Ok so this is a weird ass story...

So I am 19 and in college. I just had sex for the first time. South american girl, pretty hot. Fun, she thinks Im hilarious and so on we have a great time.

I think I would have been laid before 19 but it embarrasses me to say, I was a pretty devout christian (i live in the bible belt south, i had believed in pretty strict sexual morals) up until 2 months ago when i started reading books that use SCIENCE instead of fake crap. Also I am a commuter student so I live at home but im actually moving out on monday, which is good.

So that's who I am, that's the backdrop. I have been hanging out with this girl for about a week although i had slightly known her from before i found out she went to my college a week ago. So today we go get frozen yogurt and go to a movie. I have been incredibly stressed out today b/c of a bunch of stuff. We come back home to my house and even tho my parents are asleep in the next room (who would extremely disapprove) but we start getting it on. One second i am talking and the next she is like taking off her clothes. I wasn't even hot or anything and were getting going without any foreplay or me making sexual references. I cant tell you how many times i have imagined this and masturbated to the idea of having sex but tonight i just couldnt get hard (even though it was my first time!) Finally i get hard but only for a few minutes long enough to bang her and cum. And can i just say when i was licking her vajajay i almost gagged! it didnt smell bad or anything it just seemed gross. I know this is weird and I am embarassed to post some of this but i had to get it all out.

Also i think it is worth noting that i used to masturbate a ton but lately i just havent been feeling it and am only masturbating every couple days. Maybe i am missing vitamins in my diet or need to go see a doctor. Also i masturbate by humping something which requires your penis not to be real hard so maybe thats a problem and i need to start rubbing or stroking. TMI, i kno.


So i am happy to get laid and i hope to give her a better time next time. But i am really bothered that i was a little bit bad at it... anyways...

I think it's actually normal that you couldn't get hard. I bet that you were just nervous and thinking about things too much. That happened to me the first time or two I had sex but eventually it just went away and I started enjoying it more. I'm sure if you keep banging her you'll have no problem getting hard in the future.

Yeah, same thing happened to me.

So basically

Talk = ??? = Profit

So there was no sexual tension yet you two had sex? Seems sketchy, care to elaborate how it got to the sex. Perhaps the problem lies there.

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Maybe it's because she's South American? lol

So you thought licking her vagina was gross, you had no sexual tension, and you couldn't really get hard? Sorry bro, your gay.

Just kidding man. In all seriousness, I could barely get hard the first time I had sex when I was a teen too so I know how stressful that can be. I can assure you it is completely in your head.

dude that is why she needs to suck your dick first. That'll get you hard

My first time was with a 36 year old woman. She sucked my dick and drank my cum. That was freaking crazy. She then told me to eat her pussy. I had no clue what I was doing she just got off on her own.

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Thanks for all the feedback guys. Ok i really thought about it and here is what i came up with. For me, i discovered my libido depends a lot on the amount of muscle building exercises i do.

3 weeks ago i was doing p90x every day and eating a ton of food and was like masturabating/orgasming 4+ times per day. But i havent been doing muscle building exercise much lately (i still do alot of cardio), ive dropped a couple pounds and felt like masturbating only once every couple days. i didnt even realize this was happening until my 'problem' a couple nights ago. Sometimes i would try but couldnt even orgasm without a lot of effort.

to test this hypothesis when i realized this yesterday i immediately did 50 pushups and some arm exercises for only 3 or 4 minutes. Bam! i start thinking about some hot chicks and have a great masturbation session without any trouble getting to orgasm. What a relief! after a snack, i did it again. how great is that. I woke up with a pretty strong morning wood this morning and i am actually going to start doing p90x with my friend tomorrow morning. so i am really excited about this discovery.


in response to the questions about sexual tension i can see how she probably felt it b/c i do talk about sex a lot but there definitely wasnt that flirting foreplay, it was like normal conversations. I think it is probably just cuz we are in college and this kind of thing happens in college. Although there was no alcohol involved or imo sexual tension, i actually think that since i was wearing pure instinct phermone cologne she couldnt help herself hahah. serious/ly go to amazon and check into buying phermones


anyways.....

What is that all about? Don't do that!! Why has no one addressed this

It's nerves. More sex will eliminate this. Keep sexing her and you will become more comfortable. When I first starting doing the nasty with my first GF, hundreds of years ago, the performance of my wang was horrible for about a month but it got better.

and yes same thing happened to me the first time. you are not alone