| So! From my interpretation, cold reading is essentially an elaborate and very effective fraud. It's all about getting her to think that you've actually managed to interpret some deeper truth about her personality, whereas actually you've just made some pretty broad generalizations.
So, let me quickly reveal the reasoning behind this routine of sorts (it occurred to me long before I'd even heard of the pickup community): Horoscopes are full of shit, yet millions of people around the world believe them. Why? Because they rely on telling people things that apply to absolutely everyone, but no-one wants to admit, so they think it's just themselves. If you say these things in a manner that's enough attuned to her lifestyle, she's going to believe you've gleamed some deeper truth about her.
I discovered 2 very common themes that psychics and the like use for cold reading:
1. "Deep down, you crave the attention and respect of those around you"
and
2. "You have large amounts of unused creative potential"
Everyone thinks these things about themselves, but no-one wants to admit it because it would be weird. And girls love to be understood. So this is what I told an HB9 with whom I wanted to create an emotional connection:
(it doesn't matter what she says before this, you just need to look meaningfully into her eyes after she finishes speaking, and then say this)
"I think I'm really beginning to understand you. Not just on the surface level; I think I know what sort of person you really are. I'm willing to bet that throughout your whole life, you've been needing admiration and respect from other people. You talk to your friends, and you've always wanted to be on top; you've always wanted to be that loved, sexy girl that all the guys wanted and all the girls wanted to be. It's in your nature to want to be something more. And you've tried. You've tried really hard to be that person, and it feels like every time you have, you've been shut down. You've tried over and over again to get people to like you more, and it's always come back to smack you in the face. You're over the humiliation. So you pretend. You pretend to be okay with your situation. You pretend that you like where you are, you like your friends, you like your job, you like your life. But you can't seem to quell that fire burning inside of you; you just can't stamp out that thought in the corner of your mind that maybe, just maybe there's something better than this. You claim to like your friends, but deep down (Note: 'Deep down' is possibly my favorite phrase. It works magic), you wish you were that classy, mysterious woman in the red dress that turned guys' heads. You really do wish that guys would chase after you and girls would look up to you. And no matter how hard you try, you really can't shake that thought."
There are, of course, exceptions. Some of the HB10s you see walking around really DO have massive self-esteem. They really do think they are that chick that everyone else wants to know better. And this routine wouldn't work on them. It's more designed for the larger proportion of females in this world, the ones with far lower self esteem than they should have.
And, it works. After I pulled this routine off, she (Nicki) simply gazed at me, gobsmacked, for about 5 seconds, before saying "...yeah". Conversation became a lot easier after that, and the emotional connection had been pretty heavily established.
So yeah, what do you guys think?
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