I’m still working my way through RSD- which is awesome and I highly recommend it to anyone who hasn’t seen it. It talks about so much stuff that I have been completely unaware of until now, but has been staring me in the face the whole time. I do not intend to read any further into technique after this. I am going to focus on inner game and just getting out there and thinking fuck it- and going for it. Good article below that relates:

http://www.puatraining.com/puablog/2011 ... ng-action/

I’m also reading Tolle-The Power Of Now. Which is incredible and again I highly recommend this. I know that my ego and the risk of it being damaged is the thing that stops me from doing the things I want to. This is changing, more so lately than ever. I plan to move onto “Mastering Your Hidden Self-A Guide To The Huna Way” next.

I have also started doing breathing exercises daily, and meditating also. I realise now that I have actually been meditating for a few months without considering what I was doing to be meditating in any shape or form. Whenever I am feeling overwhelmed or I just want to clear my thoughts and focus I listen to a “virtual thunderstorm” on my Ipod. I close me eyes and concentrate on nothing but the sounds of the rain and the thunder. Eventually other thoughts creep in but I’ve found that I have been able to do it for longer and longer. So I am continuing to do this and other forms of meditation.

As far as sarging is going, confidence is through the roof. I’m approaching all the time. I number closed at the train station during the week. I approached and just started talking. Mentioned that I had seen her in the station and that I would have been very unhappy with myself if I didn’t come and talk to her. I told her that there’s a very high probability that she has a boyfriend (prompt the Boyfriend objection to save time-thanks Sinn) but on the possibility she doesn’t I want to take her out. She laughed and told me she didn’t, and gave me her number.

I went for a drink Thursday night with her but logistics are a problem for me at the moment because I’m living with my parents over the Uni summer break. I didn’t concentrate too much on “gaming” her, and just focused on having fun. We ended up talking about sex anyway and we share a lot of values so the conversation was very natural. She is very intelligent however, so I think she could be a challenge- but I like challenges. I had to be up at six am the next day so I walked her to her car and kiss her on the cheek and called it a night. I felt her lean in for a kiss as I went in but really wasn’t in the right mindset.

I went out on Friday and again just focused on having fun. It was an odd night. The weather was awful and we hopped venues a lot. Plenty of approaches though. Number closed three times. The first two can’t say much about as they were pretty natural. The second was a French girl and I told her on the approach that I could tell she isn’t English because of the way she held herself in the club. I told her she looked like she was having more fun than most of the girls in here- rather than worrying what she looked like and non-verbally begging for attention from guys. I told her that’s why I wanted to talk to her. Pretty cool girl.
The next was interesting. I was out with Greyfox and he told me about an opener he had just used and we spoke quickly about how hat you say really doesn’t fucking matter. It’s all about state and confidence.

So the approach (4 set).

Hey, girls. I fucking love Giraffes. Don’t you girl’s just fucking love giraffes. I fucking love them. (Greyfox comes in)

GF: Is he fucking talking to you about giraffes again?

I isolated the girl I was after and we spoke for a while, fuck loads of kino. She told me she was sober and I told her that I like girls who don’t have to drink to have fun. Number closed and told her I would steal a giraffe from the zoo, straddle it and pick her up on it.

This opener is ridiculous. But it highlights a good point. That once you’re completely confident in yourself (something I’m working on). A state of self that is impenetrable- what you say really doesn’t fucking matter. The good thing about a “stupid” opener like this is that a girl who responds to it is likely to be open minded- something I look for in a girl. It’s a good screening method. Girls who responds with something like “What the fuck are you talking about?” I know I’m not really going to be into anyway.

I’m back. Briefly, but I am back and I thought I’d quickly update the journal with a few things I have learned. I’ve just returned from a holiday in Spain. It was a “Lads Holiday” with some friends from Uni, a lot of drinking and partying. We were in spain but a lot of the people there were English. I was fucking fearless the whole holiday, approaching everyone.

There was a big group of us, staying in a small villa- logistics were a nightmare. I didn’t get any full closes and whilst I can tell you plenty of interesting stories as to why - Essentially I didn’t close and I will draw the line there. I know what I did wrong in each situation and so have learned from it.

Since I was drinking so much while on holiday and hence wasn’t really on the ball- I wanted to use it as an opportunity to really push my luck. Again, fearless approaching- big groups, mixed sets, seated sets, dancing sets- anything and everything. No lines whatsoever, which was great. Just going in with the right level of energy and a high level of confidence and essentially just being a fun guy to be around.

I’ve learnt a lot about disarming guys. A lot of the mixed sets I approached were groups of friends on holiday together and I found that initially the guys were very protective. I found that a great way to get around this is to either approach the guy first. Or approach the girl; create interest/ attraction and then talk to the guy(s) in the group. Everyone’s favourite subject is themselves so show enough interest in the guy; charm, compliment and build comfort with him whilst also making sure he knows you’re an Alpha and you’re good to go.

On a few occasions girls were opening me. Sometimes I opened for the group of guys I was with. I was on holiday with a good bunch of guys-all Essex boys. They are all ok with talking to women but didn’t have to confidence to open big groups, so often I was doing this for them and getting thanked in return.

One or two of the guys in our group knew a small bit of game IOI’s etc and so sometimes if groups of girls were showing IOI’s we purposely wouldn’t open to see if they tried harder. And they did! Fucking IOI’s flying all over the place. The IOI’s got more and more explicit until we were cracking up and then we opened.

Once in set I was really trying to push my luck. I was being incredibly direct just to see what I could get away with. I knew if ever had nothing to lose, this was it. I did push it a bit too far with some girls. In fact one girl I managed to upset decided to follow me all night telling every girl I spoke to what a prick I was, haha. Terrible, terrible blow out but I’m glad it happened because I don’t think I’ll have a blow out that bad ever again, and even that I just shrugged off and laughed at.

I worked dance floor game a bit, trying to just be dominant. I ask girls (friends) a lot about guys trying to pickup them up (would seriously recommend this). And every girl I’ve spoke to says they can tell when a guy is lingering, and that they’d prefer if he just came straight to them to ask for the dance/number etc.

I’ve learned that you have to remember girl’s names. Or at least let them know that you’re not good with names. I had perfect game with this Scottish HB8, probably my best approach so far- I went back in, disarmed some guys she was with and asked for their names- she asked if I could remember hers. I couldn’t and her face just completely dropped-bad news.

The boys I was with had a fantastic way of looking at blow outs. Since most of them were doing approaches too- they looked at getting blown out like a custard pie to the face. Ridiculous I know. But it made getting blown out so fun- not scary, or awful- fun! If one of us got blown out. The rest of the group would whip up an imaginary custard pie and throw it in their face.

We also did intentional blow outs at the start of each night. I’d seriously recommend this. Pick a hot girl, approach and just fuck yourself up completely. Because afterwards you feel completely enlightened-knowing that it cannot possibly get any worse.

Anyway, the holiday- no full closes, number closes and make outs. But a hell of a lot learnt.

Finally, I want to share an NLP technique for state that a friend taught me. Let’s call it the circle of identity. So state, everyone wants to be in state when they go out.

Gambler mentions using music, affirmations and gestures to get into state and this is similar but with anchors and visualtions too.

So you stand up straight, alpha body language all the way. Music too if you want. And you draw a big circle on the floor with your finger. This is your circle of identity. Then you start to tell yourself affirmations. “I am confident” “I approach the women I am attracted to without hesitation” etc. Each affirmation you throw into the circle. You keep throwing things in. Physically replicate the throw too. After affirmations you start to associate all the positive things that are a part of your identity “charisma” “mystery” etc. Throw those in too.

You visualise all of these things as something tangible in the circle, light for example. Then, you step in the circle and imagine all of these things smothering you, swirling around you, like energy, you imagine that you are completely covered in all of these things. Then you start to breathe them in. You breathe them in and they are a part of you. Then you anchor them (pull on your ear, click your fingers etc. –you decide.) Anyway- a great way to get into state. Enough practice and just the anchor should be enough.

Anyway, hope some of this is useful.