Hello everyone, I am LiquidUnit(first post awesome, if it were not for this community i would have never gotten laid, from the bottom of my heart thanks guys). My strengths are good body language, good eye contact, kino escalation, and being able to create that initial attraction. I do very well when I am introduced to a girl or warm approaches I can usually number close and set up a day 2.

That was enough for me until now, I am DETERMINED to plough through this!

Today was my first day doing cold approaches, I was rather shocked. It was during the day at a large mall in my city. I had very good BL/eye contact, even received many IoI's and approach invitation but my mouth REFUSED to say anything.

The first shock came to me when I was in the book store, actually looking for something to read (taking out 2 birds with 1 stone) when I noticed this cute girl walk pass my aisle, then walk immediately back into it to take a look at some books a few steps from me. She was giving me some classic IoIs, passing glances/tossing her hair ect. I saw them, I recognized in the moment, I KNEW she was inviting me to an approach, But I did nothing, I waited there for moments building the will power, half a minute or so passed and I realized I had probably staled her out. I pretending to get a book I was interested in and left.

I figured it was no big deal I went outside told my self to force the 3 second rule on the first girl I saw, I counted in my head to three when I saw her, I barley managed squeeze out an almost inaudible hi. no good.

then the next, This time I was louder, but it came out awkward and the set kept walking by.

I was waiting in a line when this very short cute girl walked by. We locked eyes, she smiled and so did I. She slowed down as she approached All I could do was keep my eyes locked on hers. She walked passed me still looking at me, giving the wonderful backward glance that i normally pounce on, but my mouth refused to say even my most practiced of routines.

This story continued it self, until right before I was about to go home this semi cute bookstore employee had asked me if I needed anything, we talked for almost half an hour about literature and that movie inception, her favorite kind of books, I was able to kino escalate and she was comfortable with me being close/ holding her hands I knew I could close, however I ejected determined to make a few more attempts at a cold approach to no avail.

Failer after failer, I couldn't even say hi towards then end of the day.

I REALLY thought about it and I may feel that If i dont have reason to say something to a girl i wont say anything.

Tomorrow I am going to a new place and play only direct game to try and force my way to this. How do you guys deal with this?

Quick question where do you live?

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hey man i know exactly exactly how you feel

its partly an inner game thing, being able to stay in state in situations like this. It occurs even when you know woman like to be approached and like sex. I think its because their is a perceived wierdness in approaching during the day, like your breaking some social boundary.

at a party/club or w.e, i could approach happily and have fun with it. I remember first time going out during the day. nothing. just couldnt force myself

just keep at it, keep going out and trying eventually you will, try using a situational opener at the start just so you feel more comfortable

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Thanks for the reply BoxerSpirit. Like you said I feel like I am breaking a social taboo, I don't really like situational opener too much. I am going to start working a bit more on my inner game. thanks for the advice.