Hi there!
I recently got out of a 3 year LTR so am easing back into the game. And really just learning game, the PUA community is new to me. Read "The Game" and now reading "DYD".

Before I got into the recent LTR I was beginning to come into my own when it came to women. I was able to approach them, flirt, number close. I was dating a few women at once but felt like I needed to "settle down". And I settled for the first woman that I liked and was available to me, meaning giving me attention and sex. It was good for a few months but in retrospect I was never proud that she was my girlfriend (in a trophy sort of way) and I eventually fell out of love with her and was not physically attracted to her anymore. I didn't know how to end the LTR, it was easier for me to stay in it. I had a very bad case of oneitis. She said to me on a few occasions that she "felt sorry for me" in a "you are a broken person and I am simply dating you out of pity" way. On the surface I didn't process it but I think subconsciously I believed her! I felt that I was broken and I felt that I should stay with her because nobody else would want me. Hey, I should be so lucky to be with her. Well I think that this mindset caused me to devalue myself and lose what confidence and self-esteem I had. I was stuck and I felt depressed. I also let her control our social circle and I let my social circle dwindle. Another mistake.

Now I've felt like a weight has been lifted off me after we parted ways. I slowly started getting my confidence and self-esteem back. It feels good! I have made a conscious effort to be more social - re-kindling friendships, never saying no to a social engagement, meeting strangers, lining up dates through match.com (3 so far), smiling, having a positive attitude and being confident. I can smile and have a positive attitude but being confident with myself, I think, will be a fake it 'til you make it endeavor. I know that I need to work on inner game for this to be a natural part of who I am.

Field Report
I am getting my game back, I was near a number close the other day with a HB8 but didn't have the confidence to do so. I also met a HB10 yesterday. I played it poor to okay. I was at a party and as soon as I saw this girl I knew she was my target. I was already making the rounds, meeting everybody, smiling, having fun, being laid back and cool. I purposely ignored just this girl and never made an effort to meet her (that works for me too because I would have had AA anyways . At some point I had to use the restroom and didn't know where it was so I asked out loud where it was. HB10 says I'll show you, introduces herself and shows me where it is. I make a neg joke, she laughs. Later we meet again one on one and we begin chatting about boring topics, work, where we live, etc. I was laying back in a chair and she was standing. I noticed that I qualified myself a time or two which was AFC. Also I remember keeping very limited eye contact with her when I was talking (my current goal, see below). In retrospect I needed to be C&F, DHV, make her qualify herself, maintain eye contact and smile. I also thought I should have changed the subject from the boring stuff to a female opinion routine. Suggestions? This was the type of girl I want to be dating!

I need to make goals in order to make progress, I already had started doing that, so I'll call that Week 0.

Week 0 Goal
Stop masturbating every day
Method: Just don't choke the chicken! Take a walk, listen to music, don't look at porn. There is a reward of masturbation every Sunday if needed.
Measure: With my nuts full and bursting I should be more inclined to put myself out there.

I completed this goal and rewarded myself! But I do feel less motivation to sarge now LOL

Week 1 Goal
Have strong eye contact
Method: Keep self aware and consciously count 5 conversations every day of this week where I maintain eye contact for longer than the other person/s I am talking to.
Measure: Eye contact has become more instinctual and automatic.

Wrapping this up for today, I'm tall, attractive, in shape, and cool. I want the self-esteem and confidence pieces to help my overall social game that will increase my social value and in turn make me a mPUA so I can get laid by these HB10s!

Any suggestions, comments, tips, opinions are more than welcome!

Nothing worth doing in life is easy,
tinsley

I am not going to do goals by week as my schedule is busy and I can't commit to a new goal every week. I will strive to do a new goal weekly but it will probably be bi-weekly.

Goal 1
Stop masturbating every day
Method: Just don't choke the chicken! Take a walk, listen to music, don't look at porn. There is a reward of masturbation every Sunday if needed.
Measure: With my nuts full and bursting I should be more inclined to put myself out there.

I am still doing this. I find myself more outgoing and more open to meet women when my nuts are saturated with seed.

Goal 2
Have strong eye contact
Method: Keep self aware and consciously count 5 conversations every day of this week where I maintain eye contact for longer than the other person/s I am talking to.
Measure: Eye contact has become more instinctual and automatic.

I have been a lot more conscious of maintaining eye contact. I like it too. I have spent most of my life avoiding eye contact, being shy, being introverted (not that there's anything wrong with that). I find that I keep eye contact now and when I find myself looking away from the person when I'm talking I usually immediately remember to look into the person's eyes. My goal of having strong eye contact is becoming more automatic.

Goal 3
Smile
Method: Keep self aware and consciously count 5 smiles every day of this week where I smile (full, showing off my pearly whites) at another person I don't know. I will do this with people I know but I am only counting strangers.

Measure: Smiling has become more instinctual and automatic.


Field Reports
I had a date lined up with a HB, I texted her the day before to set the details and I never heard from her. Flaked. I never texted her again and never heard from her.

I had a date with a UG, it went okay but I was not interested in her. She was pretty interested in me via IOIs and I never texted her again. It was good practice.

I had a date with a HB and it went really well, hug closed her. I texted her a couple days later to say I had a good time. She replied with the same then I asked her when she was cooking me dinner. We are supposed to get together this week to make dinner. I am hoping to escalate and f-close this one.

I haven't been out much to the bars in order to sarge although I was out last night and was able to open some young HB's by using my opener "so what's up?". I had one eventually holding my hand but she ran off. I should have done some DHV routines on her and exchanged numbers right away. I also met another HB and she was giving me IOI's, I think she is normally touchy-feely but she also started scratching my back all over when I went up to the bar to order a drink. I will see her again as she is a friend of a friend.

Conclusion
I have recently read 60 Years of Challenge system. I think his system suits me well as I am a physical touch person. When I've met some HBs out and shake their hand I am not the first one to let go and I've had them say "are you gonna let go of my hand" LOL.

I read the Apocalypse opener. I find it interesting and I have actually used this a few times years ago, not word for word, but pretty close. It has worked for me but I think you must be in a very confidential frame. I've also had women say "you don't even know my name" LOL. I think I will try this opener in the right situation.

I also have been looking into women's eyes (that I'm interested in) like I am making love to them. I think that this is golden as I am creating sexual tension right away.

Peace,
Tinsley

I think I have been doing well on my aforementioned goals 1 and 2. They are becoming more automatic now.

Goal 3
Smile
Method: Keep self aware and consciously count 5 smiles every day of this week where I smile (full, showing off my pearly whites) at another person I don't know. I will do this with people I know but I am only counting strangers.

Measure: Smiling has become more instinctual and automatic.

I have not done too well with this goal. I started out okay with it but it went downhill. I did find some women would respond with a smile and a hi and others would look straight ahead without flinching. I need more time with this goal. I will make a more conscious effort to do this and count the 5 every day.

Field Reports
I went out of town to visit some friends. We went to a club where I approached women. I hit it off with one HB 7.5. Right away I was doing kino (hand on lower back, arm around her for a picture). She begged me to dance with her. I went out to the floor and we danced a bit. I was twirling her (wow, she ate that up!) and I could tell it was going to be a good night with her. I eventually went in for a kiss which she turned away from. Kept dancing, went in again and got a short peck. I figured it was ASD. Went in a third time and we are basically making out. I told her I was going to go sit and hang out with my friends. She says she wants to keep dancing and I should stay. I leave and sit with my friends. She eventually finds me and sits next to me. I tell her we are leaving to go to another bar and she should come with to which she agrees. There's quite a bit of kino during the trip to the next bar, hand holding, arm around her, hand on lower back, hand rubbing lower back, hugs, kisses. We stay at the next bar for a drink then I take her back to her place. Doesn't take long to f-close. And then twice more in the morning. That's all we could do because I only had 3 condoms. I see her late the next night for more of the same. When we part she says that nobody has ever touched her the way I have. Nice! Since parting she has SMS'ed things like "OMG! I wanted more and more! It was amazing. The best sex ever...I enjoyed it a lot" and "It was an amazing feeling. The whole thing was great. You don't feel like that often. I want more...We should meet again".

I have always been a kino oriented person. I have, however, picked up some great things from The Game and 60 Years Of Challenge like touching the hair early, smell the neck, kiss and bite the neck, kiss and bite the inner arm. All which I used this time.

Conclusion
I need your help! I need ideas for goals. Any opinions and suggestions are wanted.

I have recently picked up NLP The New Technology Of Achievement which I will being reading soon. I will report what I learn.

I think the f-close was good for my game, for my confidence, for my self-esteem. Hoping to continue on this path.

Peace,
Tinsley