I could be so interested, head over heels for a girl...but once shes screws up it just kills everything. Things as little as not calling or getting a hold of you when they are supposed to. Thats actually mainly it.

It probably has something to do with trust, I feel she might be out doing something else and she could just give a random excuse. Drives me crazy, sometimes I call it off, for example, now I just want to text this girl who I've been crazy about to forget any plans we had and that I was wrong about her and shes just typical. Idk what it is I get so upset I dont even want to get over it and keep her on the side. I'd get a much better kick by completely rejecting her and shutting her out.

There have been cases where that made then even more interested lol. But please I dont want to ruin things with this girl. I know shes had work/orientation all day and shes probably tired but thats no excuse not to hear from her especially when we've been trying to finalize plans for the weekend.

The only reasonable thing I can think of to help put me at ease is that maybe her phone died and didnt want to text/call me late when she got home. Then again she just moved back here to miami and you know how miami girls are.......

Anyone have some words of advice for me I'm just restraining myself from sending her a stupid message

Also we met while I was bartending at an event and we went out afterwards had an awesome time and kept in touch. We were making plans for this weekend and there were definite IOIs and there isnt anything I could have done since for her to lose interest. I doubt shes out banging dudes or shit like that really but its those thoughts that are killing/disappointing me.

Oh godd, just realized she is probably getting back at me for doing the same to her yesterday. She had called but I was heading out shopping and never called back. Fuck lol

yeah, women play these games.

don't get "emotionally connected" to a woman until you've sorted out whether or not you can handle her fucking mindgames.

i think consistency is key from early on. these women need to know that if they behave badly you will:

- A) punish their bad behavior
- B) get with other women

period.

that is all.

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thanks mack


so how do i go about resolving this, i was just going to text her a "morning beautiful" and take it from there. should i even mention i was upset or just let it go, and maybe talk about stuff like that when we are out

Ignore her bullshit, continue to game her, escalate?

(as if you didn't give a damn what she does or says)

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I have big trust isssues too bro. The solution is ingrained deep inside you some where. You just need to wrestle with daemon every time he surfaces. I think Trust issues have a great deal to do with rage. I think people that don't trust have a lot of rage in conjunction to this mistrust.

At the end of a bar night. I like two things to happen go home with a girl or a number. or get into a fight. I know it sounds fucked up but this is really the only things that make the night complete for me.

I haven't joined any mixed martial arts classes to prove my theory, but that is just my two cents. Maybe we got a lot of hidden rage that comes out as mistrust for girls that we have no reason to mistrust.

yea i have a lot of possible explanations and reasons of where it could be coming from, but ehh i'm over it for now. ended up going out with this girl, very down to earth, smart, etc. we had fun at the bar, made out on the beach til 4 am, great night, but not so wild about her anymore lmao.

been on freeze out for almost two days, i left her hanging on a text message. she's supposed to be free this weekend, we'll see what happens. thanks everyone this site is awesome

if she calls, i'd def meet up with her again so she can show me more around s. florida, but i'm pretty indifferent at this point. crazy how you can get all caught up with a chick and next thing you know, its whatever