| Yo! I'm a 26 year old from edmonton alberta. I'm not entirely unversed in the ways of pickup, but I'm new to the whole forum advice thing. I'm aware of most of the terminology through books (the game, rules of the game, and alot of David D.'s stuff), and talking with other aspiring PUAs.
What I hope to gain from this place is the elimination of my sticking points (0 approach anxiety, but lack baing able to get passed openers, and keeping the conversation going as of this moment).
I'm not exclusively looking for one night stands, but wouldn't mind them. What I truly long for is trust, understanding, and companionship more than anything.
Since my dad died, I realized how much of my like I was throwing away to video games (I've realized that it was mental masturbation. A way to get instant gratification, and instant feedback that your actions are doing everyone good). I realized that I needed to put my time into things that will better my life. I told my brother this, and he suggested me some reading material, and that got me fascinated with the PUA world.
Since I've thrown away what essentially took up all my free time, I find myself without a passion. nothing that gives me drive, other than the fact I don't want to die alone. I guess that lack of passion for life is what's holding me back, but I'm sure that if I found someone worth fighting for that it would give my life some purpose.
As you can tell I'm quite analytical (if not over analytical), and introspective. It's a strength in that I can easily identify what's holding me back. But it also is a disadvantage because i can get wrapped up in thought; that I won't let everything in life just roll passed me like most naturals/PUAs do. I'm constantly in the past or future.
When I approach women, I think out the first one or 2 things to say, and let the conversations grow naturally. but I get stuck around the 4 or 5 minute mark. I'm aware of the 90 10 rule, but topic guidance is not my forte. it's like I'm leading a dance knowing only the first 2 steps (I've been taking dancing lessons btw, and I've realized the parallels between dancing and interaction are almost uncanny).
Anyway, that's enough babble from me. I hope it gives you more than enough of a glimpse into my plight, and hopefully you'll be able to help me. if you could, I'd forver be in your debt.
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