09:15 am)ME:i mean...to be completely frank..
(12:09:18 am)ME:sounds kinda fun...
(12:09:24 am)ME:but i would be a little nervous
(12:09:24 am)ME:haha
(12:10:02 am)HER:yeah it might be too wierd
(12:10:04 am)ME:hey you know what
(12:10:08 am)ME:fuck it
(12:10:13 am)ME:life is to be experienced...
(12:10:22 am)ME:i wouldnt mind doing something crazy now and again
(12:10:45 am)ME:if you are interested i may make a dinner and movie excpetion for you
(12:11:01 am)ME:i mean.
(12:11:04 am)HER:oh my
(12:11:12 am)ME:to be honest, more than sex, just to hold somebody right now would be nice
(12:11:23 am)ME:sex isnt terribly important...
(12:11:26 am)ME:but it can be fun
(12:11:42 am)HER:aww so sweet
(12:11:50 am)HER:do you wear cologne?
(12:12:05 am)ME:i have cologne for special occasions
(12:12:08 am)HER:because i cant handle scents!
(12:12:17 am)ME:see thats the awesome thing
(12:12:17 am)HER:just to let you know!
(12:12:23 am)ME:i actually dont have to wear it
(12:12:30 am)HER:thats good!
(12:12:39 am)ME:haha
(12:12:58 am)ME:where abouts are you?
(12:13:03 am)HER:i like you know like natural smelling stuff like aveda or whatev, but anything too strong nno way
(12:13:11 am)HER:im in BLANK, you?
(12:13:12 am)ME:blech...tell me about it...
(12:13:16 am)ME:BLANK
(12:13:23 am)HER:BLANK?
(12:13:31 am)ME:right at the bottom of BLANK
(12:13:59 am)ME:should I drive out to you?
(12:14:00 am)HER:huh
(12:14:12 am)HER:UM
(12:14:15 am)ME:sorry
(12:14:24 am)HER:sorry to be internet trite bu OMG
(12:14:32 am)ME:hahaha i know right?
(12:14:34 am)HER:no dont be sorry im getting all excited
(12:14:38 am)ME:im like blushing..
(12:14:44 am)ME:its disgusting
(12:14:45 am)HER:yeah me too
(12:14:46 am)ME:haha
(12:14:48 am)HER:hahaah
(12:15:25 am)ME:could this actually happen?
(12:15:36 am)ME:Im...kinda interested...
(12:15:48 am)ME:and we aint getting younger i suppose
(12:16:08 am)HER:i.. am too. but yeah um also i know i brought it up but its strange
(12:16:17 am)ME:fuck it
(12:16:20 am)ME:im down if you are down
(12:17:03 am)ME:well we both got out of relationships...so i guess it kinda makes sense
(12:17:11 am)ME:I might need to know your name regardless though
(12:17:16 am)ME:cause i dont think you told me
(12:17:49 am)HER:im BLANK
(12:18:50 am)ME:thats a pretty name
(12:18:55 am)ME:i dont hear it very often
(12:19:19 am)HER:thanks
(12:20:15 am)ME:not a problem
(12:20:35 am)ME:you know that rushing feeling of excitment
(12:20:39 am)ME:right in your chest?
(12:20:47 am)ME:im kinda had that haha
(12:21:18 am)ME:shall I come by?
(12:21:45 am)HER:its so scary! i want to say yes but im hesitant!
(12:21:54 am)ME:if all else you could just show me some of your art
(12:22:08 am)ME:and we could just meet...no pressure..seriously.
(12:22:30 am)HER:welll
(12:23:05 am)HER:ok....
(12:23:17 am)ME:ok
(12:24:28 am)ME:haha this is wild...
(12:25:04 am)ME:i should probably get your address..
(12:25:18 am)ME:or a cross street..so you can peek out your window and see if i am who i am
(12:25:35 am)ME:haha
(12:26:00 am)HER:UM
(12:26:30 am)HER:ohhh i am really turned on right now but also i have NEVER done something like this before
(12:26:43 am)ME:neither have I...
(12:26:59 am)HER:i actually dont think i can!
(12:27:02 am)HER:im sorry !
(12:27:11 am)HER:i started the conversation and everything!
(12:27:19 am)HER:lets talk again another night
(12:27:22 am)ME:its fine
(12:27:27 am)ME:i understand
(12:27:36 am)ME:it would have been fun though..
(12:28:50 am)HER:you are really cute and i would love to have you but.. loke? so confusing.. circuits in my brain.. no comprende
(12:29:09 am)ME:there is no need to explain
(12:29:13 am)ME::)
(12:29:38 am)ME:I have to say though. It would be fun to share a kiss.
(12:29:54 am)ME:anyway
(12:30:25 am)HER:yeah it would be nice
(12:30:52 am)ME::)
(12:30:57 am)HER:and to lay down together and be all nevous giggly
(12:31:01 am)HER:nervous
(12:31:12 am)ME:haha
(12:31:19 am)ME:that sounds pretty dang fun right now...
(12:31:41 am)HER:i want to im about it but i feel like im being a tease
(12:31:49 am)ME:no no
(12:31:52 am)ME:dont worry about it
(12:32:04 am)ME:if its meant to happen, it will happen
(12:32:19 am)ME:a cuddle buddy would be awesome right now though..
(12:33:13 am)ME:haha oh god my heart is beating kinda fast
(12:34:11 am)HER:you are so cute in the pictures of you with a tie
(12:34:19 am)HER:i love dressed up guys
(12:34:25 am)ME:haha thanks
(12:34:47 am)ME:well
(12:34:54 am)ME:i should head off to bed soon
(12:35:07 am)HER:OK
(12:35:12 am)HER:i feel like a winp but
(12:35:23 am)HER:wimp
(12:35:43 am)ME:HER NAME..
(12:35:50 am)ME:I would love to kiss you tonight
(12:36:00 am)ME:but only if you are comfortable with it
(12:36:05 am)ME:no worries
(12:36:52 am)HER:i need to be careful to not make myself an emotional wreck
(12:37:21 am)ME:ach...i know that feeling..
(12:37:55 am)HER:i am realllly turned on
(12:38:08 am)ME:im there with ya
(12:38:30 am)HER:maybe another night soon, we can get started a little earlier
(12:38:57 am)ME:meh
(12:39:16 am)ME:im pretty busy this week
(12:39:24 am)HER:ok yeah
(12:39:29 am)HER:well sweet dreams
(12:39:30 am)ME:i mean
(12:39:33 am)ME:to be honest
(12:39:39 am)ME:right now...is kinda perfect
(12:39:45 am)ME:and I dont usually make crazy decisions haha
(12:39:54 am)ME:i think we would really enjoy it..
(12:40:02 am)HER:ok, well you can message me another night
(12:40:08 am)HER:im sorry to get you all riled
(12:40:11 am)HER:goodnight
(12:40:17 am)ME:good night!
(12:40:19 am)ME:sweet dreams


What happened? Can this be salvaged for another night?

last minute resistant. She'll be back next time tell her you changed your mind You don't want to have sex, you just want to give her a massage and enjoy her company. Tell her how great your massage is ect ect, but insert some sexual tension

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I notice its mainly you seeing about 3 or 4 messages before she responds once and you are really pushing for it. You seem to eager and its probably because it was late at night and you are too focused on a SNL. SLOW DOWN. build trust, comfort tension and anticipation. It was late so the odds were against you for a start. Does it have to be a SNL? as long as you get some who cares when it is? Turn a risk into a sure thing!


A massage may still be a bit to 'full on'.

Ask to meet up and go for a walk. Sit down chat a little on a bench/coffee shop whatever then Make up an excuse to go back to yours.

'I was going to ______ you should come and join me.'
'Its kinda chilly, lets go warm up'

I have set up my bedroom so I can watch TV in bed and have no TV in the living room. I stick on a movie jump into bed invite her to sit next to me pull the covers over snuggle up run my fingers through her hair then kiss her then hint about a massage etc or just start turning her on with your hands.

I usually ask 'Is this OK do you want me to stop?' and they ALWAYS say no and because I do this early on when it comes time to LMR Its 'Do you want me to stop?' 'No'