These past few days, I have been sifting through the General Questions sub-forum and I find that there a lot of questions.. or doubts.. in the minds of men about women who have boyfriends. At some level, they seem to always be in some kind of turbulence about how to deal with that piece of information. So, I saw something happening around me and the feelings which that stirred up, could be applied to pick up. So, this was the analogy I came up with.
Now, a foreword.
If you are the kind of man who would respect a woman's romantic entanglement with another man and would like to leave her alone while she deals with that, and instead pursue unattached women. Good luck. But, this is not for you.
This is written for the men who have that discomfiture inside them, that "she said she has a boyfriend, how do I approach that" thought process swirling in the back of their heads.. this is written for those men. You know who you are.
Now on to the topic at hand..
I want you to imagine something, you have just spent an afternoon at a public place, maybe a mall, a movie theater or a restaurant. Now, you walk outside after enjoying your time in there, and you enter the parking lot. You can see dozens of cars there, all shapes and sizes, but you search for yours. And it's simple.. you don't own the rest of the cars, so why bother looking at them.
You remember your car and where you parked it, and you walk up to it. And you see..
That.
Your Ford. Your trusty, reliable, comfortable car. Parked right in front of a BMW. Now, you might say, "Oh, I love my car. It's been with me through so much. It's nice and economical. I'd not trade it for any other ride on four wheels." But, when you see that Beemer parked in front of you, with those trademark headlights which just scream mystery, those sleek lines, that famous blue and white logo which tells you that this is NOT an everyday car, you cannot help yourself and wonder what if..
What if you had the keys to that. And it wasn't your Ford, but a BMW which you could drive everyday and everywhere. But, then you think about the price tag, the cost of maintaining such a car blah blah blah.. and then, you insert the key into your Ford and drive away. The thought of that German engineering marvel fading in proportion to the miles you cover away from it.
BUT, what if..
What if the BMW opened it's doors for you? Just like that, like some magical act, the keys appeared in your hand and there is nothing stopping you from jumping into it and ride off.. into the sunshine. Or wherever.
Would you think about your Ford? Be honest with yourself. Would you even care about that old car of yours, which some moments back you proclaimed to be "in love" with? No, you wouldn't.
That's how women can be sold on to you.
You are the product. Not them.
She might say how happy she is with her boyfriend, how nice he is, how much she has been through with him.. and all that romantic non-sense. But, the truth is that it doesn't matter.
If she knows that you're a big step up and you can offer her the choice that 'Yes'.
Yes, she can be with you.
Yes, you can belong to her.
Then, why would she ever stick with her Ford? That will be forgotten.
So, remember, if you are a man so high in value, that she thinks is out of her league.. and you just give her a hint that maybe she just can afford you. She will come after you. She will come after you like the Tomcat that she is.
But, like everything there is always a catch..
If you are NOT a BMW, then she has no reasons to trade in her Ford for something of an equal or lower value. Why would anyone make that effort to settle for something which has that same amount of worth anyway?
But then,
"You are what you think you are."
So, next time you hear a girl saying that she likes her boyfriend, or that she has a boyfriend and she's happy, just smile and tell her ,"That's good for you, if you wanna get somewhere. I'm for when you've already arrived."
Game on.
CHAT
