I know before some of you finish reading this, you'll just say "move on." But maybe you guys would like a challenge!

Long story short; met a 19 year old girl (who was a virgin!) and things were perfect. Two weeks later, she moves 3 hours away from me for four months since she was only here for school. We decide to stay dedicated. I go up there the first time after 3 weeks then seduced her, took her virginity, and went back home. We text/message each other everyday.

I go up there again, a month later, and have sex with her multiple times. Things seem great!

Just about a week ago, she calls me and dumps me, claiming that the "feeling" has faded, but would like to see where we are when she moves back into town. Totally mind-blowing as it came out of nowhere. Especially since the week before, she was texting me about how she wanted to give me a BJ. Whole relationship was 2.5 months long.

Part of the reason why was because she found a blog of mine (a business) about how to attract and have sex with women (though I'm not really into that lifestyle completely, but she thought I was a player, which is untrue). But on the whole, she lost her emotions for us (but isn't every break up essentially this way?)

I know most of you would say move on, and I have. I've been dating already. But any suggestions on my game when she gets back into town? I've cut all ties with her and we ended on decent terms. She thinks I'm okay with the breakup.

Without saying, 'move on,' I'd like to hear what you guys would do if you HAD to re-seduce her.

Dude.. What you need to do is:

When she gets back into town.. Make it clear you want to see her.. You need to give her a lot of attention about her arrival.. But not too much so that she feels like she has no space to breathe upon arrival.. You have to treat the relationship as if its new.. Dazzle her.. Take her on a few dates.. Don't attempt to spend to much time with her.. Keep it short and sweet.. She'll soon be charmed and hopefully care less for the reason she broke it off with you in the first place. If she does bring up the 'issue'.. Simply roll with it.. Give a genuine reason as to why you had the blog.. as long as it portrays you to be an innocent person..! She needs to think it's in the past.. And that the person she is with now.. is the new and improved version.. Don't beg it with her.. But remind her what charmed her in the first place.. Remember to play it cool.. Good Luck.

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Move on.

Seriously, though, the problem here is that she feels like she's a science experiment. You need to prove to her that she's valuable, and for more than sex! Take her on a date or two, where you don't even hint at sex. Be flirty, be fun, don't fall into the friend zone, but you need to prove you aren't just around her for sex. Only then can you introduce it again, building up to it slowly through some heavy Kino.

Stop fucking virgins

I'm in a similar situation. I met a girl who goes to my school while we were away in Wyoming taking a university course. Things went really well and we decided that after the course, we wanted to stay together and stay exclusive. We only knew eachother for a month before we decided this and she only lives 2 hours away. Also we will be back together in school in less than 2 months. But i'm just worried the feeling will fade before we get back. When things were going well with you and her, how did you keep it there? I don't have a blog about seducing women, so I'm not worried about that ruining things haha

And I'd take Muhammed's advice. Good idea.

I love this forum! Thanks for the replies guys. I'll most likely bump this thread around September with hopefully good news. Until then, I'll continue sarging.

Everyone therefore recommends I hold off contact until she comes back? It is two months... which is a very long time. She did break it off with me too, which makes me hesitant to every contact her and make myself look like a wuss.
I would take my advice with a grain of salt since she did end up breaking things up with me. She said things started to go downhill when she saw my business online, though...

What I did was when I did contact her, I would light up her imagination. I would tell her about where I'd like to go when I was with her. I would talk about travel plans, but be descriptive. I would talk sexually to her as often as it seemed appropriate (which, in my case, probably didn't help too much as it further supported the image that I was a sleaze.). But I kept the sexual tension going.

I think I might have made the mistake of texting her too much. We texted everyday. I would respond to her texts immediately, all the time, because we actually had interesting conversations through text. I think I made myself too available to her in this sense.

I think you should contact her once or twice over that 2 month period to show that you didn't completely forget about her and that it wasn't just ANOTHER loss or something like that. If you are trying to prove to her that you wanted more then just sex and that she wasn't just some science experiment, I feel as though you need to express some interest in keeping things stable. But don't constantly try to contact her and keep it simple.

I like that advice. Her and I wanna go backpacking over the summer, so I sometimes bring that up. I am definitely gonna pursue that and make some plans for us. Just I am worried because I am free most of summer and she is the one going on trips with her family, but I don't want to give her the lead on this trip ya know.

And I know exactly what you mean about texting too much. Her and I have long conversations through texts that will go the whole day. However, I never really text back right away. I do this with just about anyone who texts me. Most times I'll get a text and be doing something and then I'll respond a few hours later. She is the exact same way, and at times I worry that since we can't see eachother often, a lack of texts will harm the relationship and if I were to ever attempt a freeze out, it would be really unsuccessful.

O yea, I know what you mean about loving this site. I've been to a lot of different forums on various topics over the years and this one has a great community.

Thanks, but I think now she knows she wasn't used for just sex. It has little to do with my business as so much she just sort of lost that feeling for me. Do you still suggest contacting her just a couple times?

"contacting her a couple of times, still" after she broke up with you is stalking. it will take time to get over this girl emotionally - or any girl. one thing that has helped was erasing the girl's phone, email, fb, message history and all contact information so that i could not even find her if i wanted to contact her. also blocking her on fb and email and text and phone so that if she does call, u will not get the call, has in the past made it easier to stop obsessing about contacting a girl that has made it clear that is over.

Nah, she said she wanted to talk eventually...and that she wanted to see what would happen in September. I haven't messaged her once yet.

Anybody else have any feedback? Thank you so much! If something actually happens, I wouldn't mind sending you a gift or some shit like that! That would just make my day!

i haven't slept with a virgin in 19 years.

forgotten what it's like.

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