I've never done the whole relationship thing before because, well I suck at it, and I've never had a relationship last over a month. This one lasted for a couple of months and was amazing but I fucked it up and now i'm feeling awful this technically my first girlfriend (because I chose not to sleep around and give it a shot) and the first girl I've ever cared this much about. I've never had to go through this before and I feel completely shit. She tried to "lets just be friends" me but I'm not doing that, no way.

I need some seriously good advice on how to handle this from a pick up point of view because I'm feeling depressed and very AFC'ish just now. I want to smash up my entire house out of anger and frustration because of feeling this way over someone and I need to know how to deal with this and how to get on with it and over it properly.

I immediately cut off all contact and I've decided to try keep it that way but I just can't be bothered going out to game other women just now.

Just looking for some really good advice on this.

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Breaking up always sucks dude, I think the first time you go through a break up is especially hard because you don't know how to get over it and haven't been through that situation before.

You will still feel like shit for a couple of weeks but there are a few things that I find really help:
-stay busy, keep your mind preoccupied with something else, either work, sport, friends whatever, always make sure you are doing something
-Spend time with your mates
-Go out to parties, clubs etc. I know you don't feel like it but once you get out to the party or wherever you're going you will feel a whole lot better
-Pick up... I know you said you don't feel like it but this really helps me, a new girl/fling really helps me get over the last girl and gets you focussing on the future and possible girls you may meet, not dwelling on the ex
-work out, this will make you feel better about yourself and is great for releasing stress plus there's always babes at the gym

hope this helps,
good luck mate

afc_atticus pretty much summed up everything for you but ill give some advice, just in case you need another point of view. I know the first break ups are really hard.

-join a gym, play any sport, swim, martial arts. basically anything physical.
-make plans with your buddies, go to movies, mall, camping etc
-preferably imo take a picture with a hot babe (do it unknowingly) make it your FB profile picture. when your ex sees you smiling next to a HB and having a good time, she'll be wondering "wtf, why isn't he depressed and sad -__-"




hope you solve all your problems,
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btw I should also add that cutting contact like you have is a good move! I think this is a must if you want to get over her quickly. It will be tempting to talk to her but I think its best if you don't.

You have some excellent advice posted above.

Cutting contact and saying you dont want to be friends with her was a good decision. That shows you still stand your ground for your emotions and your not about to be walked all over, so be proud you made that decision. That's a hard one to make for many.

You dont necessarily need to get another girl. A lot of people will tell you "out with the old in with the new" "new nail drives an old nail out" etc. Well not true for everyone, and you just may not be ready for another girl. That's cool.

Dont go messing up your house, or getting yourself in trouble cause of your new found hurt and aggression. This will pass, and you will become a bigger stronger person because of it.

1. Keep busy. Start working out, get a tan, buy some new clothes, do something to make you feel awesome about yourself. Exercise really helps with the emotional aspect to. Take that aggression and use it positively. Art, music, working out, sports, etc. Just do it positively! (not drugs, as I did to cope with a ex at one time, it will lead you to more pain.)

2. go out have fun, hang with your buddies. Try new things new experiences. Go to concerts etc.

3. You say you suck at relationships and you fkd this one up. It's ok to take a responsibility for your screw ups, and even better to self reflect and realize how you can not do that again. But don't take it all to heart. Were all human and we all have made mistakes and will continue to.


This might sound sorta lame lol... but when I broke up with my ex, I bought a notebook and wrote in it every day. Just wrote whatever was on my mind. Whether it be things I wanted to say to her, or my feelings at the time. When you get done, you re-read it and are amazed by whats going on your head, when you can see it from a different perspective. One day you will fill that thing up, re-read it all and feel even better knowing how far you have come.


stay strong confident, unstoppable.