Of course they are.. I know that..
but they are still very confusing somehow..
The thing is we connect fantastically well on a mental level.. it's absolutely amazing.. I meet a girl like that like once every year or so..
.. I think I'm almost overdoing it with her sometimes but it feels so good somehow.. although I get this bad feeling that we are becoming really really good.. hmm.. friends here..
For instance, we can openly talk about my one night stands and laugh about it, as well as her oral sex with some married dude who was a complete loser with no confidence to even be honest with her.. and the thing is.. I don't mind at all and neither does she.. I almost feel like it's the perfect kind of relationship I want to have with a woman (plus sex of course which is the only thing missing here
).. but basically completely open, honest and without having to make shit up or listen to her bs..
BUT.. this is where I seem to flake every time.. when I get into interactions like this, it always tends to somehow fizzle out and eventually not get anywhere.. I'm not really sure where it fails but it always ends with the girl just seeing me as a friend.. perhaps I don't neg her enough.. perhaps I do something else wrong.. either I have to wait with being open until after sex or perhaps I should talk to her and take care of her so she actually 'falls' for me with time..
She said once that she is the kind of person that when she is going to buy say a new tv, she would go to the store an look at it, then go back home and think, then perhaps go to the store again and look at it and so on before she makes her decision so it kinda makes sense that perhaps she needs some time to get more familiar with me..
It seems that we've blown past that hook point though where I should have made some move or negged her out completely for not letting me get closer.. but then it kept going and going and we just keep talking and talking.. and yet it seems we have quite good momentum in our conversations.. they are anything but boring..
What she said was that she thinks we relate really well on a logical level - which is not surprising because I'm a very logical dude. But we fail to relate on an emotional level.. which is not surprising either because umm.. i'm a very logical dude.. hehe..
Her excuse basically is that she doesn't feel in love with me because I rarely ever show any emotion.. hmm..
She is btw a very very feely type.. very self confident and self aware though.. likes to spend much time on her own contemplating things.. reading.. or with really close friends.. likes to meet new people as well but primarily through friends..
It's one of those types of girls who get me completely confused because on the one hand I feel as though we've been together for years and on the other hand I have to think about not becoming too familiar or telling her how I feel about her when we haven't even hooked up yet..
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