i used to hang out with this girl a few times a week (we were practically dating and almost took her v card) and then some stuff went down and we didn't talk for about a month. I'm just now trying to start it up again. every time i try and ask her to hang out she says we can and then always flakes on me. what can i do to make this work? i don't feel like I'm doing anything wrong here, nor have i done anything to drive her away. i know she is interested because she is always flirting with me and such. she will text me "i love you" and things like that and then when i respond she won't text me back sometimes for days at a time. whenever i see her at work she is always super excited to see me but as of now i am doing the "ignore the target game"

any suggestions on what i should do?

need help ASAP

Well, that "stuff went down" thing? Maybe it isn't as small as you consider it to be. At least not to her, it isn't.

Also, women have become very comfortable with saying "I love you", don't take it to the heart all the time. Most of the times, it's just for saying. Means nothing.

Don't do the "ignore the target game", do the "move on to the next target game".

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Well this will sound lame but she was grounded and her brother stole her phone and pretended to be her parents and told me not tO talk to her anymore. Stupid right? So we started talking again recently and she flirted constantly and want it to go somewhere but she is so hard to get a read on. I don't think I wanna move just yet. I want to stick it Out and see if I can get something to happen.

Like Draper says move to another target but don t ignore that one. What that does mean. It keeps you in shape and don t give u the time to think why does she says that and that and that or why is she so hard to read.
Don t stuck with one allways have a b plan hehe

I noticed a pattern with the HB9's and above which is pretty obvious tbh...

My theory is that because they constantly get attention from guys left right and centre they really feel the loss for those small moments they aren't getting it. So they send out little hooks to the guys who know will respond, flatter them by asking them out, etc, etc. Once the HB has her fix she is no longer interested, sad but true i'm afraid...

You already have a well established comfort level so now you need to take it further... and at pace before you are well and truly deep in the dreaded friend zone haha.

Invite her to somewhere different, somewhere she can't say no to and then when you have her to yourself go in for the seduction the way which works best for you. Perhaps look into body language, etc if you haven't already... Good luck.

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any tips for the text game?

Tease Alot
Short and to the point replies
Send things she can't not respond to
Try and work out her replies before she sends them to keep the convo flowing
Text at times when you know she can reply quickly and have a chat
Only one 'x' will do haha.
Never send two messages in a row without receiving a reply first
And always always be the one to end the conversation first and at the very best point possible.

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It ain't no fun if my homie's can't have none...

If any chick flakes on me, it's cold shoulder time; never respond to texts, ignore her on Facebook, and the whole 9 yards. I do not care how beautiful they are, unless they come back crawling on their knees.

I've actually had one pretty hot girl that did this to a few years back message me on Facebook a little while ago. She sent me a friend request saying she moved to my area and wanted to hang out, but just to catch up. At first I thought she meant that's all she wanted... But, that was meant to imply, she really wanted to see me, and wasn't sure I'd go for it. We ended up dating for a few months...

Edit:just thought I'd better add. When I do take this approach I'm damn sure it was really a flake, and not legitimate unexpected event. If she flakes she'll know you know she was flaking. If she had a legitamet emergency, you could come off like a major asshole.