| Like most people who discovered The Game, through the book, 'The Game' I started my PUA journey as a Mystery Method devotee. I began learning gambits, routines, body language skills and even tried a magic trick or two (though quickly gave that up).
A few months passed and my success was growing. After spending more time on these forums, I began to notice a trend towards natural game and that MM was somewhat frowned upon.
The more I read that natural game was better, the more I began to doubt MM. The more I read MM was lame, the less effort I put into learning the formulas and techniques.
Thus, I began sarging the natural way. Just approaching girls using the calibration and body language skills I had already acquired since starting my PUA journey. I was confident, my inner game (by this stage) was somewhat sound. I used good tonality and expressed my thoughts and ideas as a high-value male. I learned not to seek the approval of women, meaning I did not come across as needy. Though scripted openers would sometimes still escape my lips and the 'best friends test' would rear its head on occasions, most of my material was made up on the spot.
I was on my way to becoming a true natural and that's when my problems started.
My success rate dropped. I was still *closing girls, but now it was different. I was just an alpha guy asking girls to kiss me. It felt very caveman/afc really. There was no style in it ('scuse pun), no finesse, no art-form. If I was kissing girls, that means it was working right? Well, If you're talking about your average girl or two at a bar, who aren't overly attractive, or interesting, yes it worked. But maybe you're referring to the HB11 surrounded by her group of workmates, in which case the answer would be a resounding no.
Admittedly not all the girls I kissed were boring or unattractive. But isn't the ultimate goal of a PUA to have the skills and ability to get the girl anywhere, anytime?
I believe as a natural there's less pressure and less work. No gambits/routines or patterns to learn. It's the simple road. Just be yourself, be fun, engaging, teasing, sociable and girls will fall at your feet. Only some will.
Many people take the natural path because it's far less work than memorizing patterns/routines and having to know the right thing to say at the right time, I was one of those people. I believe that's why the natural movement is gaining so much popularity, it's less work. But when you see the girl of your dreams at a bar, surrounded by a group of footballers, is being a confident, high-value man with decent social skills enough to get you over the line?
I recognize that MM can be very flawed if a man allows it to change him into something he's not. Especially if he's lying about his stripper ex girlfriends being abducted by sea-monkeys. This puts many people off MM, the belief that it turns you into a show-pony and tall-tale-teller. It can if you let it. But the theories and techniques behind it are impressively solid, the best. It's what pick up, as an art-form, is really based on.
On the similar note it would be unfair if I did not say that being a natural embodies many excellent things. Solid body language, tonality and more importantly, being an interesting, high value guy, for real,. These are irreplaceable attributes in becoming a PUA. But it's only half the art-form.
A natural PUA without knowledge of how solid game works is missing half the weapons out his arsenal.
It's musical ability without the theory. It's a skilled writer who can't spell. It's a street fighter with no martial technique. Am I saying that you can't be an all natural and have solid game? If solid game is getting the girl consistently, despite circumstance or depending too much on how the girl feels at the time/ her situation, the answer is yes.
If your game is struggling between natural and MM game here's my advice: Learn everything you can about being a natural. Then go back to FMAC (Find Meet Attract Close). Follow it step by step, set by set, consistently trying to reach the next level. Implement new routines, gambit, stories and note which level you can usually get your target to, then work on your sticking points. Throw out what doesn't work and take note of what does. Replace bad habits and bring discipline into your life. But do not throw out your personality or become something your not. Build your skill set. This is the simplest way to work on your game and tangibly note your improvements.
Are you a natural? Great! But that's only half the journey. Discrediting learning solid game, whatever your excuse, is going to cripple your performance and options. No doubt it takes time and effort, to learn negging, boyfriend destroying patterns, rehearse DHV stories and so on, but it's this hard work that pays off. I'm not asking people to become, 'unatural' or somebody they're not, but more asking the school of naturals to give pick-up, as an art-form, the credit it deserves.
After-all pickup is an art-form, that's why we're called artists.
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