Agree with Slip n Slide. but disagree about where you lost it
but i think you lost it here
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Me: I understand , and I admire you for not wanting to go into something if you're not 100% about it, and it's not stupid to be hung up on your ex. I think we've all be there eat some point or another. I hope you know I'm not trying to rush you or pressure you or anything. Do I want to date you? Yeah, a lot! Haha . But I'm not the kind of guy who's going to force myself onto someone. I am willing to wait and if you tell me to get lost I'll respect that too. Haha.
Mistake #1: believing the ''you're awesome and every girl want to hang with you blablabla
BUT I *some bs* blablabla ... Sorry, Bye.'' this is the most common line girls use to escape awkward moments with nice guys!
Mistake #2: Complimenting her even though she just rejecting you! I know you thought it's gonna work, but it didn't! complementing works wonders if it is a reward for indicators of interest, touching you, ect...
Mistake #3: you are responding to EVERY SINGLE WORD SHE WROTE. women are socially intelligent, if you do that, she knows you're giving her too much value.
Mistake #4: "Do I want to date you? Yeah, a lot! Haha" asking her to go out with you is waaaay to enough. saying that will not score for you. She didn't ask you! if she did just say "Yeah" or ANY FUNNY comment.
Mistake #5: Using ''I hope you know'' showing her that you care so much about what she thinks!
Mistake #6: ''I am willing to wait'' demolishes your value! ''if you tell me to get lost I'll respect that too.'' DON'T EVER SAY THAT AGAIN you will respect her for disrespecting you.wha?
Mistake #7: Showing interest in a needy way. ''you brighten my day'' ''make me smile just by texting you''
I know I'm harsh. i was just like you last year! trust me i know what you're feeling. Trying to get that beautiful chick, so you trying so hard not to make her uncomfortable, you try to make her smile and never ever say something bad to her, you value her and then devalue yourself.
I was just like you!
but i tried not appearing needy and trying to devalue girls throw teasing and minor neg's changed my life, not only with girls but everything!
Don't ever try to make girls feel good! Tension on her side is good for you. when she send's you a text. wait a day and respond!
she said ''Awwwww'' she says this when she see's a cute baby too.
these mindsets helped me alot:
''I'm going to talk to this HB, tease her about how she's acting like a little girl sometime or whatever and value myself''
''I am always talking with girls using the same way 'being too nice', but i'm hoping it's gonna work on this one...WAIT... ah i'm always messing it up and it won't work,so let me try this one, if it doesn't work, no big deal because in both situations it's not gonna!''
So what you actually need to do is, play high value, by not being needy and too nice (there are more advanced techniques.) and devalue her through playfull teasing and negs. she will try to value her self to you.
i would recommend David De Angelo stuff. self improvement oriented. start small, and begin with, How not to be a nice guy and how not to APPEAR needy. (i said appear because you can't change the way you feel instantly but the good outcome will through time).
Hope this helps.
Her: Lol sorry didn't mean to steal your thunder. I'd love to hang out with you or whatever but I don't want to give you the wrong impression, I'm still dealing with a lot from my past and I don't want to go into something not 100%, that's horribly unfair. You're an amazing guy but I'm still hung up on my ex (as stupid as that is) and don't want to hurt you.
Me: i understand.
CHAT
