I am only 20 years of age but I have learned one thing about life. Our life is a road where good and bad experiences occur and from which you learn and educate until you become the wise old man with grey hair. Imagine having his knowledge now

My ex-girlfriend cheated on me twice (kissing different men) during our relationship which lasted 2,5 years. I went into the relationship with "yey Im going to use this relationship to learn how to become good in bed." Needless to say I developed feelings for the chick and quickly became an AFC (should have followed Hobbits advice here).

During our first two years I was really bad in bed. Premature ejaculation was a big problem for me and I guess her sexual frustration made her cheat on me (even though I could satisfy her with fingers and tongue). The second time she cheated on me I broke up.

We continued to have sex after the break-up since I could satisfy her and I, after several months of training, developed the ability to last as long as I want in bed, even continue for round two and three After a few sex-sessions learning this ability she said "I have kinda missed this sex..."

It´s been a few months now and we still have sex but as I painfully experienced it is impossible to have sex without getting emotionally attached (i.e I went into this relationship only to become good in bed, but obv it didnt work). So basically I have two options now. Important note; if I where to scale the both of us she is a 8 while I am a 4 so she is very popular at bars while I am not unless I get to know the girl...

1) Continue to have sex (so basically friends-with benefits)
2) Stop having sex. Move on.

What would you do? I have got so many good advices from this site before and for once Im going to follow them (hopefully).

I know for a fact that if we continue to have sex I will continue to develop sexually (just finished the sex god method for the second time) but on the other hand if she hooks up with someone else being drunk I WILL NOT HANDLE THIS.

So what to do???

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Well the way I see it is that :

1. You could continue having sex and become better in bed, but get more emotionally attached to a girl that has disrespected you in the past. So while you get better in bed you may also be hurt again when she hooks up with someone else. Or

2. You could stop having sex. Move on. If you move on you may get a girlfriend who will respect you and it's not bad to get emotionally attached(not to much though) and you will still develop sexually.

Or you may have more than one friends with benefits type relationships which, in my opinion, you will develop even more sexually(I gather this is what you're after) since you have more woman to please and will learn something from each one.

So you could stay with her and hope she doesn't hook up with someone else and since she's not dating you(you said she's your ex so correct me if I'm wrong) there's not much stopping her.

Or you could go out, have a fun time, meet more girls and enjoy life. You said it yourself in the title. Life is an experience.

First, you get better at sex faster by experiencing multiple partners. A guy who has slept with 10 women a total of 30 times will have way more tricks up his sleeve than a guy who has slept with 1 woman 30 times. Sure, you can get better to a degree with one person, but then later on down the line, your multi-platinum super-tweak finger technique that made your ex squeal doesn't do jack for the girl you've got your fingers inside of... and in your mind you're thinking, "WHAT AM I DOING WRONG I DON'T GET IT WAAAH"

Second, she didn't cheat on you because you weren't satisfying her. That is just your rationalization of the matter. She cheated on you because you weren't satisfying her... AND because she doesn't have the self-esteem to dump a guy who doesn't cut it. If you get into this situation again (where, for some reason or another, dating you isn't exactly what she wants), she is going to cheat. Again.

That said, I'm glad to hear you building that self-confidence. That is a good feeling. But you're young, man. Go explore. Don't try to make an honest woman out of a chronic cheater. I can't promise you're not going to get cheated on again, but I can virtually guarantee that if you date enough girls you're going to find one that blows the socks off your ex, AND she won't cheat. That is a win-win.

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