My opinion: If it helped you feeling new love towards your current gf... Why not?
If the relationship benefitted from it. Why should she need to know? And why should you feel bad about it? It's the way you relationate it.

The risk you have, is falling in a trap, where you are constantly going to do it. If you keep it at this one time. You're fine. If you are going to fuck that other girl 3 times in a week, you have a problem.

Succes

NOW you feel relieved, but will you feel relieved after a couple of weeks/months, when the same problems will show up again?


This is clearly going nowhere. You want to stay with this girl? Then you have to work on your relationship. Spend more time with her, instead of calling a girl to a hotel room and banging her.

Thanks for your reply both of you.
I do think it did the relationship a good thing, at least on my side.
And you both make a point when you say that if this is going to keep happening again, etc. I have tought about it, but I have made it clear to myself to not fall into this pattern, but rather enjoy her company. There are a lot of leeches in a relationship, but I've cut down all those leeches and going to focus my attention 100% in her.
Thanks!

All I gotta say is the human mind can rationalize anything. If you think it helps with the relationship, why not? You just need to "reset" you're not looking for another relationship. You just need to go out and get some fresh air.

I wouldn't call your thought sick, because we are men. As men we naturally have desires and lusts. There is nothing wrong with that. At the same time we don't want to hurt our gf's so I understand you not wanting her to know. I say, if you can live with yourself and sleep with yourself at night, then do whatever the fuck you do. This is your life, you're a man, and you obviously are responsible enough to know what you're doing. You don't need us to tell you what is right and what is wrong, we all have our own standards to our ethics and morals, I believe in mine and I don't expect you to believe in mine as well. I advise you to play nice and if there is a problem in the relationship face it and do something about it. I don't advise hurting women, because I seriously love them, but to take my advice or not is really up to your decision. If you really love your girl, then do what you feel is best for her. Yeah?



- Nelson

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F*ck it, let's do it

"In order to fill your cup, you must first empty your cup" - Bruce Lee

"Becoming great with women is a by product of becoming great yourself" - Cory Skyy

Totally normal. Its good you feel fresh again.

My advice is dont tell a single person. If you tell your best mate who wouldnt ever tell a sole, then its 3 months before she finds out. If you tell anyone else its one month. Only way is dont say to a single person and be careful ever texting or emailing that girl again.

Your not the only one who loves their gf but needs to let loose sometimes just to feel human. And if it reaffirms you love being with your gf then its good. Just be careful.

And i must disagree with all of u guys. Cheating is never a solution. Happened once, will happen again. Might have worked for now but how do u know u are not going to get bored with her again? Then what? I suppose u are looking for someone to back u up by posting here just to justify ur decision. Like i said, cheating is never a solution and most definitely not a cure. Those ruin relationship, not build them. Also how would u feel if that happened in reverse?

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This relationship is doomed.

Normally, when a conscientious or empathetic person does not feel guilt over an action, it means they believe they have done nothing wrong. This happens when most people would agree that what they have done is right.

When a psychopath does not feel guilt, it means they believe they have done nothing wrong. This happens even when most people would agree that what they have done is wrong.

Quite a distinction, huh?

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