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Right so I number closed (well bbm) this HB8 pretty hot shes 18 going to university in september (im 21) works at hollister also; I think she was a tad tipsy we had a good conversation was a bit too long though like 15minutes; she was pretty amazed at the "think of a number between 1-4 is it 3" thing...anyway
Next day I bbm her at like 7ishpm.
ME: Being your 200th bbm...there must be some kind of reward for this??
(closed question can be answered with yes or no)
HB: hahaha congratulations.. ?
(she gives you what she can)
ME: Wow not even a free goodie bag?!
(once again closed question)
HB: Hahahha afraid I have nothing to offer u
(again she gives you what she can but is slightly giveing iod, she is not in good mood)
ME: Boooobooo you're boring, thought you would be more fun!
(iod calibrated with disinterest of your own, as you should)
HB: Recovering from a mental night at oceana... Ohhh yeahhh
(she qualifies herself to you for properly calibrating)
ME: Haha I take it you dont have many of them?
(once again closed question, and your asking her to negatively frame herself, more or less iod and this is uncalibrated since she just qualified for you)
HB: Haha no I do.. Slightly sarcastic
(not sure if she wrote slightly sarcastic, but she basicly once again gave you what she could, a yes or no to a closed question and obviously she will try to frame herself positively, girls don't like to jump into negative frames unless they are low self esteem)
ME: Looks like someone has to widen their social circles!
(uncalibrated iod, no need to keep neging her when she is not showing active disinterest)
HB: Hahah to beyond oceana..
(your giveing her nothing to hang onto, its just iod after iod and closed loops, she obviously needs higher BT, by this point it is obvious she is being unreactive)
ME: Mmmhh im going with friends for drinks in london some time this week, guess you could come along if you promise to behave
(nothing is wrong with this)
HB: Im off to ireland tomorrow !
(seems like a legit flake reason)
ME: Gutted for you! bbm me when you're back
(you request compliance)
HB: Will do x
(she complies)
I kind of got the idea she wasnt keen/interested I duno would be cool to maybe get a Day2 out of this but its going to be difficult especially as shes away on holiday also...
whats my play here?
appreciate all feedback x
Lukas
didn't really see mad disinterest, you just run closed ended conversation loops over and over and mistake it for disinterest, try pumping her BT more early in convo with callback humour or something untill she is more reactive, and ask questions that can not be answered with YES, and NO,
you are fine the real test is if she flakes when she gets back, after you re-initiate contact,
also you seem very negative, negative validation only works if the target has a high BT, otherwise it comes off as insulting, instead of as your trying to tease
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