Anxiety = feelings of fear, worry, uneasiness and dread.

Approach = to come near, or nearer to.

So, i have no fear of rejection at all. I am completly confident of who i am and proud of who i am also. When i see a HB or even someone who looks interesting to talk to, man or women... i just cant approach them. Its not that im scared of rejection of anxious of what they might think of me. So what is my problem do i have ''approach'' ?

Most people (like me) have AA because they are scared of what they might think of them, and get rejected.

If you have no fear or rejection or you dont care what they might think of you, you must probably think again.

The only thing I can come up with is that you don't have anything entertaining to say, or have problems with keeping the conversation going... Try more routines, memorize openers, routines, etc.


But be glad that you only have that problem, because a lot of guys have all 3 problems.

I kinda have the same problem. I dont worry about the actual rejection too much, mainly my performance. One thing I do worry about when it concerns rejection, is that when I get rejected, I'm always paranoid that she did so because she thinks I'm a "freak" or a "pervert", which is a common fear for so many of us.

According to PU master Mystery, AA is evolutionarily programmed in us men. It goes way back to the days when men were just prehistoric travelling nomads. When other nomads would just as soon kill a man than to look at him. As a result, that fear of meeting new people sort of evolved over the eons into what we now know as AA. Personally, I think that theory is a little far fetched, but I have yet to hear a better one.

guys, something i realised today, is that alot of my AA and general being out of state when sarging was because i believed what i was doing was "low value" or "loserish", im going to do a post on why going out alone and approaching is a super-high value thing to do abit later, but in general i can relate to this


Ive been rejected before laughed at or w.e, it isnt this which is giving you the anxiety, and even so just that little anxiety really isnt stopping you.

if someone said "ill give you a million if you go approach that girl" the AA would be overcome. Its because, particularly at the start where you feel any real success is unlikely, approaching will actually lower your value and is a low value thing to be doing in the first place.

thus the "just cant approach" comes from a belief that by doing so you are automatically seen as low value.

i changed this belief last night and today i was on fire, not only much less AA so that i could overcome, but i was embarressed or out of state at what i was doing.

and im not by far advanced or anything, im probs in same shoes as you guys.

look out for my post later, post it bout 10 ish

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Id rather die on my feet than live on my knees

I'll repost what i have posted earlier ..




Rejection is Part of Pick-Up, you know sometimes we may fail and succeed but don't let rejection put you down or anything that people may say about you, just continue what you love to do and don't let anyone stop you from doing what you really want..


My tip for Rejection:
If rejected just put your head up high and who cares what she thinks,perhaps you probably won't ever see her again anyway and smile at her and walk away and never ever look at the ground and have that disappointed look on your face! just walk away like nothing happened then chill for a while and then proceed to your next target..




-TheNaturalPlayboy

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Sometimes when i'm with my chick on the low, I'm a flirt.

If u don't approach u r scared. Thats it, any excuse is just bullshit.

It is not what u r saying but what ur behavior is saying.

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Indeed. This is bullshit. If you wouldn't fear rejection, you would approach. If you want to get cured, the first thing you need to realize is that you do fear rejection.