Here's the situation:
I met this girl a month ago in my town. We spent like 2h together and she definitely was attracted to me. But then on the next day I was leaving for 2 months for the university in other country. But she wrote to me on facebook and I was enjoying talking to her so I decided to try to keep her interest as long as I could - after all I'm just practicing the game.

Recently she was beginning to put me in friend zone, so I started talking to her about stuff like we're running away from our schools and spend the rest of our lifes together in Africa . That was fun and she was responding well, and qualifying herself to me. But then we also had a roleplay like we're married and she's been talking to some other guy, and I guess I was playing a jealous husband way too long and came off as really jealous (yes I know that wasn't the best idea )

So it partially worked. Now she texts me often (usually she initiates). And sometimes she tells me stuff like she thinks of me or that she can't wait till I come back.
But she's also constantly trying to make me jealous by telling me stories about what she was doing with her male friends etc. (...I've been doing that to her too but not in such an obvious way).
And she's now acting too confident!

And just now she texted me:
SHE: "(blah blah blah) what are you doing?"
I gave her 3 options and made her guess and then said it's her turn, then she gave me her 3 options and I said:
ME: "Hey you've just copied that game from me! Try to be more inventive!"
(usually she answers in ~3 mins, but this time she answered right away)
SHE: "You've discouraged me. I'm going to sleep. Good night!"
We both sometimes jokingly take offence so I said:
ME: "Hey, have you taken offence? : )"
...and got no answer

What do I do next? Could that have really insulted her? Or is she just waiting for me to text her tomorrow, cause she wants to prove to herself that i'm interested (in which case I guess I shouldn't text her, right?)

And what do you think I should do in general to lower her confidence and make her chase me again?
My ideas: Should I freeze out? Should I add some pics with another girl on facebook? Or should I carry on, and when she tries to make me jealous - say jokingly stuff like she totally should start dating that guy etc?

And I know there are plenty of fish... But let's say I don't wanna move on unless there's really no way out. There's just 1 month left.

This is my first post so sorry if it was too long and too detailed.

oh a clever trick the woman pulls to get you to post on the forums for help, ignore the non-response, shes just trying to be alpha, you need to put her back on your hook by not texting her back when she texts you next time

happy trails

fender43

Thank You Fender. This makes a lot of sense.

Guess what, she texted me today in the morning:
"Oh I'm not offended : ) I was just beginning to fall asleep : )"

She did that on purpose! Why couldn't she answer right away? She's clearly trying to be alpha.

So I'm gonna follow Your advice... I've never done that before... Oh dear...

Now the thing is that today she's going for holiday on a thing connected with religion, and anyway she won't have contact with the outside world until Friday. But on Friday evening we're arranged to talk on SPAM.

I see two scenarios:
1. She wonders what's going on, why didn't he answer etc and contacts me as soon as she leaves.
2. She gets offended. I which case I will have to do something if I wanna carry on.

I'm still learning how women work What in Your opinion is gonna be happening in her head?

Take it lightly with a grain of salt, and make sure you play it lightly, never make it like your doing it on purpose, remember that your busy having fun and being excited in your own life, if she wants to be apart of it she has to work for it

keep it up, she seems like good material

peace

fender43

In her head she won't be offended man, a key thing you have to learn about this is it's not about her, when she blew you off, you didn't get offended, she became 10x more in your head, enough for you to ask us, don't suppose she will ever get offended, and do not ask like you did, it's showing that you are there to please her, which shouldn't be the case, she is to please you

In her head 2 things are going to be going on

1. why isn't he all up in my life like usual? I don't want to lose my source of attention, MUST WORK HARDER TO KEEP HIM INTERESTED.

2. I hope he doesn't find another girl

the second will only come if you show more disinterest than interest until she returns the favor and asks you "is something wrong?? text me back." do not give in if this happens, YOU ARE WINNING IF this happens.

good luck man its a long road of trial and error but you don't have to fuck 1000's of women to get this stuff, it becomes a simple algorhythm after a while, youll get it in good time



Fender43

hey fender maybe u can help me on mine

so i got a old friend of mine to start talking to me and at first 4 weeks ago she was constantly texting me and stuff to see if i would invite her into my movie nights with my friends my bike nights and my adventure days but about a week ago she stopped texting me and these past 2 days i invited her to guitar hero night and bowling night (never repeat the same "thing" night for 3 months), and she didn't text me back as usual at all so idk if i should invite her tonight or i should just stop texting her til she starts texting back on her own again? i really like this girl and don't want to lose her but at the same time i don't want to sound needy

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"I'm not here to pleasure myself but to give this girls the best times of their lives is my only motivation" ----bikermello

btw add me on facebook i could use the friends to DHV
Lonewolf_Melo@yahoo.com

im on my iphone so forgive me for horrid typing and shitty punctuation


to be honest mello, it depends on your past with this girl, was it ljbf in the past or what.

The only reason i can think of a girl stopping her texts with you is because cha ching you invested too much in her, suppose a girl that is attractive but really annoying is bugging you to come over, in a mans instinct you probrably would just bang her haha

but seriously you would be annoyed by the nusence( no offense)

take it easy for a while dont give any communication, show no weakness or neediness and wait for her to text you or when you hit her up do it in 2 weeks woth a little "hey woman, whats up" or "hey punk whats up" shell reply.

remember dont edge her on to meet or hang out, make her want to hang out with you, when shes avaiable and wants you, you shouldnt be, and thats where attraction will kick in.

may the venusian arts guide you

Fender43

well we were nte LJBF zone before but 2 days ago i wrote in her FB wall "hey me and the club are going to the stratusphere on saturday u coming?"

and she wrote back "hell yeah i'm in and afterwards lets do a bonfire at my place" i said "sure" and from there on we were teasing each other for a couple of hours back and forth but i told her i had to leave cuz of work and i also been spending money since shes losing her job at the end of this month so shes been saving up

hmm so tomorrow i think i'm gonna pick on her a little and be more noticible when hitting on her privately

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"I'm not here to pleasure myself but to give this girls the best times of their lives is my only motivation" ----bikermello

btw add me on facebook i could use the friends to DHV
Lonewolf_Melo@yahoo.com

Hey can we get an update on this post? I'm curious to see how these two scenarios went down!


Tal

Ignoring/showing disinterest works. Ive been proving it for the past 4 months, got this girl on a leash.
@Sundog - your msg was not at all offensive, it was actually a successful neg imo. But then she tried to gain dominance, your reply was probably a turn off to her, it showed weakness. Try going a while without texting her at all, if she texts you wait at least a day before you reply, if she asks why the late reply, just say you were busy. It shows you have more important things happening in your life than talking to her.
Its what ive been doing, and its been working better than i had thought.

sorry if this is late, i only recently started posting in this forum

Sure! It totally worked - I didn't answer that text she sent in the morning and then she texted me again later to say goodbye for these 3 days and I answered with just one word. Afterwards she cancelled her meeting with someone just to be able to talk to me on SPAM

Unfortunately later on I screwed up completely - we had our first kiss and then everything got messed up in my head. But well... that was the first girl I've really used the game on, so I think I did a really good job anyway.

And I've learnt some important lessons:
- You can never stop gaming her even if you're sure that she's totally in love with you.
- You always have to be cool - never demand or expect anything and also never take it too seriously

It's good to show her that you've got other stuff happening in your life but the best thing for your inner game is to really have these other things happening

awesome man, keep it up!

This is general advice to this thread. When texting girls, there's a lot of emphasis placed on waiting a certain amount of time before texting back, playing hard to get the right way, just generally showing that there is an abundance of women in your life.

The best way to achieve complete and genuine mastery of this sort of timing is to actually be out with people and have a bunch of options. Abundance mentalities come from real abundance. When I'm out with other girls, I never check my phone until it becomes useful for my game (freezing a girl out or something) which places natural gaps in my conversations, and allows me to throw in some new thing that just happened to me whenever I feel the need. Text when you go out.

That said, the times when I'm off my game and am staying home with videogames, I pay a ton of attention to girls I'm texting and am generally worse off.