So she hangs out with her guy friends all the time sometimes just her and a guy they go on dates to the movies and other shit that she wants to do. I used to kind of care but did not show jealousy, now i really dont care we just got together (3 weeks) so who am i to handcuff her. I really dont have many friends that are girls i have girls phone numbers in my phone that want to bang me, who i call and hang out with just to show my girl that i do have other options there if need be. We have sex almost every minute of everyday so i know that the passion is there and im not worried that she is looking for something new. So how should i go about handling her always wanting to hang out with her guy friends?

By the way my money situation hasent been the best she has always known that.She sees that i have good things (jobs) coming to me in the future, the guys that she does hang out with take her anywere she wants to go and have good money.IDK Maybe she is just a hustler.

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Three things about how you should look at things:

1. She has all of these guys friends, but she has chosen YOU.

2. If she wants to cheat, she's going to cheat. You don't need to sit down and have a chat with he about any of this. She knows cheating is wrong, and if she wants to do it, she will do it. If she doesn't want to, she won't. Nothing you do or say will change that.

3. But at the same time, she's going out with her guy friends, and even you call it a date. It's clear it's bothering you. Having only gone out for 3 weeks, the way you are handling it is appropriate. (I'm assuming you guys are exclusive?)

Yes

I love your input man

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I think you need to start thinking about handcuffing the chick, especially if you are exclusive. Women don`t have male friends. Think about every female friend you have or have had in the past...How many of them have you fucked, tried to fuck or wanted to fuck? See my point? She`s not hustling the friend, she`s hustling you.

I just ended a relationship like this yesterday. Lasted 4 months. I do recommend reading it, full story here: hb-95-quick-fix-needed-pls-help-vt91400.html

She was a tester, and really hot too. Most of these "friends" turned out to be fuckin orbiters, secretly in love with her. They were just waiting for the opportunity. Or have been waiting for it for years. She also cheated on me with one of her "best friends", among others.

Also she was seeking validation all the time and she could get it from these guys. She had almost no female friends because most girls cannot tolerate such an open girl.

To make the long story short, I must agree with Mr_Amazing: But I think if you handcluff her there is a good chance that she will want to break her chains... maybe in months maybe in years. Get to know her better, hope this is not the case.

I read your full story.

Sorry to say, but you F-closed a girl in 6 hours you've met her. She fucked over 20 guys while she's only 22, goes out partying 2/3 times a week, stays in touch with every ex and flirts with every guy she knows. I count already 5 red flags.

And you are going to tell you started a relationship with that girl, after which you state here how girls with male friends could be a dangerous situation? Sorry dude but the only one to blame in this situation is you, and you probably know it by now.


In my opinion, girls can PERFECTLY have male friends. Come on, you never had any friend who is a girl without having sexual intentions? I personally had a bunch. And those girls didn't had any feelings for me either.

Besides, IF one of those guy friends has intentions for her, he will probably never show it (we all know how difficult it is showing sexual intentions while being the "friend") and if he does, the chance of her rejecting his move are very, very, very high (friend-zone you know, apart from the fact that, with a bit of good luck, she is an HONEST girl).


Being suspicious can be good, but please don't drive it too far.

The idea that men and women can't be friends is usually a point of view held by the insecure or immature. Keeping men and women seperated that way is SOOO outdated. It's totally healthy to have platonic friends of the oppiste sex as this makes you better rounded and better with the opposite sex.
Since you don't really know this girl well yet you can't know for sure if you can trust her. You'll learn that with time but if you try and keep her from seeing guys that she's been friends with long before you were in the picture you don't have a leg to stand on. I don't see any good woman putting up with this. Don't be insecure, if she cheats on you then she's not worthy of you anyway and move on, her loss. Just don't get too attached to people that haven't EARNED a place in your life and proven themselves worthy.

Blah, blah, blah....Try this. Call up one of your "platonic male friends" (call the one who is a "cool guy" not the dorky one) and confess to him that throughout your friendship you had always been sexually attracted to him but was afraid to act on it...until now. Then invite him to your house for no strings attatched sex. Then report back.

So what?

Guys will always want to fuck girls. The point is that the reverse doesn't hold, concerning friends. See post above.

I get it. SHE may not be fucking THEM or want to for that matter. But that still looks tacky as hell. It makes the boyfriend look like a pussy. Getting rid of the male friends prevents those weak moments. The best defense is prevention. But, go ahead...Listen to these guys. Be cool and understanding when her cell phone mysteriously turns off during a night with the guys.

What you basically are saying is that whenever you are in a LTR, you should get rid of her male friends?

Do you realize how stupid and controlling that sounds?

Good luck bro. I want to see your GF's reaction when you are "working" on getting rid of her male friends.

Maybe its YOU who aren't confident enough to deal with another guy in her life. Or maybe you should in the same time poison all the other guys in the city where she lives, cause, yeah, they all want to fuck her.

There is nothing wrong with her having male friends. The issue here is whether or not she's into them, and is "dating them" more or less, and stringing along 100%, or whether she is using the other guys to get something she wants, and actually likes 100% more than them. If she were my girlfriend, I would view either one of the above as inappropriate.

100%, you need to decide whether the sex you're getting is worth all of this, and usually the answer is no. Then talk to her, and tell her that she needs to fix whatever's bothering you about the situation. There's no problem with her having male friends and hanging out with them. But what she's doing doesn't quite fit in that category, does it? If she's with you, then she needs to be with you, otherwise, you're putting effort into a relationship she just doesn't care about. Make sense?

I think it would be worth considering to make the girl get rid of all of those so called "friends" who she still has (had) or crush on or has (had) any sexual tension going on (EXes, ppl she used to sleep with, fuck buddies). These things may take decades to fade away.

But than I don't think you can just tell her that like this. What if the right way of doing this is that when she asks you to break contact with our Exes (which she eventaully will) you ask for the same in return?

She doesn`t have to cut them off completely, just not be going on outings with these guys without you. Most of my gfs never had a problem doing this. In fact, most of them did it without me bringing it up. Its not an insecurity thing, its a RESPECT thing. I also have no problem doing the same with my female friends because I understand both sides of the equation.

Perfect. Exactly.