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I can't stop thinking about this chick brothers. She's in my English class and she sits right next to me, the professor blabs so fucking much and the little time I have before class I talk to her, make her laugh, neg her, etc. She just seems to be showing no romantic interest. No IOI's whatsoever (can someone post a big list of IOI's still so I can check
). I was talking to her today and she was talking about how she wants to kill some girl and I asked her why and she said that she's the girl her ex cheated on her with. She went out with her ex for like 4 years and she still talks to him. I told her she must be an idiot for still talking to him and she just said "I know but I knew him for 4 years". I don't think she still has interest in him but she's just confused. I'm not going to class tomorrow cause I have to go job hunting but I will go the day after and I'm running out of ideas guys. We both have pretty busy schedules and I still think it's a little early to suggest spending time with her without it getting really really awkward. What should I do guys?? I want her to see me in a different light ya know. I'm thinking about this girl day and night fellas, help me out
we still have class together for 1 and a half months, so I want her to be really into me before I run out of time because I know we won't have class together again cause we have different majors.
I'll keep you guys updated everyday and I will be implementing the advice given here.
Here is a list of IOIs:
-Does she look down? This is a form of submission, welcoming.
-Which way is her body leaning?
-Are her arms crossed?
-Does she have a slightly higher then normal blink rate(more then one every 3 seconds)?
-Does she have raised eye brows(also a from of submission)?
-Is she preening her Hair?
-Are there hand movement bringing attention to face?
-Holding eye contact for 3 seconds or more, then she looks down.
-Are her eyes dilated(are her pupils big)?
-If you are standing which way are her feet pointing(towards you is good)? -Watch the corners of her lips, do they go down(bad), or up?
-Does she bite her lip? Do not confuse with tight lips which is bad.
-Does she posture(push breasts up), sitting with crossed legs(good when leaning toward you, "showing" them to you, or pointing toward you)?
-If she is crossing her legs in a way away from you with arms folded across her chest that is a huge negative sign.
-Does she Tilt her head? Exposure to her neck.
-Looking up at you in a childhood manner.
-Does she copy your posture, movements?
-Shoulder shrug.
-Droopy jaw, is subconscious and difficult to control.
-When your standing next to her which way are her feet pointing?(Toward you is good)
-Relaxed movements(she is comfortable around you).
-Look at a spot convenient for both of you, if they look and stare at the spot, there is interest( spot on the roof or wall).
-Isopraxism, she is copying your body movement hands on lap. Put your chin on your hands at a table if she does the same, then you take your hands off your chin, see if they copy your movements. It is also a good thing to do to a girl that you are interested in, it builds rapport by making you seem similar.
-Glancing in your area, does she constantly look toward you or past you? Girls have better peripheral vision then men(we have tunnel vision), they can check us out easier then we can check them out. Studies show woman actually check men out more often then men check out women. They are also a lot more thorough.
There are a ton of these, but since some of them are subconscious they are very subtle and easy to miss. There obviously will have to be a combination of these, you don't need all of them. However you will need at least 3 of these, they also have to fit the situation though. For instance, obviously at a concert a girl touching you isn't necessarily a IOI but if you are alone together it is.
I am not a master of these by any means, I sometimes miss them and think over the situation later and realize that I was given openings. It happened last night. I had a few situations talking to girls where I missed some signals, I had openings. I didn't want a few, so I let them go no matter how many times they came to me. I had a target girl by this point, although that girl was increasing my value. She denied 2 other guys.
As far as getting that girl I am of no use, my goofy laugh and personality help me naturally conversate with girls. I have one girl that is similar though where she is the kind that have beautiful eyes that haunt you for a few days. If she is not the most attractive women I have talked to she is very close. Just an amazing girl, I don't know what to do about her, so I feel you, however she does send me IOIs.
CHAT
