@HappySlip.

I'm glad to have you as a fan HappySlip. I won't disappoint you! :p

AFC David, hmm Daniel.. (yeah I saw that :p)

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Daniel? WTF?

WHERE ARE THE FIELD REPORTS?

Are you going out sarging or you're just overanalyzing your Brazil trip?

Move your ass out of the chair and give me some #-closes... RIGHT NOW!

@TheFuckingItalian.

Haha :p. Be patient, I have a lot of things going on right now, but I'm trying to organize some events to get back on gaming. But I'm not gonna lie, my main focus is to have fun right now. Going out by myself and trying to be a PUA is the best way for me to fail. Let me have some fun, approaching will come soon enough. For now I'm sticking to my plan.

Thanks for posting Italian.

Daniel..

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Super motivational and in depth keep em coming.

DAY 72: Setting a goal and planning.
Let's get serious.

As I told before, I'm trying to get my life organized now that I'm not a student anymore. Since pick-up is also a lot about improving myself, it goes without saying that the Game helped me a lot in setting goals and planning actions to achieve them. No more useless writing, let's begin.

What I want.
My goal: I want to have had at least one date with a HB8+.
Deadline: October 11th (in 2 months).
This goal doesn't seem really ambitious I know... but remember that I have no proper social circle currently... I have to build everything from scratch.

What I'm missing.
I won't go through the each of my blocking points. I'm going to write about what I should have to achieve this goal and build from what I have right now. Truth is, I feel wiser than ever. I see things clearly. Let's make it short. I think I need 3 things for this small journey: an attractive lifestyle, a passive "attraction" and an active "attraction".

I) Attractive Lifestyle: this is the support of attraction in general, it gives depth and value.
- Personal Lifestyle: my hobbies, interests, culture, job, ...
- Social Circle: my friends and interactions with them.

II) Passive Attraction: this is the support of what I would call an Active Attraction.
- Inner Game: ability to quiet negative thinking, confidence, sexual desire...
- Physical Appearance: style, shape, ...

III) Active Attraction: this is what I need when I take actions.
- Outer Game: day game, night game, opening, closing, asking out...

How to get that.
Here's a first set of actions to improve this 3 areas.

Phase I: Attractive Lifestyle
- Personal Lifestyle:
> Photography: Improving my photography skills, Taking pictures more often, Publishing them on the Internet, Think about creative projects
> Music: Thinking about an instrument I could learn the basics?
> Job:Looking for some offers, Preparing résumé and cover letters, Sending résumé to companies
> Culture: Read Camus' The Stranger
- Social Circle:
> Keeping in touch: Establishing contact with old friends again, Writing down all my friends, Planning to see them.
> Going out: Organize an event with friends at least once a week, Get invited to parties
> Meeting people: Get my friends to introduce me to new people

Phase II: Passive Attraction
- Inner Game:
> Meditation: Meditating twice per week, Focusing on being a passive observer of my thoughts
> Sexual Tension: Picturing myself having sex with the target, Focusing on her lips
> Confidence: Approaching every week (getting experience), Pushing myself, Socially warming up,
- Physical Appearance:
> Style: Thinking about how I can improve my style, Buying accessories
> Body: Working out, Buying another mass gainer?, Getting a tan?

Phase III: Active Attraction
- Outer Game:
> Day Game: Approach at least once per week in Day Game environment, Trying Direct, Trying Indirect...
> Social Game: Meeting new girls, Seeding events...
> Journal: Writing FR, Learning from it, Getting feedbacks...
> Fun: Focus on having fun and being entertaining.

I know this plan lacks of precision but this is just a main guideline. I'll be more precise in my FR when it will be time to focus on outer game for example. Therefore stay tuned.


This plan is a preparation for my game.

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Quick Update.

First day of this journey. I've been working on my plan, especially in the attractive lifestyle area. I need to be that busy self-assured man to add depth to my game.

Attractive Lifestyle.
I asked some informations about music classes but it's too expensive for me (at least for now). I'm dropping the idea of learning to play an instrument. Yet, I've downloaded a software to make electronic music. I'll play with it and try to get good. I've also started to read a book I wanted to read in a long time. It's not helping getting a girl, but whatever.

Concerning my Social Circle, I'm organizing an event on Saturday night with some friends. I'm willing to have some fun and meet new people. I will try to go out every week with my friends and be entertaining to them. FUN is the damn keyword here.

Passive Attraction.
I've bought more equipment to work out and I'm starting to use it. I'm going to get some information about getting a tan. I'm just gonna check the prices to see if I can afford a session. I've bought some bracelets to improve my style. I'm just waiting for them to arrive (they're coming from L.A).

Concerning the Inner Game, I'll work on the confidence part by approaching this afternoon. I'll start with some indirect approaches and get the conversation flowing. It will be an opportunity to work on my outer game a little too...

Coming next.
- I'll start applying for jobs next week.
- I'll organize more events with my friends and focus on having fun.
- Getting a tan?

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You don't need music classes to learn an instrument.

just buy a guitar (100$) and a couple of learning books for guitar and practise 30 minutes every day.

I started playing guitar few months ago, and I thought I needed to go to classes.
So I went to 4-5 classes, and basically my teacher did NOTHING but making me do the exercises written on the learning book!

What a waste of money!

So I just quit the lessons and keep practising by myself.
Sure, my learning curve is improving slower now, but still I'm getting good...

I guess I'll need lessons for real when I'll get good enough and I'll want to learn more difficult routines...

@TheFuckingItalian

I was not sure which instrument I wanted to learn. Guitar sounds great so yeah why not buying a cheap one and play around with it. There's enough material on the Internet to learn some basics.

On another note, I've downloaded a software to create some electronic music. I'm liking it but I realize I'm going to need some basics in music. So maybe I'll get a small keyboard to if I really decide to get into it.

Grazie,

Daniel..

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Quick Update.

Here's an update about what I've done yesterday and this morning.

Attractive Lifestyle.
I've been playing around with a music software, maybe I'll get an hobby out of it. I've installed the photography softwares in my new computer too. Can't wait to play around with them too. I'll plan a photography session next week.

I confess I'm a bit stuck when it comes to improving my social circle. I've organized an event tonight but two friends already told me they won't come. We're going to be four maximum, me included. How can I even think about picking up women if I can't even plan an event to have fun with friends... I need more friends, new ones... and that's not easy... "hey I'm Daniel, wanna be my friend..." lol. One way would be to get a job and meet new people to get out with so I'll focus on that... but it won't happen in a couple of weeks. I will need time.

Yet, for now, I'm focusing on tonight. I want to have FUN, I want to have FUN like in São Paulo.

Passive Attraction.
I went to the local mall to ask some informations on getting a tan. A few months earlier I would have been too shy to get in there. It's not the case anymore. I went in, walk to the counter and ask this HB9 the informations I wanted. I was not impress at all. I took the time to look at her while she was explaining me stuff. It turns out I would need from 6 to 8 sessions to get a tan. It's not only long, it's also expensive. I'll get more informations in other malls.

I've been working out with 10 extra kilos (bought them recently) but unfortunately I have a tendinitis right now. It's hurting a lot, even now, while I'm typing. I'm seeing the doctor next Tuesday.

Active Attraction.
I've read some material in French. I thought it would be easier for me to game if I read in French... but it was really bad and confusing. Actually I'm going to stop reading material. I have everything I need already. Besides... Outer game is something I want to work on after getting the attractive lifestyle and the passive attraction.

Coming Next.
- Setting goals for tonight.
- Report on tonight.
- Starting to really look for a job.

Let's do this.


Sometimes I feel like I have no friends to go out with... How can I show some good time to a girl if I can't even have fun with friends?

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DAY 73: going out with friends.
Canceling my event and going out by myself.

Context.
My strategy is simple: focus on building an attractive lifestyle (the kind that allow me to have an happy single life and give depth to my game), then on what I called passive attraction (strong inner game and attractive physical appearance) and finally, I'll focus on improving my outer game. Yet, focusing on building an attractive lifestyle doesn't mean I won't practice some outer game, especially if it's fun to me. But first things first, I've been focusing on improving my social circles by organizing a restaurant yesterday night. We were supposed to be 6, but we were only 4 (including me) in the end.

Goals.
- Have fun: if I want to get better at organizing events, I need to show how fun I can be to my friends.
- Open two sets of strangers: that's something I had difficulties to do in Brazil, I want to get better at it.
- Focus on speaking slowly: speaking quick is an issue I have sometimes, let's fix this.
- [EXTRA] Approach a HB and try a number close: I'm more focusing on building a lifstyle that will later support my game but I'm giving to myself extra points if I manage to approach and number close a HB.

Strategy.
- Have fun: do what I feel to do, laugh, make laugh, joke around... come on I know how to do that!
- Open two sets of strangers: ask something(any good restaurants? directions? what's the song playing? ) and push the interaction further (make a funny comment?, get my friends to joining the conversation)
- [EXTRA] Approach a HB and try a number close: 3 seconds rule, open direct ("you look stunning and I though I should introduce myself to you"), introduce myself, introduce time constraint, get a conversation flowing and number close ("you're nice, how could I contact you to do plan something else")
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Summary: I went out alone in the end since my friends bailed on me. I wanted to sarge a little but I missed the only opportunity.

I wrote these goals yesterday, a few hours before going there. Yet, unfortunately, a friend called me, he was not coming. We were three now: a couple and me. I told my friend that we would be three, hoping that it wouldn't matter, but she preferred to delay it to next week...

I was a bit disappointed but decided to go out to take some pictures. On my way there, I realized I forgot my SD card... so I couldn't even take pictures... Here I was, out with only one thing to do: game. It's actually contrary to one of my rules... going out to sarge and put the PUA hat is the best way to fail. But to be honest, there was not a lot of opportunity, I only saw one interesting girl... and when I was about to go talk to her, I spilled my starbucks chocolate on my sweat. She noticed it... I laughed about it but did not approach in the end...

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On the strategy.
I didn't apply anything...

On the Game.
- Having good social circles is priceless.
- I have to get better at planning events.
- I have to keep on setting goals and planning strategies before going out.
- I should always have a back-up plan.

Questions to move on.
- How to meet new people and extend my circle of friends?

Coming next.
- Going out for a photography session in Paris?
- Organizing new events for next week.
- Starting job search.


I ended up playing by myself like a kid with no friends... lol

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Quick Update.

The following events took place yesterday.

Attractive Lifestyle.
After spending Saturday night by myself, I realized how much I needed an attractive lifestyle. My social circles really need to be improved (and I'm going to focus on that)... but truth is... my personal lifestyle needs to get better too.

That's why I went out yesterday for a photography session in Paris to take some pictures of the Eiffel Tower. I've taken a lot of pictures and kept 33 shots (my goal was to get 5 keepers out of it!). I'm getting better at photography and I have now several albums in Facebook that allow me to DHV... Bitches love photographers :p More seriously, I actually feel very proud of all these pictures. It gives me self confidence. I guess this is why it is so important to get a hobby to strengthen the Inner Game.



Social Interactions.
As I wrote before I feel way less insecure currently. That's a really good signal. I'm not shy anymore, I don't get embarrassed for stupid stuff. Here are three nice interactions I had yesterday.

I was in a fast food on the Champs Elysées, I spilled my coke as I put down my tray on a table. People were watching, I did not give a fuck. I just walked calmly to an employee and explained him what happened. I went back to my sit and started to eat. Some minutes later, a girl came to clean the part of the table flooded with coke. I told her that I was sorry to give her so much work. She said it was nothing. "Does this happen a lot? ... Or is it just me?", she laughed and reassured me: "it happens a lot, don't worry mister". Some months earlier I would have been ashamed of the whole spilling my coke thing. Here I took responsibility and get a new coke for free out of it. She was not HB at all so I did not push the interaction further... maybe I should have.

Later, as I was entering the subway, a cute girl hold a door for me... I looked at her to thank her... and here it was... an amazing smile... I thanked her in French and the in English (since she smiled I supposed she was not French... lol). This is the kind of opportunity I always miss because of my lack of spontaneity. Actions are hence coming to tackle this.

In another Subway station, I noticed some English speaking tourists and asked them if they needed some help. I helped them buying tickets. A few minutes later, a 15/16 yo HB came to me to ask me direction. Soon her family joined us. I helped them again.

Replay.
If I want to work on my spontaneity, the only way of doing so is to be used to every kind of situation. Let's replay my social interactions and push them further to be even better later.

Smiling Girl in the subway:
- "Thank you! Where are you from?" + play on the fact that Parisians are known to be rude.
- "Thanks... Thanks for that smile" (going direct) + introducing myself.
Employee Girl in the fast food:
- "How long have you been working here?" + personal experience (done that too).
- "It gotta be really busy with the tourists here"
- "Is this a summer job?" + "what are you studying?"

What I've learned.
- Taking responsibility ALWAYS pays off.
- Training myself to be direct is a key to be more spontaneous.
- Replaying the interactions afterwards in my journal will make me a social bad ass.

Coming next.
- Starting job search.
- Organizing a new event with friends.
- Going direct (finally!)

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Quick Update.

Here's an update on what I've done this week for now.

My road map.
It was not working anymore... too complex so I changed it.. Instead of having a to be/to have/to do section, I'm setting goals for the month, the week. Then I plan actions for the next three days. Each of these goals are primary, secondary or tertiary.

My major goal is still to have had a date with a HB8+ by October 11th.
My goals for the month of August are:
- Get at least one job interview (JOB)
- Do at least 3 photos sessions (PHOTOGRAPHY)
- Create a track (MUSIC)
- Approach directly 5 times (GAME)
Each month and week, I revise my goals. Every day, I plan my action for the next 3 days. These actions must help me achieve my weekly goals. Let's see if it works better.

Attractive Lifestyle.
I've sent my résumé and cover letter for a job offer. They contacted me the very next day to plan an interview at the end of the month. I'm really confident about it but I'll apply to other jobs next week. Concerning the Social Circle part, I've failed in organizing something with my friends... I've spent the week by myself and have nothing planned for the weekend.

Passive Attraction.
I've just received some bracelets I ordered on line... I've stil a tendinitis that prevents me from working out... I went to the doctor but he just told me to rest and drink water. That's not really useful for now.

Coming next.
- Going out for a photo session.
- Approaching.

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DAY 74: photo session and going out with my High School Crush.
"You're really touchy."

Context.
I've spent the first part of the week at home by myself. I got things done though... I thought about a new "road map" system and applied for a job. I've also taken some really nice pictures... This is good for the Personal Lifestyle part... but I still can't get anything out of my social circle for now... I decided to go out for a photo session in Paris and contact High School Crush (HSC) to go out for a drink.

Goals.
- Have fun: try to have fun as much as I can (while being by myself).
- Escalate: push things further with her.
- Focus on speaking slowly: let's fix one of my worst bad habits: speaking too fast.
- Seed another event: seed another event with her circle of friends
- Keep 10 good photos out of the photo session.

Strategy.
- Have fun: do what I feel to do, smile...
- Escalate: basic KINO escalation, get close in loud venues, take picture together, hand on her back to guide her...
- Focus on speaking slowly: be direct and speak slowly... don't hesitate to slow down.
- Seed another event: revive this circle of friend.
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Summary (for lazy people): After my successful photo session in Paris, I spend the evening with HSC, I've successfully escalated and seeded another event. I wanted to kiss close but did not manage to do it.

The photo session.
This was part of my strategy to improve my personal lifestyle. I went to Paris and spend a couple of hours there. In the end, I kept most of the pictures. I'm getting better at it and receiving lots of positive feedbacks from my friends. While I was in Paris, I texted HSC to organize the night with her.

At her place.
We agreed on eating together at her place and the going to a bar. I arrived at 8pm and she started to cook for me. I was good... confident, speaking slowly, letting the pressure on her, maintaining eye contact. I even managed to be aroused by her. I mean she was a solid 8 that night, way better than days before when she almost broke my positive state with her negativity about unemployment. She was hot and funny. I liked that. I actually quickly reframed our last meeting: "I definitely prefer you in a positive mood", she apologized (lol).

We started to speak about random stuff and I managed to speak slowly as planned. She showed me her aquariums (that's her new hobby), we laughed about it and have nice interactions. After dinner, I've showed her my photographs... she kept some of them.

At the bar.
For the first time, I was the one driving her... We arrived at the cowboys bar and ordered our drinks. We stayed at the bar and started to talk. Shit was getting real. I started to speak about my new outlook on life... that I wanted to have fun an all, that I was not looking forward to settling, that I wanted to travel, to meet people and all. We quickly started to speak about Brazil and how lucky I felt about having the opportunity to discover the world. I was passionate and since the music was loud, I close the gap between us and use Gambler's techniques. She told me that everyone has to settle at some point, I agreed but told her that I was not looking for that for now. She clearly was. I told her about my relationships in Brazil and how knowing that they were not long term was not a bad thing. That's when I started to look at her lips. I wanted to kiss her and was actually congruent to do it. I thought I about doing it later. Anyways, as we spoke about all that, I noticed several IOIs:
- At some point she said: "Oh by the way, I did not ask you, are you single right now?"
- She reacted positively at the fact that I got closed to her.
- She offered me to have a taste of her mojito.
- She was really interested in what happened in São Paulo.

At the table.
A table was available so we went there to have a sit and kept talking about the relationships subject. She told me how I grow up. I was really far from the high school kid that told her he had feelings for her. No sir. I was the funny guy with an MBA, just coming from Brazil that was not afraid of looking in her eyes anymore. It felt good. I started to think about what I could do with her. I wanted to kiss her, but I was sure I did not want a LTR with her... but she was definitely looking for that kind of relationship... I thought whatever... I wanna kiss her, I'll do so. IOIs:
- She told me she "was really missing having a boyfriend" (someone that send her texts, take her out)
- I was going to take the sit in front of her but she asked me to sit next to her so she could hear me.
- During the conversation, she was the one leaning in.
- I put my hand several time in her knee.

Going for a walk.
We went out to go for a walk around the lake that was next to the bar. I kept on escalating, puting my hand on her back for example. At some point, I told her we should take a picture together. I closed the gap between us, put my arm around her. For the second shot, I put my hand in her hair since I would be hidden by it while getting closer. I wanted to do the photo routine but only managed to got her doing a serious and a funny face. I wanted to go for a kiss on the cheek but right when I was about to ask her a last photo, she got distracted... No worries. Later, I teased her on going to spend the night at a hotel with her. lol. IOIs:
- She let me touch her hair... (the next move would have been putting her hand in mine.)
- She laughed when I teased her about going to the motel.

Driving her home.
As I left her in front of her home, I put my arm around her neck and kissed her good bye on both cheeks. She looked at me smiling and told me: "you're really touchy"... I smiled about it and joked about it: get out of that car. That's maybe when I should have kissed her.

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On the strategy.
- Have fun: I did/said what I wanted,
- Escalate: escalation was smooth and I was happy about it, I miss the opportunity to go further but it's okay...
- Focus on speaking slowly: I was clear and spoke slowly.
- Seed another event: I've seeded another event with her and I'm seeing her tonight to see a movie with another friend.

On the Game.
- For the first time I truly felt congruent about escalating (maybe because I did not have the whole "is this a date?" pressure)
- My outlook on relationship is actually a good topic of conversation: interesting and allows escalation...
- Seeing a friend in a one time thing is allowing me to revive a entire circle of friends.
- Being sexually charged helped me on escalating.

Coming next.
- Movie at my friend's with HSC.


I went with my High School Crush to a bar to take a drink.

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Great cycles of identifying your progress, as well as problems and following through with strategy and action. Mods should consider taking highlights from your journal and creating a sticky ' ask afcdaniel thread'. You're sweeping this girl off of her feet.

I don't know if I'd go that far. They had a good date. He's still in the beginning stages of real seduction.


But AFCDaniel, you are doing a great job of identifying your strengths and weaknesses. I'm sure you'll be successful in all your endeavors. Just keep at it!

Glade

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