| In normal, non-gamer society females do the qualifying. It's men that are 'on the market', and each individual woman is out 'shopping'.
A single woman is usually 'considering' or 'juggling' several options, and each time she is approached, that's a new option.
You may have noticed that women seldom give feedback. Just like several applicants being interviewed for a job, or actors auditioning for a play, the interviewer isn't going to bother voicing the actual thought process of qualifying each applicant.
Who wants to hear about how they did not get the job?
Imagine:
"Well applicant B, I see you have some good skills but applicant A is better than you for this, this, and that reason."
This would introduce considerable stress to the qualifying, choosing process.
In fact, on those rare occasions that feedback is offered, it's a favor to the applicant.
The main stress factor to a girl that's out flirting, is having to worry about hurting the feelings of those several men that she will NOT choose. So she will always prefer to make the final choice discreetly.
Growing up, females will develop a pretty good poker face to put on during the qualifying process. The rejection will finally come not by action, but by the lack of it.
Reverse The Dynamic
Be that rare man that draws his target out of her dull reality. Demonstrate that you are qualifying exactly in the same way she normally would be. Be it consciously or unconsciously, she will immediately recognize the behaviour.
To pull this off effectively it must be done in two phases.
First the elusive "what is he thinking?" reaction to whatever quality, or lack there of, she is displaying.
And then the subtle surprise afterwards. Such as a freeze out.
Maintain the frame that she has said something or done something that was not up to par with your standards, and you are actually mostly concerned about how to not hurt her feelings as your interest wander elsewhere.
If done correctly, you'll see that expression on her face "OMG I just blew it! Wow who is this guy!?!"
Act as though you had gone into a pizza shop, looked at the menu, and decided you were gonna elsewhere for lunch.
How often do you hear someone standing in front of the counter of a food joint, only to say: "Hey i'm sorry actually I think I feel like chinese food today. Your pizza is looking a little meek. SOrry"
No, you just politely leave.
Treat every woman as though she is but one of many open pizza places within walking distance.
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