To solve this.
Here is all the information. From the start, if anyone can produce a viable and working solution, u r a genius and i shall reward u in any manner possible.

Recently, a HB9 at my school ( i attend school as a senior) and i hooked up. The background is as follows.
She dated a friend of mine for about 8 months until about 2 weeks before i got with her. I have always been close with her since i transferred to the school about 2 years ago. We have always gotten on awesomely and been flirty all the same.
About a year ago she lost her virginity to a friend of mine from another school when she was totalled and blames me for it (obviously she regretted it). Anyway, this relationship she just got out of was very full of angst and fighting. After i got with her she said she wanted to be in a relationship with me and i was cool with that, she told me shes always liked me just that little bit.We agreed that the relationship had to be secret for various social conditions( she doesnt like the group of guys who are my friends) including those i have outlined. This all seemed to be going well until two days later she decided to reneg and change her mind. That night i got drunk and sent her an abusive message (obviously a dumb idea). The next day at school we talked and she forgave me. Over the following school holidays we have made up and seem to be in an awkward limbo. She comes and cuddles up to me at partys when shes drunk and says she likes me but needs to get with a lot of guys at Schoolies (spring break in Australia) to feel better about her ex and the fact that she has recently moved away from home to a friends. The other night at a party she was drunk and i was sober and she was very cuddly, though she had an arguement with me because we both told some people what happened and she blamed me. We seemed to make up and she was all cuddly again. The other night night she called me and got angry and went off at me because she heard a rumour i was trying to get with another girl to make her jealous and was upset and called me a liar. We talked and seemed to resolve some issues, but the tension is still there. Question is, how can i fully close this, if at all to a relationship (she means alot to me) I used to post here alot but was busy with life so havent been here in a while (I had a different account). PLease help me guys!!

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help!!!????????

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Let me outline that your flat out crazy!

To the issue at hand she's a flirty person and a bit of an "easy" going person, did you ever wonder why doesn't like your kind of friends and yet sleeps with them? i was thinking that whilst reading your in depth post.

From what i can tell she seems to depend on you somewhat and your always there, when it comes to balance of power she has this hold on you she blows up you resolve it and everything is good then she will be nice and then remind you with another push for power would that sound right?

I think the solution to your problem is to gain higher value! you want to be with her that's fine although you can see her character from the people she's been with and how she goes a bout her relationships i read on here a list of girls to keep away from i would say she falls into this tbh.

You should push and pull, make her want you but don't give it to her easily pull away and make her chase you YOUR THE MAN!!!!

A relationship shouldn't have to be a secret if you are happy together....

Goodluck

Let me clarify that my main group of friends are those she doesnt like, the two friends she has gotten with previously were from different groups of friends to the one she dislikes. Thanks man, this is a complicated thing and i do feel like im always there but she does take me for granted, should i try and hook up on the sly with someone else to dhv or do i just need to believe im the man- any links to inner game building exercises?

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help???

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I really don't understand why this is happening.

I put up THREE announcements that say "READ BEFORE POSTING" but it's clear that people like you STILL haven't seen those announcements and just posted anyway!

If you HAVE read the "READ BEFORE POSTING" announcement, and you just can't UNDERSTAND the sentences in the announcements, please send me a PM.

Otherwise, I'll be watching your posts very carefully and your next violation of ANY forum rule will result in a ban from the forum.