hi guys. so my girlfriend and her mom got in a fight and my girlfriends mom made her break up with me. when she broke up with me she said she still had feelings for me and that she would miss me. the next day i called her and asked if i could date other girls. she cried and said she didnt care. and i told her that i wanna hangout with her again, and asked if her mom would ever let us be together again. she said she would like to hangout too and that she wasnt sure if her mom would ever let us be together again. she said as soon as she got her phone back from her mom she would text me. we have been together about a month and she gave me a blow job and i fingered her the day before the breakup. she was crying the whole time she was on the phone with me. but idk if shes on the verge of letting me go because i asked if i could date other girls. what do u guys think?

i also asked her if she still wanted to be with me on the phone and she said that she did. she made it very clear that she was still into me. and when i told her that i wanted to hangout with her she said that we would probably be able to hangout again in a week or two.

You shouldn't have asked if you could date other girls. Now she thinks you don't value her, and simply WANT to date other girls, though you and I know you were looking for clarification of the situation. Difference of guys' versus girls' perspective.

You need to tell her that you want to date her still, but need some clarity. Does she still want you (I think the answer is yes)? Can you guys make it work? How does she see your guys' future? Why did her mother make you guys break up? Etc. Get a better idea of the situation (or if you know some of these, then fill us in so we can help more).

yes she still wants me. she sees us staying together for a very long time in the future and im pretty sure her mom is just pissed off at her for some reason and wanted to hurt her feelings.

If this is the case, just be your normal, charming self, and wait. It will all blow over eventually.

Don't get me wrong. I empathize and understand it's difficult right now. Just don't react like it's a big deal. I'm not sure how old you guys are, but definitely old enough to make your own decisions. And if her mom doesn't actively dislike you, then you don't have to worry about her continuing to impose on you guys. Don't change what you're doing. Don't mention it. Just try to go out with her as often as she's able, and act like you're still together, because in reality, you are.

shes grounded from her phone and i have no way of contacting her. i cant even tell her that i dont wanna date other girls now. but when she called me on her sisters phone she said she would text me right when she gets her phone back. what do you think will happen now that i cant contact her?

you are retardedly young, you don't need to be worried about the long term. this is probably more trouble than its worth.

if you really have your heart set on this girl, start thinking from her mom's perspective. she probably dated a guy like you when she was young and he broke her heart or something. just like gaming the friends in a club before you can isolate, at this point you need to game the mom since she has control over the daughter.

also, if the girl is really into you she'll ignore what her mom says, but this is a real can of worms. i assume the girl is underage? here in GA that means she needs her mom's permission to testify in court and you could be accused of statutory rape without your gf able to take the stand in your defense. like i said, probably more trouble than its worth, and i have been there.

What freshprince and mellow said.

If you really like this girl and you want to be with her. If you think it is worth it and everything, really learn why the mom made you guys break up. If they had a fight, learn about it and everything. Game the mom! Talk to the mom, let her know that you're concerned and you want to know what's wrong and what YOU can do to help or make it work. If the mom sees that you're man enough to confront the problem and handle it responsibly and maturely, chances are the mom will allow you two to be together. She might not let it happen right away, and that might be her way of testing you, but you gotta be the bigger person and fucking go for it no matter waht. Dont kiss ass, because it shows that you're insincere and everything. Be a man, be respectful, there's a problem, and you're going to deal with it. Easy to say, but hard to do. I know you have what it takes, because you simply just have to do it. The question is are YOU willing to do it though? If you do, then do something about it, and if you don't think you can, then I guess she's not that important to you.

Ask yourself how far would you go for this girl, if it's far, then I suggest taking the actions and try to make it work. IF you can make the mom like you, your biggest obstacle in your relationship will disappear and you can have as much fun as you like with your beloved girlfriend.



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no her mom and dad both like me. they dont know about the bj or anything. its my girl. she is in trouble and cannot be with anyone rite now. i really have my heart set on her tho.