Hello!

Well, i find myself running into the same problem at about the same time with women interact with. Getting numbers, and spiking attraction is relatively easy for me. I just moved to a totally new area leaving long term friends and connection behind. So i need to establish new ones and a cute new women to spend time with would be very nice. However i relocated to a hick town from the big city... not because i wanted to... and have no clue where to meet women. I have managed to meet a few but ran into sticking point that were the same with all of them. I either get flaked on... or out of the blue they loose interest over night. Now, you might question that but really a women who i had planned a date with for the weekend suddenly stopped talking to me and got a boyfriend before that day even occurred. It doesn't really bother me because there are way to many women out there to get hooked on one. i just don't want the same mistakes to happen. Tips are welcome! Thanks for reading.

Rhymer

It sounds like your issue may be the Rapport Stage. Mastering the Attraction Stage is a necessary tool (and will keep you from being friendzoned), but rapport is just as necessary to close. I would suggest amping up the qualifying (draw most of your questions from the "What makes you different?" category), cold reads, and DHV routines. Establish an emotional connection with her. If you've already got attraction, and can get beyond the mundane on the conversational side, then it will decrease the likelihood of you being flaked on.

Thanks for your input. however your suggestion leads me to another question. I communicate with the women i am seeing a lot thru text. I can establish rapport in person better than i would via text. How do you go about establishing rapport through text?

Thanks
Rhymer

You should establish more rapport during the initial interaction. Creating comfort via text is harder, you should be more focused on increasing her investment at that stage. If she feels like she's put a little more time into getting to know you, she'll be less likely to flake.

You could be leaving it too long. Her buzz wears off and suddenly you're just some guy she just met, not someone she really wants to spend time with. You could try getting a number in the morning and calling her that evening to go to a bar or whatever with you and escalate things from there.

A big thing that instructors such as Mystery, Savoy and guys like TenMagnet and Future focus on is going back to A2 every time you talk to a woman you are interested in. You need to remind the girl(s) why they liked you, why they talked to you, and why you have their phone number. She has had some time away from you and has forgot (only momentarily) why she liked you in the first place.

The problem with your situation is that you are texting. While you can throw negs and IODs through texts, it is relatively difficult because a proper neg requires the correct timing, tone, etc. and obviously that has the possibility of being misinterpreted via text. I would recommend calling the girls rather than just texting. If you're not good on the phone (I used to be notoriously terrible at phone game), write out what you want to say, then glance back at it to make sure you follow your game plan. Always start back in A2 (attraction, stage 2 is where you neg the target to demonstrate that you aren't needy and to pump up her attraction) then move to rapport. Rapport and comfort building is almost always done verbally; therefore, scrap your text game for this part. Build comfort after going through A2 and you'll see a massive difference in your game.

Like Slip n Slide said, it is difficult to build comfort via text, so it is important that you at least build a bit of comfort before you leave her. As for texts, I use texting as a way of updating women on my life. The cool shit that I'm doing, the funny story that happened to me, how I saw a girl that looked just like my target, etc. Texting is for popping in and out of her life and showing the good characteristics and qualities about yourself. Think of texting as a DHV machine. Face to face and using your voice rather than texts is for comfort.

Hope this helps

Thanks for everyone's input it did help. The problem in that situation was i had little time to talk and she was on the move as well. So i really just walked but to her and pulled my favorite direct approach. Funny this is we actually will have a class together when college starts up again in September.

Thank you to everyone again
Rhymer

craziness, I think you played it quite well. Just my 2 cents!

thanks hoplouie!

but unfortunately she doesnt agree with you haha!