ok so i met this girl in a nightclub and # closed her we then texted for a bit and i went out with her on wednesday night the date went relativley well but this is my problem...

ok so when i was out with her i was talking to her about her holiday which shed just come back from, she said shed met this guy on holiday and that was all. But as the night went on she said shed lost her virginty to this guy on her holiday(were both 17 its not that big of deal for her to have been a virgin) This didnt bother me but then she says he was thinking of coming over from england to see her( i live in ireland) i was like thats creepy use r only 17 bit wierd him paying so much money just to see u for 3 days she then replied but we got really close on holiday.. so i changed subject and got her thinking about me again but she texted him every so often during the night. anyway i kiss closed her a few times during the night. Then at the end of it i said to her i wanted to see her a few more times before i go on holiday but is there any point if this guy from england is coming over she said nothing serious was goin to happen between that guy and her and there was a point me seeing her again. im meeting up with her on saturday again but i get the feeling shes losing intrest in me and i think its because of this other guy.

Any advice how to get rid of him or get her attention of him and on to me?

shit move man,

don't diss her choice in men, over-exagerate positive things about him, so she compares him to what your saying, creates positive anchor to you, and negative anchor to him,

also when on the topic of the other guy, just change topics, don't talk about him or show interest in him,

if you like her just game as usual, don't get rid of him, just be better then him and she will shift to you

^^^this.

I was just in a situation similar to this, ie. she was already seeing a guy when I first started seeing her. Being more fun and interesting than him is vital. Make sure on your date you do something fun and a bit different so you really stand out from the other guys. Act carefree as to whether she keeps seeing you or not as you have plenty of other potential girls who would love to be with you. Do not be clingy or needy at all.

but yes he sounds like a freak for flying to see her for a few days but never diss him in front of her

good luck.