Well I a need your two cents on my dilemma

I've been dating my gf for the past 5 months. We met in Vegas at a club, and developed our relationship when I was away. When I came home we really took off and our relationship has been very fulfilling, we are very much alike, we complement each other very well, very solid relationship and I am honestly thinking she might be the one and after doing my trial period with her I will hopefully eventually marry her...

Then there is this,

She just graduated college, was part of a sorority (whorority) and I always knew she has had a few threesoms with mostly two guys. Yesterday we were talking about past sexual experiences and she seemed like she wanted to get this off her chest. (sts) So she basically tells me she has had a few sexual escapades in her life and when I asked her what they were she goes into a list of things she has done.

One was dating a guy back in school and one day she went over to his house with another girl roommate, when they got there his buddy was there too. So they had a few drinks and her bf buddy basically shmoosez her into going up stairs, one thing led to another and she ended up getting railed by her bf friend. When the guy she was dating comes up to the room with her roommate she is having sex with that guy and has a conversation with her bf and her roommate like nothing was out of ordinary. Her roommate and her bf hooked up downstairs that same day.

She also told me that she was attending a friend’s birthday dinner at a restaurant and they had one bathroom that was unisex. So she got up to go to the bathroom to pee, and she opened the door on some guy in there and one thing led to another and she gave him a bj in the bathroom.

Now this is probably the strangest part about why I am talking about this, I am very turned on by this but at the same time I am very bothered by it. I kind of blew it off last night but its been irking me the wrong way the entire day.

My sexual experiences…
So basically I got married young at 20, was married for ten years and got divorced. My sexual experience was very limited when I got married the first time. I was only with three women and my X was with 14 guys, so throughout our marriage that bothered me a lot. Now after I divorced a year and a half ago I really took opportunity to be a bachelor and brought my number up to 13. I thought I was good to go but I feel my ego has taken a hit because I am with someone that is ten years younger than me that has had all these crazy sexual experiences and big part of me feels inadequate.

Overall she is an awesome girl she comes from a great family, She is very loving, cares about me tremendously, thoughtful funny, very goal oriented and is going places in her life is very loyal to me and never plays games or tries to make me jealous but I am just having a hard time over looking this piece. Should I just say fuck it and overlook this or do you think I am ready for a relationship knowing that it might bother me long term that I am with someone "again" that is more sexually experienced than me?

simple.

we all love sluts.

just not being in "relationships" with sluts.

it is quite a dilemma.

this explains your mixed feelings.

you are turned on by this chick, who has done these blatantly "slutty" things.

yet you are troubled by the fact that you may be courting a slut.

what to do? what to do? lol

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Hahaha Mack I can always count on you for a laugh. Well in all reality you are right but these days this is not too often rare. More and more girls have their slutty days especially in college where they are exploring themselves, their limits and other cocks lol but I am just more concerned that the fact that she has more experience (crazy experiences) than me will always bug me. Don't get me wrong I did well last year, I had bunch of one night stands in Vega and even close to pulling off a threesome. I was laying naked on this chick with my dick knocking on her back door but she stopped at last minute. But yeah It just buggs me, I am just wondering if I should be the bigger man and not let this get to me?

Gotta love the sluts!

i've been there.

and i understand exactly what you are experiencing.

i still experience it with someone who has more experience.

it raises all sorts of questions.

will i satisfy her?
am i missing out?
will she always long for more?
is she trustworthy?
is she going to start fucking other random people?
is she who she portrays herself as?
is she really relationship material?
and so on...

yeah, i get it.

let me know when you find a cure.

until then, for relationships, i stick with women who haven't had crazy group sex.

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

Yep.

I wonder also how old this girl is?

I mean, she can be very loving, caring, sweet, funny, etc. But is she mature? Is she independent? Those are characterics which I specifically look for when committing with a girl.

If you don't feel "stable" in the relationship, you might do better by moving on. Cause probably this feeling will never go away.

Personally I don't care that my gf is more experienced than me. In fact I love it! She teaches me stuff...very good stuff But that's me and if you have a problem with it, and you think you won't really be able to overcome this, you better move on. At least for now...

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