| I know this is an old topic, but I find it so..... fascinating.
When I read the topic title, I rolled my eyes, knowing it must be fake. Now that I've read the first post, I'm not so sure. Is it fake? If it is, the person who wrote it has a far deeper knowledge of NLP and suggestion than he'd have us believe. And if it's real? He's seen it first hand so knows what happened, but doesn't fully understand how. Allow me to help.
There may be a part of yourself gives you a strong anxiety and paranoia. If a part of you has this anxiety, I'd like to say that I understand it's point of view and appreciate what it's trying to do for you. The brain really does work in beautiful ways, and your unconscious mind is always working for you.... in your best benefit. And sometimes the way it works can be misunderstood by your conscious mind. The parts you dislike could be the parts that are most beneficial for you. Take a moment to close your eyes after reading this. Have you ever spoken to yourself? Ever said anything in your mind? I'd like you to do that now. I understand if you feel foolish, but you've seen the power of NLP first hand, therefore realize that now you can help yourself. In your inner voice, ask the part of you responsible for the anxiety and paranoia you feel to come forth, and let you know it's reasons for giving you these feelings. Allow a few moments to notice any feelings, any thought that pop up, no matter how random. Take a few moments to do this now.
As you do this now, I want you to gain a new appreciation for your unconscious mind, letting yourself more and more believe in it's power and it's beauty, believing that it will always work in your best benefit. You can now begin to realize that this anxiety you have and this paranoia is there to protect you. By having this anxiety and paranoia, you will always be on your guard against future attacks, therefore knowing that from this moment on, you are in control. Through your anxiety and paranoia, your unconscious mind has given you a strong defense mechanism, and because of this I would like to say that I have a strong appreciation for what it has done. I would like to say to your unconscious mind, I respect you and all you've done. As you read more, I want you to also strengthen your understanding, respect and appreciation of your inner mind.
I've also noticed that you've started learning NLP yourself, and believe you have a substantial understanding of it. Because of that, I'd like to say to you, to your conscious mind, that I respect you also, because you have already taken the first steps in understanding what has happened and you have begun to take control of yourself. Through your knowledge of NLP and through your understanding of the situation, realize that from this moment on, you are in control.
And now I want you to begin to realize that this anxiety and paranoia is not who you are. It does not define you. It is simply a process. It is simply a tool developed by your inner mind to deal with any future attacks on your mind and your psyche. And as with any process, because you remember you are in control, when it no longer serves you, you can allow yourself to relax and stop running this process. Because you will learn what to look for, because you will learn how you were controlled and therefore how you can stop yourself from being controlled in the future, you will no longer need this anxiety and paranoia. I want you to thank your inner mind for making this process available to you, and realize you no longer need to run it.
I'm going to try to break down the process as best I can. Knowing the process you will be able to guard against it without feeling any of the anxiety or paranoia you had felt in the past. As you learn how you were manipulated in the past, realize that from this moment you will notice if anyone tries to control you in the future, therefore allowing you to react as is best for you... be that in a calm state, or via anger. The choice is yours because you are in control.
NLP is most effective when:
1. There is a strong rapport between the subject and the practitioner.
2. The subject is in a deeply relaxed, receptive state.
3. The practitioner has a strong authoritative, leading role, whereas the subject has a strong following (subservient) role.
1. You had known that person for a long time before the events of eight months ago took place, therefore you had a strong rapport with him already. However, now that you understand NLP, I want you to begin noticing the times when your friend used specific rapport building strategies. Perhaps when you crossed your arms, he crossed his arms. Perhaps he matched his breathing with yours. Perhaps he often used the words you most frequently use. Remember times when he did any of those or any other rapport building technique you know of. We both know you're aware of a lot more than those.
As you remember any of these rapport building techniques, more and more begin to realize all that happened was that that person lied to you. He told you two plus two was five and made you believe him. And realize that, when you see a lie for what it is, you stop believing the lie. As you realize how he build this rapport with you, realize it was fake. Realize he has no power over you, other than the power you gave him. How surprised will you be when you feel the connection you once felt toward that person fall apart? You don't have to realize the connection with that person falls apart now. Perhaps you will realize this after a sleep cycle, or perhaps after twenty four ours, perhaps after a week, but you will realize the connection you felt to that person was fake and therefore you will feel the rapport and connection you had with him fall apart.
2. This is one of the reasons I'm impressed by the process used to manipulate you, and also one of the reasons I understand why you allowed yourself to be lied to and why I have only respect for you, despite what happened. You've mentioned that the person who manipulated you had you smoke a lot of pot around him. How surprised will you be when you realize this was also part of his strategy? How will you feel when you realize the marijuana was just another of his ploys?
NLP is strongest when the subject, in that case you, feels most relaxed and therefore receptive. As you smoke pot, you allow yourself to feel more and more relaxed, and therefore more and more susceptible. I want you to begin to remember the times when, as you were high from the pot, that person who lied to you began to talk in ways you now realize meant he was manipulating you or using NLP on you. I want you to also realize this is why he had you associate weed with having fun and being more intelligent. If you had more positive associations toward weed, you would smoke more and therefore you would be in this relaxed, suggestible state more, allowing that person to lie to you more easily. And now you know this. As you know this, realize you've taken power away from him, and once more you are in control more and more.
3. This third presupposition is why that person tricked you into believing everything he did was right and everything you did was wrong. He himself didn't believe it. Everyone has faults, and he knew that. He knew that he himself has many faults, which you can begin to notice more and more. He knew that if he didn't trick you, you would notice his faults and personality flaws, and therefore you wouldn't listen to him or allow him to lie to you further. This is why he tricked you into feeling everything he did was right; so that you wouldn't see him as weak and so that you wouldn't resist his control. And now you can begin to realize all those times he made you feel weak, and all those times you believed what you did was perfect, he didn't believe them himself and all of it was just so that he could lie to you better. I also want you to notice any other action you noticed him do that now you know is NLP, that now you know is a learned technique so he could better lie to you. Perhaps he avoided terms such as "I need," preferring "I want." Realize that any strength or power you saw in that person was fake, was just learned techniques which now you have knowledge of, and therefore which no longer have any control over you.
Concerning when you felt people were reading your mind, I want to assure you that that is impossible. You can allow yourself to feel curious about what was really happening, knowing that I will explain it and you will learn more about yourself, and therefore more and more you are in control.
First, I'd like you to notice that you knew your mind was protected from others before that person lied to you and manipulated you. You only felt negatively about yourself and had that belief that your mind was open after you were lied to and manipulated. What happened was this. Our bodies have subtle ways to communicate unconsciously with others. Remember a time when you knew what someone felt without them saying anything. What happened was you read their body language. That person that lied to you used this naturally occurring body language and planted a suggestion that it be exaggerated beyond what is normal, making you easy to read. He then planted a suggestion that people could read your mind. When someone read your exaggerated body language, they may have reacted in a way as if they knew what you were thinking, but in reality they had no idea what you were thinking. They were just guessing based on the cues your body was giving them. Despite this, because of the suggestion that person planted, you took it as evidence that your thoughts were being broadcast. Again, they were not. All that happened was your body language had been exaggerated because of his suggestion. Now that you know what is happening, realize again that you are in control.
Begin to notice all the times you believed someone could read your mind, and remember what you were doing with your body. Those were the cues you had been tricked into giving off. Because you can realize what you did in the past, you now know what to look for in the future. Next time you feel someone can read your thoughts, simply stop. Close your eyes and focus inwardly, toward your body. Ask yourself which part of yourself is SPAM your thoughts. Is it your tone of voice? A look you're giving the other person? Your facial expression? How your body is turned? You know NLP, therefore you know what it is that gives you away. As you realize what gives you away consciously, you can consciously take control and stop doing what you had been doing. If your tone was giving you away, change your tone. Again... your thoughts are safe. Again, you are in control.
As you sleep tonight and in the nights to come, I want you to dream. Dream about that person. Dream about how he lied to you and how he manipulated you. And realize why it no longer works on you. Realize why you are now immune to future manipulation. Because you now know his process, you now know how to defend against it. I invite you and your inner mind to dream about all that you now know, which you didn't when you were lied to. I want you to realize all the strength and knowledge you now have make you immune to manipulation. Therefore, allow yourself to dream about what would have happened if that person had tried to manipulate you with your new resources. Consider how you would have made sure he failed because of your knowledge. Consider how things would have been different, with you resisting his control and in fact becoming a stronger person because of it. As you imagine what would happen if he tried unsuccessfully to manipulate you, realize that now you have all this knowledge and strength that prevent you from being lied to again.... therefore you can allow this alternate history, this alternate series of events become true for you. And as you dream, allow your inner mind to come up with new strategies to deal with future manipulation, as you allow any anxiety and paranoia to simply fade away.
Remember, you are in control.
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The future exists first in the mind, then in the will, then in reality.
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