I would just like to get your guys opinion about an ex girlfriend who is basically talking a whole bunch of crap on me on facebook and making some outlandish comments as well about her life in general.

We've defriended each other for about two months, but she still talks about how bad I treated her. Never really did anything bad, we just didnt get along and split.

But I got friends and family asking me about the stuff shes posting and I really dont want to deal with it. Any advice or ideas on what is going on in her head?

Shes obviously upset and hurt, but isnt bad mouthing on the regular a little bit crazy?

oh shit.

been there.

done that.

fairly recently.

be careful.

this bitch might be hostile.

you might want to get a ppo against her if she is going buck-fucking-wild and saying you mistreated her.

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haha...i dont know if i need to get anything official yet....i just think shes venting, but she does say how horribly i treated her, which i dont really understand....funny thing is that i saw her a couple weeks ago at the bar and she was really nice and then started texting me, but blew up when i only responded with a one word text....i just want to know if these are serious signs of a crazy one

yes, those are serious signs of a crazy one.

do me a favor:

search for my thread on "signs of an emotionally manipulative woman" in this thread, see if it describes her.

my ex did those exact same things you talked about, and she was insane.

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I've searched and can't find. Maybe I'm having a blonde moment. I'm not even blonde but you get the drift If you guys have a quick link could you post it? I'd love to read it...

Thank you!

Wow Mack. That's a very good article. I noticed some things about an ex of mine that relates to it. For example even though we were only going out at like 2 months at the time she never once put her hand in her pocket.

I noticed this and started doing things like if her drink was gone and mine was too I would go up and get one for myself. She would then have to go and get her own. Then next round I would offer to go up for her to the bar if she has the money. I didn't do this enough though on dates after that.

All the other emotional stuff these type of girls can inflict on you; she did it to me. Now she's trying to get me back after almost a year of not dating. (Something I constructed as posted in a previous thread by me, for revenge? because I want her back? I do not know.)

But after reading your article I will definetly "test" her to see if she has changed or not. I'm going to let her pursue me, always. I'm not going to chase "and make it up to her" (as stated these types do in your article.)

Suddenly she's crazy about me again. Alarm bells??? lol. Anyways, not this time. This time I'm the fucking man. I might just flirt with this scenario so I can learn first hand if she is this type of girl or not because it will help in ways in the future.

Hey OP, in terms of advice about how to compose yourself in this situation, there is really only one way to do it: ignore. Ignore, ignore, ignore. Any kind of feedback she hears, sees, or assumes will only feed this fire. If your family and friends asks about it, say, "I hope she starts feeling better soon," and drop it. You need to position yourself way above this fiasco for it to die. This means no texting, no answering phone calls, no returning phone calls, no posting anything suggestive on Facebook, no complaining about her to friends or acquaintances... and if you happen to see her somewhere, be polite, be courteous, but by all means be as brief as you can.

If she starts getting intrusive, physically, definitely consider stronger legal action as Mack suggested. I think you can avoid that by ignoring her completely, but you never know.

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take it didn't end well if use befriended each other on facebook

Been there, done that also. Bitches can be down right crazy.

Best advice having gone through that same shit is to diffuse it by down playing it. You are dealing with an emotional manipulator just as Mack stated. You can't win by fighting back because it will only fan the flames of the fires she starts.

The good news is when someone trash talks someone else it makes THEM look like an asshole. UNLESS you give those claims validity by getting defensive about them.

example:

If someone said to you "omg, you molest kids in the park!!!" and it wasn't true, you would just look at them funny and say "uh, i don't know what the hell you are talking about, please leave me alone". Some one might over hear and believe it for a minute, but when they see you don't get nervous or angry or bother to defend yourself they will just think that other person is dilusional.

Now replace "omg, you molest kids!" with "omg he beat me!" or "omg he lies about everything" or whatever. It's the same shit, and the more you react to it, the more you give it value.

Now in the extreme situation where this chick IS actually lying her ass off and saying you are a rapist and woman beater and all kinds of horseshit, make her prove it with a restraining order against her and a civil suit for liable. You'd be amazed how quickly people shut the hell up when they realize that free speach doesn't mean the right to say anything and everything their crazy brains come up with.

If however she is a crazy ass bitch to the core, be prepared for her to ignore the law and do it anyway. In which case you can just have her crazy ass locked up and beaten and raped daily by women twice her size who don't shave. I definately call that justice.

Just rember none of that works if you play her game and fight fire with fire. You have to show that you did NOTHING to instigate it and that make people doubt her words as crazy and exaggerated.

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