Hi everyone.

Just new on the site and recently divorced, so after a period of not really doing anything I'm feeling the urge to meeting women again.

I've been on plenty of fish and about 40 women have checked out my profile. I've emailed a couple, but I find it difficult compared to face-to-face contact, and a lot of exchanges just fizzle out.

Anyway, I emailed one girl who checked me out with a line I got from here. "I saw you checked out my profile,I don't bite you know." Now this girl didn't have a picture and to be honest I'm just using her as a bit of practice.

So far the exchange has gone like this.

Me: I see you've checked out my profile, I don't bite you know

Her: Well, I don't bite either.

Me: Ha ha, what's your name?

Her: Sara

Me: Hi Sara, why haven't you put a photo up?

Her: Don't like to because of work reasons.

Me: I understand, are you originally from Madrid*

Her: yes, but I work in Granada*

* I'm in Spain, and this is as far as the conversation has gone at this point.

So, I'm at this point. Now, this girl could be ugly as sin, but as I said I'm doing it for practice. So what do you reckon my next step should be. Obviously I need to get a picture sent to my email address if she doesn't like putting them up on P O F.?

Steve.

Ask for her facebook. If she's a fugly she won't let you have it.

That would really be the easiest way and is a safe logical next step. After talking on there go for the phone number and then meet up and then kino the shit out of her and then bring her back to yours and then fuck her brains out.

Cool mate, will do.

Mmm, says she's not on Facebook....

Make her think she's disappointed you, and has to redeem herself. Something like

"That is SO not cool. Now you have to send me a photo"

You might be more creative but that's all I can think of

Just as for her to send her picture to you via POF, why ask for facebook?

So, I said, "it's hard to imagine what you look like without a photo..."

next message from her "I am ugly"

you have to laugh.

Note to self, never email women who don't have a photo.

Some of the hotter girls don't have a picture for obvious reasons, so I won't stop sending messages to profiles without pics, just ask for one within the first couple of messages, if you get an "I am ugly" reply then move on to the next girl.

Top advice Jurupa. Thanks.

Messaged three women last night.

i used to write something really random like, I got a helium machine in my garden and then write where is your favorite place from childhood?

Interesting rashi.

Got one bite so far. This girl is 22, i'm 37!

She's an 8. She's got an exotic, intellectual look going on.


In the message heading I put "kudos....."

and in the message" that's quite a cool look you've got going there"

she replies "thanks".

So, what next? If anything. If you get a reply is that generally the start of the game, or not always?

Killing a few birds with one stone.

1. You get the picture you want
2. You get her to invest in you ('Well I have already given him my facebook I'll give him my phone number since its not as big a deal')
3. Yeah get more women on you're profile to DHV with
4. You get ugly chicks :p (not all the time)

Think of it this way, instead of saying 'WOW i really like you give me you're facebook' (Giving her the power) you can instead come across like this. 'Hmmm I'm not too sure about you what's your facebook so I can figure you out.' (Frames the interaction where she is qualifying herself to you)

well done steve

Personally i would not let that put me off, it could be a test, namely do you like her for her personality, everyone likes to know they are valued for who they are and are not just a piece of eye candy, if you see what I mean.

Especially if it’s just for practice, I would plough through this objection, something like “it’s good I prefer personality over looks then! Haha, But seriously you haven’t got facebook, or a picture, are you sure you’re not some 90 year old man called Bill” or something along those lines.
If you get a reply it means she is either:
a) Interested
b) Been compelled to respond by your message.

Adam

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Thanks Adam, as I compelled her to respond my opener was quite good then?

This girl has a really good profile, mine is just ok. Going to revamp it tonight and get back to this girl.