So the thing with my GF and I is that, until September when we are together at school, we only get to see eachother a few times a month. This is also a very new relationship (~3 months). Another thing about her is that she has high self confidence, and really believes in herself and she knows she looks good. I am also the first BF she has had, so I don't want her to get tired of me.

Each time I have seen her, I find that I am extremely attracted to her and I find myself constantly telling her how attractive/beautiful/sexy she is. Sometimes when we are making out, I'll stop and look her in the eyes and tell her how beautiful I think she is and how lucky WE are to have eachother. I may joke about how lucky she is to have me since I'm so good looking, and how we are a sexy-ass couple that is lucky to have each other. One time she made me breakfast and I complimented her on how amazing she was and I was a really lucky BF to have her. Another time, we went out for dinner and then were walking around this park and I told her how special she was to me, and I asked her if she felt special/ beautiful around me, which she replied yes to both.

My question is, am I complimenting her too much? I know with a gf, you are SUPPOSED to make them feel this way, but I hope I am not over doing it. Don't get me wrong, I am not complimenting her 24/7 but I'd say each day I tell her something special. I am worried that she will grow bored with me and find someone else who doesn't always feel the need to compliment her, since she already believes in herself. At times, I want to make her work to get me, but I am finding it hard to do. Also, since she has such a high-self esteem, I feel as though she doesn't need to talk to me so I think a freeze-out or anything like that, in order to try and re-establish attraction would not work on her. What should I do if she ever upsets me. I always hear about people suggesting freeze-outs, but I feel this wouldnt work.

Any advice on this situation would be great.

This is completely wrong.

You asking that to her shows your insecurity.

There's nothing wrong with a compliment here or there, but complimenting her shouldn't be the result of you searching for validation. It should be the result of you really WANTING to say that, without even thinking that you are saying it.

If you are dating only a few months, i would for sure control complements. You can of course say something nice from time to time, but just make sure that SHE compliments you at least the same amount. If not, you are clearly overdoing it.

Ok, I thought by asking her that and having her reply yes, it would be re-affirming that when she is with me, she feels those things. I didn't really think it would show an insecurity. I am still new with relationships, so thanks for helping out Apocalyptica! Any other advice on compliments/my freeze out issue?

Thanks

id defo try laying off the compliments regarding her looks abit more mate ... i think sometimes this just feeds a girls inner ego. if you feel that urge, try complimenting more her as a person, her confidence, how shes handles certain situations n shit. i think they appriciate that more (shel also realise that you dont miss a thing) .... hope this helps.

Thats great you feel like that towards her. Its not a bad thing to compliment but definately, definately, definately dont do it too much and pick you time to say it and use your words casrefully.

Saying it once a week but in a way that will really touch her is better than flooding her with them. I also find saying it infront of people flatters them more and means more. If you say in conversation to someone else while she is there thats often better but only flatters when you dont flood them all the time with it. So hold it in for god sake