Hey guys,

So I'm 20 years old and was in a LTR for over a year before we broke up. Now we're broken up for 2 years but have chosen to remain friends which basically means we make out every couple weeks and I'm basically stuck in an orbiter position which i hate. She's definitely moving on to other and I need to as well.

I've read a bunch of books like "The Game" and "Mystery Method" and think I now have a fairly good idea of the theory but im sure its useless without actually getting out there. The problem is I'm embarrassed to admit to my friends that I'm looking this stuff up (even though im now sure it works) and don't really have anyone to go with to do the newbie challenge or other practice. I'm pretty shy and just havent built up the courage to run around a mall and talk to random girls.

I guess I just need some advice on how to get past this barrier. Is there any way I can still remain friends with this ex or is it way too destructive for me? I'm in my prime in university and certainly dont want to waste it.

Thanks

i think it would be in your best interest to stop being the kind of "friends" you are with your ex. you can talk to her, but not make out every now and again. trust me, i have exes like that who i used to make out with after break up. it's impossible to forget about them like that. anywhos, i'm really shy too and it's very difficult. you just kind of have to jump in. just take a deep breath and talk to someone. you can do this!

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Hey there. First, you have to stop that thing with your ex. It's really good for neither of you. It's okay to talk but leave it like that. Second, well let's define 'friends'. What kind of friends are you talking about? People with whom you just hang out, or people you trust 100%. Because the first category is not really friends, they're just part of your social circle and I don't really tell those people stuff like this. I do however tell the people who I know will not judge me and that I can trust them(friends). Good luck buddy!

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Welcome

ya i would say drop being friends with the ex. you guys prob already have alot of emotions for each other and would prob only bring you down. I would say start working on your style and gaining some confidence that kind of identity work. Then I would say start talking to people in general. just learn to get comfortable going out and talking to anybody. maybe open 5 girls a week and be proud you came that far because thats not easy to do. ur right ur in your prime at a university, take advantage of it cause u only have one life!!!

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