I jsut like to say I'm so sick that almost every guy here needs help about a girl and the only thing you experienced pua say is "leave her alone she is a one-itis"

Well guess what! To become a m PUA you need to conquear the one you want, so help us instead of sayin "forget about her" Because that sounds sooo AFC!!!!!!

sorry about my english

ummmmm

are there specific posts ur referring to?

i looked real quick to see if it was u, but couldnt find anything....

but, for the record - sometimes newbies truly do have problems with one-itis

post the examples that sparked ur rant and ill help u out

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I understand where hes coming from. If a non mPUA can conquer a girl, be it sexually or mentally, then he can have the confidence to move on to bigger and better things.

So instead of people saying "drop it, its just a case of one-its" they should help us progress with the situation and use it as a learning experience.

Even though a sure fire way to get over one-its is to go out and sarge a couple of girls and you'll forget all about the one-its.

yes i agree - it's great to get that one girl that you REALLY want

HOWEVER - one-itis is not just infactuation with that girl
its what happens to a guy when he gets this way - aka he blows it with the girl - because he starts to shift back to afc
for example.... start calling her too much, buying her presents all the time, spending 24 hrs day with her, etc.

does that make sense guys?
so getting over one-itis isnt always about getting over THAT ONE girl
it's getting out of that mind-set that uv developed
and THAT is how u get the girl to be more interested in u
because you need to make her CHASE YOU
not the other way around - like when u have one-itis
get it?

and again what posts?
if yall need specific help let me know

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Concurring the one-its.......

It is a lost cause.

Not even the best PUA can get every girl. It is a numbers game. Your level changes the ratio but it is still a ratio. 3 out of 10, 5 out of 10, 1 out of 10. The point being, you are still getting 1,3, or 5 out of 10. How do you increase the numbers of girls. With a ratio, it is very easy. Increase the amount of girls you interact with.

So why is it a lost cause. It is a lost cause because you are looking for a pickup line. It may not be the initial line, but they are still lines.

I said this, she said this, what do I say now........
I did this, she did this, what do I do now......

The perfect line delivered wrong still will not net you anything. Even if you are giving enough instruction, you will encounter situations that you will not know how to handle and you will not be close enough to the internet to ask for help.

The single most important concept in being a PUA is having confidence. Period.....!!!. No amount of lines given to you for a specific situation will ever get you there. Sure concurring a one-its will give you confidence. But so will # closing a few other girls. What's worse, is that you are fighting an uphill battle because the one-its knows your AFC.

It is much easier to re-invent yourself around people you do not know than people that you do. Forget about the one-its and move on. You have a much greater chance of success with others and there are too many really hot girls out there just waiting for your attention.......

Get your ass in gear and go out sarging...

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Double Your Dating by DD
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(This will work on your outer game)

I think it is fine to ask for advice on one specific girl or one specific
situation in order to learn from your mistakes and improve, or advice
to continue a progression that's going well.

But when I hear phrases like,:

"She is the one"
"I have to have her/have to get this right"
"I think I really screwed it up with this one girl"...

It's showing you are way too attached to the outcome. And when
you or I get this way it's usually best to separate ourselves from it.

It's easier said than done to just "forget about her", but remember this.
A rolling stone gathers no moss. When you get one-itis, it means you've
stopped moving forward.

Pick up a new hobby. Make new friends. Meet more women. Live a life
of abundance. Keep moving.

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To those of us asking for help, removing all of that negative language
is a good way to start. Stop saying, "Aww man! I totally messed this
up!!" We all make mistakes... and it's sometimes just out of our control.

Also, when posting, make an attempt too assess the situation yourself
and give some options on how you think you can improve and let
everyone critique it.

The more a mPUA on this forum sees that you are studying the material
and actively making an effort to improve and work things out yourself,
the more willing he is going to be to give you advice.

If you are sick of hearing, then guess what? We are sick of telling you it too. Your questions should never be related to "How do I get this one girl?" or "How can I recover to win this one girl?". Sad thing is guys, most of you don't even read the material or want to learn it. You want a quick fix answer that's going to land you in some woman's bed.

Thing is, we can tell you what to say, but we don't know for sure. We can only guess at the best things to say. Only another woman is going to know for sure bro. It would help if you guys would read the material organize your game, and sarge. Then or if you have problems, present us with a situation in your sarge where you are having issues.

I would also suggest mastering each level. I would work A1 till I was a pro, then move to A2 and work that till I was a pro, then the next step, and so on. Quit asking for game "on a silver platter".

In addition, most of the people that ask these questions - they've already known the woman for months or even years sometimes. Its really hard to break that initial impression, thats the most powerful thing to women, and theres little that anyone can do about it.

Johan, I understand your frustration, but there's a reason that those of us who have some experience give the advice that we give.

With a one-itis, you DO need to move on. That accomlishes you moving forward in your life and also lets the girl see that you have other options, and girls NEED to see that you have other options.

I think a lot of what you are saying is right. But I don't think you need to interact with a lot of girls to bring your numbers up. I simply think that you need to notice which girls notice you and you can increase your percentage from 3 out of 10 to 8 or 9 out of 10. Girls don't really care what you say in the first few minutes don't be to absurd obviously.

Noticing is the males biggest problem, we don't notice when a girl gives us a opening, for them it is obvious, any girl can tell when another girl notices you. Happened to me the other night, there is a 10.5 that comes in my work a Russian girl(who's a sweetheart) with haunting blue eyes and a narley body, I didn't notice she was checking me out but the girl next to me did, and said that I should ask her out. P.S. Her mom is even hot. Most guys haven't got a clue when they are noticed.

As far as the one-itis, I don't think that it is as big a problem as you guys make it out to be. There are a lot of girls out there each offering some positivity and negativity. Every girl has something special about them. If you see other girls then you would know that their are some other interesting prospects out there.

Also don't get stuck on one girl for the simple fact that when a human knows they can have that person there is a huge loss in incentive. Now if that girl notices that you are a "hot" commodity meaning that you can get a lot of girls, then they realize that you are "in demand", they need to know why.

I have had girls who were attracted to me but they didn't necessarily like me, but started to like me a lot because they found out about other girls. She notice a change in my persona when I started dating other girls.

If you want to be able to get that one girl, you better show you can get multiple others or you don't appear attractive as a mate. You seem more like a cat fish eating shit off the bottom, you don't have a lot of choices. If your confidence is high with other girls, that girl will notice. I get hit on a lot when girls know I am dating other girls, something is different in my persona. My confidence is high because I know I don't need them, you have to build from the ground up. Start with some other girls then work your way to that girl. You will notice though that every girl has something to offer.

Millionaires don't become millionaires in a day. PUA don't just walk out and get laid their first night.

My thoughts exactly.

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Girls do not get to choose me. I choose them.

Girls notice me when they think "I just met this guy and I already want to tear his clothes off? WTF...."

When you figure that out, you will know why.

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Double Your Dating by DD
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http://www.freewebs.com/xfman/
(This will work on your outer game)

Don't get discouraged, it is a simple solution for a situation that you think is in dire need to be resolved. What everyone says is true, you need to move on, you will have your chance to come back to the girl, if you so choose, but for the most part you will understand that she may not be the prize you are seeing in your mind at this moment. It is advise given through experience, and trust me females do it to guys all the time as well, you say something stupid and they drop you like a hot potato, you come back a bit later with more experience and they forget why they didn't like you the last time. The quicker you move on, the more experience you will gain, this is after all a PICKING UP forum, meaning you will go up to many people not just stick to one. Once you find the one that is right for you then by all means you can settle *shivers*.

Good luck and happy hunting

P.S. When you get angry and discouraged that something is not working, for the most part you are not studying or putting forth your full efforts. Don't be angry at the others that are spending their time to help others.

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So, SOOOO true. Damn, I wish I could always tell when a girl was checking me out, lol.
Yeah, yeah, yeah. Ok, mPUA. Yes, you are right in that mentally we choose the girls we want. But there's a LOT more to the dynamic than that. And then I read your second line . . . omg what an ego. Girls don't want an EGO, they want a confident leader. Now, a confident leader COULD actually say something like that and make it work, but a guy with an ego would say that very line and look like just that . . . a guy with an overinflated ego. Yes, I know, you're gonna say, "I don't SAY that line." And that's not the point at all. But, you won't get the point, will you?

Ok you are absolutely intoxicated if you think you choose her every time. Women send us IOIs that we don't even notice(submissive eyes, fast blink rate, open palms, dilated eyes, leaning, leg signals, neck showing, smile, open mouth). You do not choose them because ultimately they have their choice period. Yes you can do things that influence a girl liking you but she must choose you, otherwise we call it RAPE.

I get eyed as much as anyone probably 15-20 times at work that I NOTICE. If you get one girl you put off an aura, a persona, other girls will notice, you have to start at the bottom floor to get to the top floor unfortunately. You may have to start with average girls, but these average girls are just a step up to the top. My point is that if you get confidence by starting with girls you can have easily. Then you will put off that aura and be able to get more girls and more girls, simply by your confident body language. You will be noticed.

That said I have a great batting average, I don't bat .300, I bat closer to .800 or .900 because I notice which girls that I can have. There is no need to build attraction it is already there. That makes me confident which puts off an attitude that gives many plenty of "options". Now yes I can walk up to a girl who doesn't send me IOIs and get results, but you are again playing numbers game. I have great options, hot girls send me IOIs everyday. I don't need to waste my time on the plastic girl(artificial, materialistic, etc.), or bitch shielded girl, because I can find an amazing girl that would require little to no effort. As I get more confidence more girls send IOIs.

You play your game of walking up to 10 girl to get 5 and that is fine(1 for 2 ain't bad), but a guarantee is nice. I play a risk free game and do plenty for myself. I walk up to girls that have been wanting to talk to me. For those of you who don't get looks all the time(ugly) I can understand playing a numbers game. Usually though it is your attitude, body language(confidence), and the way you dress that attracts girls, not necessarily your face.

Becoming a master pick up artist is cool and I appreciate the idea about walking up to a girl and picking up on one you "choose" but when you are already passed the screening test, then it is much easier to have them. Usually you can also use these girls as leverage, talking to them will not only bring your confidence and value up but also make you more noticed by other girls including your target.

My tactics are sound, you can "choose" from your "options" and find some beautiful women. In most cases I overlook or don't look at ugly and fat girls so I don't notice IOIs from them(I only notice good looking girls). Usually my selection includes 7s-10s and I am fine with settling from your point of view. Again it is all a circle as your confidence goes up so do your options.