Well, 4 years of on and off "relationship" hath ended. I wanted more out of it than her but I ultimately had to finish it. It began when I was a complete AFC.. and now I'm just an AFC... I don't think I ever managed to shift her initial judgement of how I was back then into what I am now.

She said she didn't want to be anything more than friends now and I said that I couldn't just have that, so I didn't want to see her any more (Guess I should have said "couldn't" instead of "didn't ") because it would hurt too much. She said I was being silly, but we all know how that goes eh? She said "see you soon", but I said I wouldn't see her again, and I'm purposefully not going to go to the things she goes to anymore to avoid her.

Maybe I'm being a bit drastic, but what's done is done... deleted her number etc.. She didn't want to delete mine though.

Another failed relationship put to bed... But man do I feel down in the dumps and upset

The quest continues..

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"The journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step"

- Lao-tzu, The Way of Lao-tzu
Chinese philosopher (604 BC - 531 BC)

So what could have been done better? On and off what made you say this is not coming back on?

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Live and let live...

Hi,

Well, she just doesn't seem interested in sex at all, and has the smallest libido ever! I've been with a fair few women, and I could always get them wet fairly easily. But this woman just doesn't seem to respond to anything.

It's a shame really, because apart from this, we get on really well.

I can't see how it could ever be on again. As I said, I told her I never wanted to see her again. And to change that would make me look stupid.

I guess I shouldn't have said it, because now I have to go out of my way to avoid her.

I'm always being a bit rash like that.

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"The journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step"

- Lao-tzu, The Way of Lao-tzu
Chinese philosopher (604 BC - 531 BC)

Gl

I got into this after coming out of a relationship that was almost 5 years long. It will take time to get over her and get back into the swing of things. And if you are ever around her going forward, she will probably pull out the parts of you that she expects, ie: the "completely AFC" version of you that she first got to know. This is just a natural thing, like how guys that knew you from school will bring out the version of you that they knew in school.

Now it's time for you to move forward and realize that you have a whole brand new world of possibilities in front of you. Now is the time to go out there, meet new people, acquire new skills, and become a new you. The world is your play group and we are here to help you get the most play out of it possible!

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Natural Seductive Metalanguage

Thanks NSM,

It's nice to know that there are other people out there who have experience of this sort of thing.

I'm just getting back into the swing of PUA (not that I was that good at it originally). Going to keep putting myself out there in the face of adversity with the aim of improving

Zanny

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"The journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step"

- Lao-tzu, The Way of Lao-tzu
Chinese philosopher (604 BC - 531 BC)

Your welcome man! It sounds like you have a good attitude about things and that will serve you well in the future!

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Natural Seductive Metalanguage