this thread, this situation...is getting ridiculous.

is this for real?

are you obsessed?

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

Nope, just hurt. I'm sure everyone's been there at some point. I will take the advice I've been given, and maybe when I get good at the game no one will be able to hurt me again.

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samantha,

i feel for you. it's obvious you have a good heart. which is WHY you DESERVE better than this girl.

she played with you, toyed with your emotions, played mind games, threw you away like nothing.

FUCK HER! you don't need that shit. are you not better than that?

now, you've been ultra-chode afc'ing hardcore for WAY TOO LONG over this chick!

you need to GFTOW!

we're all with you. don't be so quick to give your heart away...

LOVE takes time. guard your heart. be pleasant, fun, and affectionate...

but hold onto your love until the next girl EARNS it.

k?

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

I hear you, Samantha, but Mack is right. I had an AFC relationship which was similar to your situation, and it's what spurred me to become a PUA. The girls like the one you just dealt with are only concerned with themselves. It's not personal so don't feel like you failed. These girls selfishly look for people they can use to feel better about themselves, and never accept responsibility for themselves. Even when the two of you break up, she'll blame you as the bad guy.

Just find some other girls who aren't so emotionally abusive, and focus on having a good time rather than giving your heart away too soon.

get out!

What got your panties in a twist, all of a sudden?

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Samantha, it is easier for us on the outside.. but although it sucks right now.. if you do what we are telling you, you will see how much better off you will be..

you'll get a new found sense of independence, control and you'll feel great.. Sure it still hurts.. but you learn coping mechanisms to deal with it over time. - the main thing is you no longer will be in this continuous cycle of abuse and you will be able to move forward.



I don't honestly think people here would give you "wrong" advice.. we are all supporting and from an outsiders perspective giving you the "best" solution to your problem.

Samantha,

I understand that no one wants to get hurt, but getting better at something just to avoid being hurt is not the way to go. You will always get hurt, even if you try to manipulate the situations to avoid the possibility of being hurt, something's bound to happen which you or the other person will be hurt in the end. Shit happens and that's life. The reason why you're still hurt, jealous, and stuck on this chick is because you allow yourself to be in this situation. Your current situation is your responsibility. You are responsible for how you feel right now. The reason why you're so unhappy and miserable is your fault.

I know this sounds really harsh, but I'm just trying to be honest with you. From what I've seen on this topic, everyone here are trying to help you get out of this mess. The more we say, don't do this, get out! The more attention you're paying to this chick. It's like all of us are telling you, dude! She's an abusive gf, etc. etc, and if you come back she will hurt you! She might not beat you like a bf, but psychologically and emotionally, she will crush you. And here you are, coming back to her, questioning why she does these things to you, asking us what to do, we told you what to do and what NOT to do, and you end up jumping back into the hole.

I understand that it's hard to get over someone you cared about but you gotta do it for yourself, Sam. Before you worry about why she's doing this and that, you gotta ask yourself why are you doing the things you are doing. Why are you letting yourself feel so miserable over this chick? Is this how you want to live your life? Do you want to feel pain and hurt so badly? You have a choice, Sam. You can either be hurt over this chick for awhile, be obsess about her, let her treat you like shit, and worth nothing, or you can simply decide to not let this chick influence you and your emotions anymore. You have a life, start to live like you have one. Don't give me, "I can't, because I'm so hurt, etc." bullshit. I don't buy that, if you really want something, you will get it no matter what. If you want to be hurt, then be my guest and be hurt. But if you want to live life, happy, carefree, confident, and have someone in your life that truly cares about you and be grateful for it, then I say get off your fucking sorry ass, drop the shit, drop the chick, and move on, and get on with it. You're a victim, all of us has been in that state at least once in our life, but we all moved on and you can too. You're going to be a victim for the rest of your life or are you going to learn how to be responsible with your life and how to deal with the shit that happens to you?

I know I am being really harsh, but the reason why I am so blunt and brutal is because I care about you. I don't know who you are, but I know I've been in your shoes before. I know the reason why I wanted to learn game is to have power and not being hurt. Game has nothing to do with that, it's yourself. Game is only a catalyst, it is you who has the power. I know you can do it Samantha, the decision is yours.


- Nelson

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F*ck it, let's do it

"In order to fill your cup, you must first empty your cup" - Bruce Lee

"Becoming great with women is a by product of becoming great yourself" - Cory Skyy

you know what, you're completely right. I don't know why sometimes our hearts try to make us cling to something that hurts, but you are right I need to let it go. I'm sick of being treated like this over and over, and you're right it is my fault. People treat us how we let them, and I have let women treat me like nothing.

I should have walked away the first time she was a bitch to show her that I am worth more than that and am under no circumstance going to allow someone to treat me like anything but gold. I don't know why I put up with this from girls for so long, I guess I felt I didn't deserve any better, but that's not true. I'm good looking, intelligent and nice and if she doesn't realise that it's her loss.

I still have strong feelings for her, but I know that if I'm strong and cut contact then I will soon get over it and meet someone better. And if the new person starts to treat me bad, then I will walk away every time. I have to make a decision to settle for nothing but the best from my women because I am the prize. I'm done with that girl. I couldn't have realised that without you guys, thanks so much x x

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samantha,

you've got a big heart.

and now you've got a bigger brain!

it's a win-win...

next time, you'll be more in control.

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

Hey girl,

You're welcome. If you ever need some tough love or empathy, we're here. Take care.


- Nelson

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F*ck it, let's do it

"In order to fill your cup, you must first empty your cup" - Bruce Lee

"Becoming great with women is a by product of becoming great yourself" - Cory Skyy

I'm pulling the no contact thing with my ex to try and get back with her I havent called txted or tried facebooking her. The problem is we are both in a marching band and see each other almost every day. I don't look her way or talk to her. We also both have similar friends in our social circle. How can I apply no contact with my ex if I see we see each other everyday? I want to make her bealive that I don't need her and I truly feel Tht I don't but I would like to win her back. I've been looking at other options as well. Any comments would be helpful.

freeze out

Last night she texted me this "Heyy so like are you pissed off at me or something because you really shouldn't be, I don't want to be the couple who brakes up and avoids each other for the rest of their lives, do you?" I didn't reply so I'm starting to think I'm coming across with the right message. Do u think that I'm coming across as a high valued guy? Explain what the freeze out should be like. Should I hang out with the same people in the social circles that we both share? I don't want to make it look like I'm ignoring her on purpose just make her think I'm having to much fun to care. How long should the freeze out last? I planning about a month to give her time to rely get her to miss me.

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