hey

me and my gf spent too much time together lately. we had agreed to go out together last friday. when i came home i got an email. she wanted some time off, she said she needed it. I was like, "ok fine (K)".
we would go out this saturday instead.
well.. this is what happened.
last friday (yesterday) she went with her girlfriend to go out after all. i got a short text message that she was going out and she was sorry that i couldnt be there.
I didnt reply cuz i had a bad feeling about it. in the night i couldnt sleep so at 1.30 am i sent her a textmessage "have fun sweetheart(K)" (she was probably in the club at that time.
Im totally not sure wtf is going on. :S i was going to see her today but i havent heard a thing yet. its 12 am here. usually we talk to each other in the morning on msn.
she lives 2 hours away so thats fucked up.


I think i lost her attraction big time. she still likes me of that im sure. how to spark it back on.

grtz

same thing here bro

try goin out to places that are fun and interactive... not movies
be how u used to be when u just started seeing each other
also when u do get her attention back, u can start acting bored and NOT needy, have u been doin everythin she asks lately? think of u have been doin and ull find the problem
hope that helps

dude, it will be hard to do, but talk to her less! make her get in the spot youre in! thats what you want. you want her asking herself "i wonder what hes doing" and all that. you dont need her as bad as she needs you and thats how it will get better. thats how its worked for me back in the day. i know better now from the get go to let it get that way. just remember that you dont need her as bad as she needs you. and believe it.

when i met her i liked her right away. but i didnt say a word i was kinda mysterious.
my wingman did all the work. he started talking and be nice and went for the mr nice guy brother kinda friend.
i only gave her some looks, and i really fell in love with her. and she with me. but lately ive spent too much time with her talking too much and put myself in the brother position. thats whats fkdup.
but ive talked to her again. she said she missed me yesterday and that she regrets not inviting me over cuz she wanted to spent some time with her friend but her friend had her boyfriend also with her.

im a happy man again i love her so much. she's one in a million

WHOA WHOA WHOA . . . . . . . . .

Ok, that night when she texted you and said she's sorry you couldn't be there . . . what I would have done is sent a text back saying "why are you sorry"? That's it. Nothing more. Just to see why she was "sorry" that you "couldn't be there". Probably would have changed that whole interaction from that point on that night.

Now, WTF is up with that? Either her friend's b/f doesn't like you or he's fucking both of them. Which is it? If he's fucking both of them, you need to ditch this girl ASAP. If it's just that he doesn't like you . . . AND YOU'RE GIRL IS PUTTING UP WITH THAT, that's bullshit. You're girl should put YOU over this other jerk. Man, in THIS instance, you are definitely being AFC, because you're putting up with her doing that to you. And make no mistake, SHE is doing this TO YOU.

First, I disagree with Tripp's automatic judgement of the situation. It really depends on the tone and context of this message to determine the true meaning. If she said, "I really regret not inviting you over, but I wanted to hang out with my friend and her BF" then yeah, ditch her. BUT if she said, "I really regret not inviting you over because I was hanging out with my friend, but then she brought her bf!" THEN she's basically saying that she wished you were there as her guy and she felt left out because her friend and the guy were probably being all lovey dovey the whole time. Gotta remember, words are only 7% of the message here, tone is 38% and we don't even have a chance to guess her body language here.

Secondly, get rid of your oneitis. I don't know if its just this one girl, or if you're just still getting stuck on any girl you start to like, but STOP IT NOW! If you don't, you have no hope of becoming a pua.

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