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Hey again I clearly dont know how to handle this situation in the best way. She is going to call me tonight she says to talk this trough so there are two ways for me to handle this either i take the blame like little panda said or i stand up for my rights and be dominating.
If i take the blame i would have to say something like that its my fault for.even considering doing what i did and it was stupid.
Being dominant would make Me say you wanted me to come, and because of that you were ok with sex at the moment it clearly was something u wanted. There are no excuses for our actions because they speak for.themselves.
You misunderstand. What I'm trying to say is that we are guys, and women will blame us for many things to avoid feeling guilty. This holds true ESPECIALLY for sex. Say a woman tries blaming you that sex occurred between the two of you. What do you got to lose? Nothing. Your friends won't call you a dirty whore and then turn their backs against you. Her friends just might.
My point is, by taking the blame I am NOT saying that you tell her "It's my fault, I'm so sorry, buhuuu" - I'm just saying, let it happen. Tell her "I was clear with my intentions when I was coming over. I told you I was going to hit on you and it happened. It's also probably continue happening because I still like you. If you don't want to be a part of this, I will understand."
So in other words, simply state your intentions again and let her understand that last time you had sex was because you wanted it. No problem with that. You're anyway supposed to be the one that makes it happen, right? You're the man here. That's what I mean with if she blames you for it - don't fight back. It's alright, because it doesn't affect you in any way and it doesn't matter for you, as a man, WHY the sex happened.
As simple as that.