I feel a very realistic situation at bars at least in the college realm is that you will often times have conversation with girls when you are with friends. So, for example, if you are in a bar with another friend of yours and girl starts talking to you both, what kind of game works best. Aka should I be the laid back and not trying to impress and show too much interest gamer, or the one who is the more energetic and humurous. This is something I have been really struggling with. Another example is you decide to approach two girls with a friend of yours. Is the best route to go to be the guy who initiates convo and is loud and funny or would someone who shows less interest have more luck. let me know if this is confusing! Thanks, this is something I really want to figure out for myself.

You should ALWAYS be energetic and humurous and NEVER try to impress. These are not two sides of the same coin... usually high energy is best BUT NOT TOO MUCH. Do not be the "funny guy", be the cool sexy guy who is ALSO funny.