Hey guys. Straight to the point, something happened last night which opened up my ego but I need reassurance on how to take it.

A friend I used to know was having an 18th birthday party which to my knowledge I didn't recieve an invitation. Upon knowing this I got my phone and texted him, asking him whether or not I was invited. He replied no and that he didn't want me there. I replied with cool and wished him a happy birthday and that I hoped he'd enjoy his first legal night out.

I am fairly confident that I reacted in a suitable way there but I am at war with what I should do in future encounters with him. It's important to note that although I did act indifferently to his decline, internally this has revived my old egotestical self. On one side I feel that I should step up and do the same thing if he ever asks if he can come to one of my parties. Whilst my more intelligent self is saying that my unconscious is just telling me that I am feeling this way because my standards weren't met and instead I should welcome him in style, buy him a drink and ensure there were no hard feelings.

I would just like reassurance on the latter. I am focusing on being successful and well composed with others while disregarding any old negetive behaviours that have limited me in the past.

Thanks guys!
Much love

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"We are what we repeatedly do. excellence therefore is a habit and not an act."

First off, I wouldn't ask him if I was invited directly. These things, you've got to find a way around to know them ( indirect conversation).

But now, the deed is done, no holding back in the past.

The way I see things, there should be no hard feelings and you should let him come to your parties UNLESS he said the whole "no, you can't come, I don't want you here" in a meaningful way.

Try to reach him out for something and see if there's any attrition there.

Cheers

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"What we're doing is so wrong, and what you're wearing is so right (it's so tight!). But I've never felt better, so I'm going out to get her and I don't care what set of wheels I steal to get there."

listen man, you don't have to be angry about it but fuck that guy hes not your friend. cut him out