haha havent seen swingers but ill have to check that out

thanks for ure advice guys

i called her and we talked for about 3.5 hrs. I guess ill wait for her to message me again or call me, or should i text her sometime again in a few days? It was a fun convo no serious stuff and i didint say anything about the break up or getting back together. She was laughing the whole time. so i guess ill stay steady..

Well it sounds to me like she wants to play around and have some fun for a while, and not be in a relationship. Most women with children actually go through this stage at around 24-28 years old. Her child is 8 so she most likely has her pre-baby body back, plus she's older and more confident now. I would recommend that you stay away and give her some time to be on her own so she can discover what she really wants in life and a relationship. She'll either find someone else, or come back to you. Good luck!

cool. Thing is she mentioned multiple times how she never gets text messages, and dosn't hang out with anyone besides her kid and her niece. I didin't bring it up at all, she even talks about how she "live in a cave" and dosn't go out or anything. To be completely honest, since we broke up she has gained weight, and yes shes a very attractive women. But she even didint have anyone to go to the concert with so she didint get the tickets (the same one i invited her to)


Ok here's the thing, I cant recall from last night if she was going to the concert or not. I mean it seemed like she was down but i cant remember if she actually said yes. We talked about so much stuff I remember she brought it up and bits and pieces here.

sooo.. do i fkn call her and re-check? In respects... (cough cough) we both smoked the green while we were on the phone. So that happened then I forgot everything after. lol retarded yah... So call her? and/or ask her if her neice or nephew wants to go to? (considering she said she was considering buying the tickets herself and her neice said she would go with her but she decided not to last second)

pls advize

Only buy the two tickets. If she wants to bring her niece along, then that's fine, but she can buy the ticket. Only having two tickets will make it feel more like a date, which means we're heading in the right direction, and if this falls through, you can find another girl to go with after all. If you have 3 tickets and it falls through, then what?

I know it's going to be hard to do objectively, (so if you can't, you won't get any flack from me), but try to make these two possibilities equally appealing in your mind. Either way, you're going to be spending the evening with a good looking girl who likes you, so it shouldn't matter which. For now at least.

thanks for the advice man, all a mental game

So im pretty damn sure shes going with me, considering I dont FK it up before then lol

So we talked that night (thursday) for close to 4 hrs. Monday she texts me happy 4th and text chat a little. She keeps saying stuff like "youd look sexy with" and "you tan thats hot" sorta thing. It could just be her personality but i dont know.

So should i call her maybe wednesday night? Just to talk sorta thing? So far your guys advice has given me some progression so im willing to listen, just playing it cool right now...and gaining more confidence and realizing more by the day