Hey guys, I don't know if I'm putting this at the right place.

I'll try my best to keep it simple, so I open a girl at the bus stop, and turns out she goes to my school. We went out 3, 4 times, but when we were hanging out she kept texting her BF who lives other side of the country.

Here's the problem, I think I might have felt into the friend zone, I've try the cube game on her, she doesn't seems interested. When it comes to kino, she didn't like the way I touch her shoulder when we first hang out, but now she's more comfortable with me, letting me put my hands on her and one night I told her I was cold, she hesitated a little, then hugs and wrap around me (that kinda surprise me, but it's a friend thing? I guess).

So what can I do to make her forget about her boyfriend (Her BF text her almost 24/7 none stop), and be my girlfriend?

Thanks cheers......

How are you starting and escalating kino?? Remember to just be a handsy type of guy. That means when you talk you just touch people. Like you touch them on the arm, or back, or leg. It doesnt have to be holding or something off the bat. Just start getting her used to being touched n get yourself used to touching people while you talk to them. Kino shouldn't creep out a girl. It should start just by little touches while you communicate, and as you build attraction, it progresses naturally.

If the girl has a bf who lives on the other side of the country...it shouldnt matter. Also, if you have been chillin with her, but in noway expressed yourself as a sexual being who wants her, you are probably giving off a friend vibe. I have a couple friends who are just shit with girls. I read over a text convo my one friend was having with this girl he went out on a date with. I watched him get her to our table as Buffalo Wild Wings, but then not turn the convo to anything sexual. I watched him HORRIBLY number close as she was walking away. I read the text convos n was like...dude when are you going to start getting sexual n fun?! He would talk to her about her life and what she was doing that day n blah blah friend shit. He went out with her, bought them dinner, took her back to his place, and barely put his arm around her. (I wasnt there, he told me about it) The thing is, if you don't act sexual and fun off the bat, it gets really weird if you try to later. This is because it is in no way congruent to how you acted when you first met her. Be playful from the get go, and don't be scared to make your intentions known. When I meet a girl, she will know pretty directly that I am about hooking up. I'm not hiding it, IM BROADCASTING IT!

Finally, look up some BDPs n run those. It will at the very least loosen her connection to her long-distance bf. Also, if she is being annoying texting her bf...just grab her phone and throw it. If a girl is at my house n I'm trying to hook up n she is texting, I'll let her send a small amount, then just grab her phone n throw it to the side. She may be like wtf, but if she's into you, she will realize "oo maybe im being a little rude sitting on my phone this whole time". Most of the time the texts aren't THAT important and they can wait til you two are done to keep texting. (If you do that tho, you better have been escalating the situation n be ready to close) Also, you cant be apologetic for it. Just be the man and shit tends to work out.

Good luck buddy, Post results.

ok so dis chick i want to get, well she got a man and she aint really into him at all. She tell me she diggin me and she show me dat she diggin me but she wont let me get any. Im doing everything right and i know i got this chick mesmorized so why aint she doing all da otha shit that comes wit it? i thougt at first she might be a playa but turns out she a strait prude. she dont fuck with no one even though she get hit on all da time. i even had my boy (who can pull any bitch) become friend wit her on fb and he holla at her and she aint take da bait at all so i know she not no hoe but i spent a lot of time gettin to no dis chick she jus wont go all da way even though she like me more den her boyfriend and i dont wnt to pressure her too much but dam i want her. any advice on dis situatoin?

Itsrealgudda:
1. Don't hijack threads, you should have started a new one.
2. Maybe it's just me, but the way you type is aggravating....
3. Are you escalating with her? Build up the sexual tension, kino escalate, learn how to deal with anti-slut defenses. You haven't given enough information for anyone to give you some solid advice.

Sparroww:

1. i "should have" started a new thread- lol who gives a shit. i read dis thread n it reminded me of my situation so i wrote on it. so wat? I must have missed da memo dat this is such an uptight situation, so thanks for filling me in, but ur opinion is not changing shit cause im still on dis thread so, on to da next topic.

2. maybe it's just me, but you come off cocky/uptight and THAT is aggravating but last time i checkd, im not on here trying to make friends, or get anybody from dis sausagefest 2 like me, so frankly 2 out of the 3 things you replied were appreciated but absolutely meaningless to me.

3. finally to da point- i have done all dat, she willing 2 do things but she just wont fuck. simple as dat and im not gona kiss n tell so what other info is there 2 give without going in2 detail that wud help? i dont need answers from da book more like personal experience answers wud be more helpful

lol, bro don't get all defensive. And you're damn right I come off as cocky, cuz I am cocky, not so much uptight though. And I am giving you personal experience answers, don't worry.

Details, I meant like what you were doing to set a sexual frame and shit like that, I don't need to know the details of her blowing you or whatever else is going on. You just need to build more comfort with her, make sure she knows that no one is gunna find out about what she does with you. Just let her know you offering her a good time and discretion and that's all. If that doesn't work then I guess she's just not DTF.

when she acts disinterested you have to freeze her out, make her miss you... then when she does come around show her disinterest when she shows you.... so don't talk to her for 3-4 days, if she texts you a lot you can reply just say heyy i've been really busy, and answer her text but then keep ignoring her. after 3-4 days then talk to her and try to escalate kino if she doesn' like it then act disinterested again. Being in the friendzone isn't bad, it's still a good place to start because she will miss you even if she's not interested, you can pull her into the chasing you frame still. One thing I learned is IGNORE THE BF... do not get jealous do not get bent up on trying to make her leave him... she will in time when she's ready but it could be a while. She feels guilty since she's hurting one of her best friends for a guy she just met, change is a lot of pressure on her, there's a million things... don't try to rush it.