Hey Guys,

so short introduction...I'm a pretty confident guy in everything I do, it's because I'm part of the German Karate National Team...pretty clever, can play the guitar and the piano since I was four years old.

BUT...there's one part I usually feel like being AFC...I know my Girl can't find someone better than me...and she let me feel that all the time, she lives like 15 miles away, so we see each other once or twice a week for usually 2 days or so

But when we're apart...sometimes I text her and don't get an answer or maybe just 3 hours later....but on the other hand, she text me right after we hang up on the phone like: Haha you hang up...again you are the loser cutie...*kiss ya*
But the most of the days we talk on the phone on the evenings...


So to everybody with LTR's how much contact do you have...texting, calling ?
and any other suggestion oder advices...

Personally, I have regular contact with my girlfriend. Although we live together, she likes seeing her family on a regular basis and often stays with her family during school breaks. Furthermore, my work often has me traveling out of state or around the state, so there are various times when we're just not able to be around one another.

When we're not together, we usually text good night to one another every night (usually her because she goes to sleep well before I do). Beyond that, however, most of our conversations (phone or text) are initiated by myself.

I've found that staggering contact is a good idea. She likes maintaining contact every day, and I think it's cute so I'm not going to change that. I don't feel like she has any control over me or vice versa just because she wants to say good night to me. However, when I contact her, it's not as often but usually something with more substance to it. I'll tell her something really interesting that is going on or any important decisions I'm going to make. I try to keep her 'in the loop' without feeling like I'm needlessly gossiping for attention.

Ultimately, it's about where YOU feel your contact level should be. Avoid being clingy, but at the same time if you create too much distance you will damage the relationship. If you feel that she is dominating contact, reassert yourself. If you feel that you've become too cliche, innovate. You'd be surprised how easy it is to make a girl happy by trying something new but not uncomfortable. Try leaving her a message on Facebook, or you could go really classy and "old school" and actually mail her a letter. Let her know that you're down for staying in touch, but on your terms, and then make her want to live it by your terms.

thx SmexiBoi, this is quite the answer I've hoped for

Thanks a lot

TOO much contact can be a bad thing. If you text each other 9000000000000 times a day, every day when it comes to speaking on the phone you might have little else to say. Don't text for the sake of texting is my advice- you could reassure her you're thinking of her with texts like "I'm having [her favourite food] for lunch... jealous? " or something. A little banter a couple of times a day is better than every text being along the lines of "miss you babe xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx".