Hey guys, long story short-

i chatted up this girl in the smoking area of the club, she was sitting by herself, to be honest i was drunk so i cant remember, but i do remember she was interested and leaning on me and getting touchy, kissy etc....we spent a good 1 hour talking to each other...we had a few drinks together.

Anyhow, i got too drunk and so did she, i went to the toilet and came back to a handful of guys trying to pick her up.....i cant really remember what happened exactly but i was asking her wtf was going on?? but she seemed to be enjoying the attention.....so i walked off and that was that?

im like that- i have too much pride and tbh, i know i got something good to offer and i was better than those guys so her loss not mine i just left. i didnt want to join the group of douches like a pack of dogs over a piece of drunken meat so i left!

Anyway i felt bad for ditching her the next day, so i smsed her and said hey its me, u get home alright?

she replied quite quickly and said yeah im alright, im going to this bar tonight...

i then replied yeah i'll be out but havent decided where yet, might see you there.

Anyway i didnt end up going to that bar to find her cause i had other things on...and ive been thinking about it.....id actually wouldnt mind to get to know her, she's heaps chill and i dig that...not to mention shes pretty hot.

Anyway, im wondering if u guys think i should send a msg to her? and if so what should i say? or should i wait for her to send me a msg(she probably wont) and if she does then thats a green light to gogogo!!! or should i just not contact her at all and if she doesnt contact me leave it to fate and i might run into her again at the same place.

any help would be greatly appreciated....its frustrating for me cause i get looks in clubs, and i can chat girls up no problems, but the issue is trying to seal the deal.

Thanks guys

First of all man I think you learned an important lesson here Don't get drunk while sarging I made that mistake myself in the past ha. I wouldn't say you blew it as she did tell you she was going to a specific place and she could have just blew you off. maybe give it a day or two and then hit her up with a text.

I would jump in immediately. She's already missing you cause you didn't show when she invited you out, a minor rejection, so give her some pull to go with that push. "Holy shit you'll never believe what happened last night!!! We have to meet for coffee today and swap stories."

took your advice guys...messaged her today

me- hey how was that place? i was stuck somewhere else god it was shit!
her (instant reply)- it was empty, pretty shit!
me- haha do u always go to those places?
her (instant reply)- i only go cause my friends want me to go with them
me- yeah same, anyway we should meet up for a quite drink sometime when we're both not so drunk haha

then she didnt reply...is she playing hard to get or just not interested? either way ball's in her court now.

was that messaging ok? or could i have done better?

Cheers guys

"so drunk"=embarrasment, regret, acting stupid, maybe she thinks she was acting slutty that night.

I have learned my lesson with club pick up to watch my wording and topics in conversations the next day. Drunk girls don't like to be called drunks.

Call her if you think the interaction went good. Texting sucks and resorts in alot of lost interest. Some younger "party" stage girls will only meet you out in social places like clubs though. They are usaully not experienced with going on "dates", so you may have to bite the bullet, casual meet her at another club and re-mack to build her comfort and attraction. It's like another first interaction that might lead farthur then the actually first interaction. Double the work but sometimes neccessary.

Good luck, let us know how the story ends.

I don't like it. I'll put some notes in bold.
Good luck on this one, but even if it doesn't work out, fun learning experience and there are so many more to come!

Thanks for all the awesome feedback guys.

All points taken- don't get too drunk, be positive and make it out you're having fun! Don't remind the girl how wasted u or she was!!

I honestly think I'm a pretty cool guy and she sees that and that's pretty much the reason I left her in the first place cause she was sponging attention from other guys after we'd been hanging for a while maybe it wasn't her fault just too drunk! But I thought her loss not mine and left!

Anyway even though this case is probably a loss it's also a big win. I'm getting better and better at approaching and can actually hold a meaningful conversation with them.

I guess balls kinda in her court if she wants to meet she can take me up on my offer? In the meanwhile I'll move on the next victim!!

Good attitude dude! You'll only get better from here.

And even if she doesn't text back this time, doesn't mean you can't text her again in 2 weeks, she'll probably answer, especially if there's some memorable inside joke you can reference. Keep at it man!

EDIT: By the way, here's something to help your mindset next time a girl gets entangled with guys: Make it part of the game. Nothing is more attractive to a girl than a guy who can walk up to that sort of group and dominate it. Instant and incredibly powerful social proof. Next time, walk straight up to them, put your arm around her, say "What's up babe?" then reach out to shake the most alpha guys hand and introduce yourself. Guys will fall into line after that shit, it gets so much respect from guys who aren't tools. From there it's smooth sailing.

thanks for the encouraging words, im so glad i got you guys on the forum, ive come a long way since i found this forum and i have a long way to go, but i can really see the improvement and hey! you only life once and you're only young once!

slip n slide when you say i can message her in 2 weeks, what would you recomend i say? thats assuming she ignores my offer to meet up etc

cheers