Are you supposed to flake on your girlfriend as you would any other girl?
I'm new to relationships haha.

Also, is it okay to show your affection for her?
Her and I were cuddling/kissing/other for an entire night, and I was wondering If I was supposed to still play hard to get, even in that situation.

1. NO. Why would you intentionally flake on someone you care about?

2. YES. Please show affection for your girlfriend.

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No. It is not ok, in any circumstances to show any direct affection towards the women you are in a relationship with.

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Relationship isn't pick up.

The only thing that is has in common is building attraction. You should keep on doing that.

This includes that you shouldn't say "i love you so much" 50 times a day. It is not attractive.


Which doesn't imply that you can't show affection.

Being in a relationship should go fluently. It's not a science. Just go with the flow man. Just keep your emotions in check.

Being in a relationship doesn't mean you stop playing the game.

I'm not saying you should cheat on her and have other girls, but remember that girl likes you because of the game you pulled on her, so if you stop acting like you did when you met her, and start giving her all your attention and being always for there and all that shit then she will probably lose the atraction she has for you.

You have to keep playing the game to mantain a relationship.

There's a reason she liked you in the first place. If you gamed her to get her, don't stop gaming her altogether. At the same time, don't block her out asif you two hadn't had made an intimate connection, otherwise she'll feel like that connection wasn't real/was only transient. Game her in the sense of "don't lose specific aspects of what you've learnt that made you into the person you are".

It's for questions like these that I like to remind people that the pua community is about self-improvement, ergo you are not flitting between two personalities but rather frames of mind. So, basically you improved yourself - show that person to her. Don't be distant just because you think it's the right play to use from time to time. Don't follow a gameplan anymore either. I find that in my relationship (she knows and loves all the pua stuff I've told her) it's easier if you just communicate more to see what each other expect from the relationship. Then see if there's a cross-over path where the relationship can continue down.



Hope this helps dude!
GrifterUK!

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Just posting to express how great the advice is here, i understand everything you guys say its just not as easy for a guy like me to see it until someone says something

The game stops when she becomes your girlfriend but certain elements, such as creating sexual tension, can / should continue. Texting early in the day to make her horny, teasing her when kissing, dancing. Talking about sex to get her horny. These are all tactics which will lead to explosive action in the bedroom.