There wouldn't have been anything wrong about going to your friend and saying you wouldn't have been comfortable with it...but that is all you can say about it. You can choose not to be his friend but you cant choose who he does or does not fuck. This is one of life's painful little realities that you wish you could change but ya just cant. Sucks.

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Hey dude,

On the one side your friend defiantly broke a certain unwritten rule of friendship. Even if a dude says it's OK to bang an EX one needs to be careful. Somebody say too soon?

That being said, there is some value in objectively looking at your jealousy. How is your sex life? If your hooking up with a bunch of different girls than we all know that you wouldn't give a shit. Chances are this is the last girl that you fucked so it makes sense that your hurting. But realize that you are coming from a mentality of scarcity. If you had an abundance of women in your life it wouldn't matter what she did because you would have a bunch of other girls lined up to have a great time with.

It all depends were you are coming from. Work on your belief system that you are truly the prize and things like this won;t even register.

Again, this really has been my go too question, have you been working on your inner game?

I would check out guys like Cory Skyy who teach guys how to get their belief system rock solid while mastering inner game.

Be Well,

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Good on him for at least asking you. But sometimes, man, you just got to be honest with your friend. Tell him it bothers you. Maybe within time it would be okay. If he was really your friend, he'd understand and let it go.

Then get him laid.

I wouldn't get upset about your ex, you guys are seperated and should be totally free in whatever you guys want to do. However, I do think it is kind of backstabbing from your friend to hook up with your ex without consulting you.

I just assume you guys are not broken up that long, bc you still care about what she does. Your friend should know how you feel about the situation so short after a break up and therefore at least ask you about it, before he hooks up with your ex.

The only advice I can give you is FTOW (Fuck Ten Other Women), it truly helps you get over a past relationship if you can get affection/sexual attention from other girls. At least, it helped me get over my ex, I hope it will help you as well!

Wow.... to those who's dogging on this guy and giving him shit, fuck off. Seriously. Give the man a fucking break, he broke up with his girl, and now his friend is fucking her, that can be pretty weird and heartbreaking. If anyone of you went through the same shit this guy went through, and the girl that was with you is actually someone you really care about not some girl you just want to have sex with and not give a shit about, you'll probably feel something too. So really, fuck off.

With that said, I would like to encourage you to learn from this. I know that it can be pretty tough, but honestly, you cant change what has happen. Your friend has done the deed, and now you have two choices. You can either hold a grudge and resent this for the rest of your life or you can simply choose to let it go and be happy.

Let me make it more simple, you want to mope and cry or do you want to be happy? Being happy is a choice, and it is up to you to make it. You can move on or you can stay at the same spot while time goes on. You can choose to better yourself, improve yourself and become happier and better without her or you can stay stuck where you're at. I want you to really think about this, what do you want with your life? Is the current situation the one that you really want to be in right now? Or do you want something even better? You gotta know, you CAN have that better stuff, you just gotta get up, stay strong and get it. When life knocks you down, you gotta get back up, don't get stuck to the ground, get up! GET UP! get up and just start walking Get up and retrace the path that you want to walk. Your ex is now a past, let her be in the past, don't let the past haunt your present. If she does come back, make sure it's good enough to even be in your presence. You are a man, this is your life, you have so mch potential, and I know this is not the best you can do. I know that you have the potential to be great and have fun with your life. Anyone does, and you deserve it. Now....

I want you to get the fuck up, drop your baggage that you don't need, get out there and do something that you always want to do. Have fun with your life and have fun with yourself, because you owe it to yourself. I know you can do it and I believe in you. Believe me for believing in you.


- Nelson

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Fuck that dude.. tell him to kick rocks..

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Cutiest girl ask for more, unfortunately someone's creeping on my floor.. an empty glass a topless babe a knock at the door.. girlfriends girlfriends never could be more..

as i said get rid of your friend, why??? cause you are letting him cross boundaries bro code broken, remember in the book the game how katia or whatever her name was fuck up the whole gig. i have a friend at the club, that try to do the same shit all the time! specially when i freeze girls out, or punish them for wrong behavior... But while i freeze them out or whatever on dance floor game he jumps in fucking up my game... Anyways, i do not hang with him fuck that shit, you by letting this shit happen are letting break bro code and cross boundaries, i have a wing that tells me all the time to game girls he has been with, as much as i would like to do it, i do not, again, too many fish in the sea... your friend is a dick an a$#%hole, dump him.

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Exactly

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Cutiest girl ask for more, unfortunately someone's creeping on my floor.. an empty glass a topless babe a knock at the door.. girlfriends girlfriends never could be more..

Read my signature

Oh.. and as in the ''10 things I would've liked someone to teach me'' post, ALL girls can be replaced (or something like that)

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If you weren't cool with it you shouldn't have told him you were cool with it. Bottom Line. Live and learn

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habitual jerk, guys talk like that, if you ask any and i mean any guy, hey dude can i hook up with your ex? 99% of the guys will give you this macho answer: "hey dude go ahead i do not give a fuck"... which is bs, they are just trying to look alpha... P.s. ihahaha i love your name!

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I told my friend that if he ever hooked up with my ex before I tell him it's OK that I would never forgive him.

Don't just assume that everyone is valuing their pride as highly as you do.

If something's gonna make you feel like shit, let your friend know. He's your friend for a reason.

Little panda if i am a friend, i would never sleep with my friend ex... I do not get this, end of story...He ain't a friend...

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^Be it as may, but I suggest you think twice before telling your friend you're OK with him sleeping with your ex. He's not the one to blame here - you're allowing your pride to get the best of you.

My point exactly. I do agree completely with what you said above. I'm also with you on the fact that I would personally never sleep with my friends ex. We're obviously better friends than the OP's friend. However, the point of this forum is for members to learn to be bigger men than 99% of guys a.k.a. "AFC's." With that in mind this thread isn't about the friend. Its about giving the OP advice to avoid this in the future. So guys might say they don't care just to look alpha but the real alpha either actually doesn't care or he does care and he'll have no shame in telling his friend either way. So I've got to agree with Little Panda here. Bottom line... The OP has to lay the rules from the start. If his friend doesn't cooperate then boot him.
Thanks! thought of it myself

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